Platonic limerence: how do board members define their personal relationship to the Lady Vols

[stllvf]

I am old - 86 and a fan when the coaches and fans washed the uniforms and have enjoyed in the earlier years of knowing the coaches and players as human beings. I attended five final-fours, sat on the third row directly behind the bench. watched practices and the PHS coaching. ( be totally quiet) Right time to be a fan .

I would be interested if any board members, who are frequently on this site, believe they have platonic limerence with the LV basketball team?


Just learned the term from a recent thread Platonic limerence?? and got an AI response

Platonic limerence is best understood as limerence without romantic or sexual desire — an intense, obsessive emotional fixation on someone you’re not actually trying to date. The core experience is the same as romantic limerence: intrusive thoughts, emotional dependence, longing for reciprocation, and heightened sensitivity to the other person’s signals. The difference is simply where the desire points: toward emotional closeness, validation, or admiration rather than romance or sex.

What Platonic Limerence Is​

Platonic limerence is an obsessive infatuation with a non‑romantic individual, marked by:

• Persistent, intrusive thoughts about the person
• Longing for emotional closeness without sexual attraction
• Mood swings tied to their attention or lack of it
• Idealization of the person as uniquely special
• Emotional dependence and difficulty focusing on other relationships

It often feels like an attentional addiction — your mind keeps returning to the person automatically, even when you don’t want it to.

Why It’s Confusing​

Platonic limerence can be more confusing than romantic limerence because:

• There’s no clear “goal” (no romantic relationship to pursue)
• It often attaches to authority figures (bosses, mentors, teachers) or idealized peers
• It doesn’t fit socially accepted narratives of “falling in love”
• It can feel isolating because it’s hard to explain why a friend or colleague has such emotional power over you

 

[lvocd]

Interesting!

I’ve always publicly jokingly (even through my screen name) said that I have Lady Vol Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, but it’s probably more of a Magnificent Obsession.

 

[WaywardVol]

Is there a way to put an entire thread on ignore???

 

[lvocd]

Is there a way to put an entire thread on ignore???

Of course! You just don’t open it.

 

[Special Ed]

Unfortunately, my adoration for the Lady Vols over the years has been unrequited.

Candace Parker: Call Me!

 

[WaywardVol]

Of course! You just don’t open it.

Some things are so pathetic, you’d prefer to keep out of your vision.

 

[lvocd]

Some things are so pathetic, you’d prefer to keep out of your vision.

Life is short, Wayward. You might want to relax a little and not get so bothered by silly things such as a thread topic you don’t care for.

 

[larjoranj]

There once was an old softball coach,
And a player she had to approach,
My dear you can't hit,
Your swing's not worth sh*t,
Please leave town on the next stagecoach.


Oh wait, you said Limerence? my bad

 

[alexvol]

Been a Vol fan since 1948 when my Dad was the Project Manager for the construction of lower bowl South End Zone of Neyland Stadium.In the next three years of that construction, I met many members of the Football Team and General Neyland and became close friends with many of them,ie Doug Atkins came to watch me play Biddy Basketball.This led me to attend the University of Tennessee twice ( 1957 -1961 ,BS Civil Engineering and 1966-67 when the Army sent me from South Viet Nam combat zone back to get my Masters Civil Engineering ) .In 1979 I was invited to attend the Lady Vol Basketball team practice and met Pat Summitt and instantly became a Lady Vol fan for life.Through the years when I was back in the United States from an Army tour in Germany ,Panama or with the Navy in Antarctica ( attached to Navy as Construction and Maintenance Officer for all US facilities in Antarctica such as South Pole,McMurdo,Bryd Station ,etc ),etc I would attend practice and meet with Coach Summitt and attend games when I could .This led to me also becoming a Lady Vol fan in all other sports as well .....especially the Softball team After retirement from Army in 1989 ( after 28 years ) ,I was able to attend many games of both Vol /Lady Vol games and practices ......became friends with Coach Fulmer and family and continued friendship with Coach Summitt.So in summary ,I love all Vol/Lady Vol sports and will until I return to help fertilize the soil in the United States of America.

And oh by the way I am 87 years young and the time for me to expire may be near......

 

[gule]

Don't check out until you finish writing your autobiograpy(sp?) Mr. Alex. Sounds to me like you've had an amazingly full life trip and I for one would love to read more! God Bless!!!

 

[ArmchairQB]

There once was an old softball coach,
And a player she had to approach,
My dear you can't hit,
Your swing's not worth sh*t,
Please leave town on the next stagecoach.


Oh wait, you said Limerence? my bad

There once was a message board group
Fixated on Lady Vols hoops
Some of the old timers
Said folks need a primer on taste
And folks were thrown for a loop

Some will say “think of our daughters”
When comments are in murky waters
A post, when coquettish,
Can come off as fetish
And good tact? They just think we ought’er

 

[37620VOL]

I used to have limerence, but after multiple rounds of antibiotics, it went away

 

[chuckiepoo]

Is there a way to put an entire thread on ignore???

Put the OP on ignore. Never see it again. Problem solved. You will see notes when you come across individual posts but nothing on the forum listing for threads.

I only have one poster on ignore. I’m willing to go the quick scroll route.

 

[Special Ed]

There once was an old softball coach,
And a player she had to approach,
My dear you can't hit,
Your swing's not worth sh*t,
Please leave town on the next stagecoach.

Couldn't you have worked Nantucket in there somewhere?

 

[chuckiepoo]

Couldn't you have worked Nantucket in there somewhere?

Okay. I wasn’t going to go there, but ya dun it. Carol Yoakley (-Terrell) in her explanation of the limerick poetic form, stated clearly that vulgarity was generally invoked, if not explicitly, then via double entendre. Extra credit would be awarded for entendre. Here was my entry:

There once was a tree surgeon named Lee,
Caught an agile young wench up a tree,
Said she, “Shift your whopper,
You careless limb lopper,
That’s a moss covered knot hole, not me.”

Not only A+ but was asked to read it aloud to the class. My literary crowning achievement!

 

[alexvol]

Don't check out until you finish writing your autobiograpy(sp?) Mr. Alex. Sounds to me like you've had an amazingly full life trip and I for one would love to read more! God Bless!!!

I haven't planned to write an autobiography but I do have a few stories to tell from time to time to friends and associates.