Coach used a bad name for Womens basketball

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governmentmule

governmentmule

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the C word,for DBs womens basket ball team in a practice,I was just made aware of this recently, what should I so about this ?
I promised not to call and say anything to the school,because of fear for retaliation from the coach or school for the player, I think this happened around Oct or so of last year
Is there some other avenue of a complaint to use ? I can't really call them without them knowing who it is,any input would be appreciated
 
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governmentmule said:
the C word,for DBs womens basket ball team in a practice,I was just made aware of this recently, what should I so about this ?
I promised not to call and say anything to the school,because of fear for retaliation from the coach or school for the player, I think this happened around Oct or so of last year
Is there some other avenue of a complaint to use ? I can't really call them without them knowing who it is,any input would be appreciated
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school board...anonymous email from something like concernedparentofbasketballplayer@gmail.com
 
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As a coach, I have a lot of intensity and occassionally things slip out of my mouth. Happened to me yesterday. I apologized even though it wasn't direct at a player. Be a man and talk to the coach about it. Find out the whole story. If you are going to complain, use your name and don't be a pansy. The coach will figure out who it was and it will affect your child more than if you just go talk to coach yourself. Also, when children get mad at a coach they bring up everything to get you mad at the coach so you will retailate. Last year I had a kid go tell his dad I cussed him and said somethings way over the line. The father called and was going to kick my arse. When I pulled in the next morning, both he and his son where there waiting to apologize. His son had fabricated the story and put everyone in a bad situation. Not saying using the "C" word was right but have a backbone and confront the coach about it. Don't weasel your way around the situation that happened forever ago because you or your child is now upset at the coach for a separate reason.
 
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Anonymous emails are for the C word that the coach used.
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NCVol94 said:
As a coach, I have a lot of intensity and occassionally things slip out of my mouth. Happened to me yesterday. I apologized even though it wasn't direct at a player. Be a man and talk to the coach about it. Find out the whole story. If you are going to complain, use your name and don't be a pansy. The coach will figure out who it was and it will affect your child more than if you just go talk to coach yourself. Also, when children get mad at a coach they bring up everything to get you mad at the coach so you will retailate. Last year I had a kid go tell his dad I cussed him and said somethings way over the line. The father called and was going to kick my arse. When I pulled in the next morning, both he and his son where there waiting to apologize. His son had fabricated the story and put everyone in a bad situation. Not saying using the "C" word was right but have a backbone and confront the coach about it. Don't weasel your way around the situation that happened forever ago because you or your child is now upset at the coach for a separate reason.
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You have four sentences to go on, and you've callled the poster a pansy and assumed there is a reason other than the only one he stated that he should be upset.

Not sure that makes you the best candidate to take advice from.
 
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governmentmule said:
the C word,for DBs womens basket ball team in a practice,I was just made aware of this recently, what should I so about this ?
I promised not to call and say anything to the school,because of fear for retaliation from the coach or school for the player, I think this happened around Oct or so of last year
Is there some other avenue of a complaint to use ? I can't really call them without them knowing who it is,any input would be appreciated
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Unless you have a daughter on the women's team and he was specifically directing it towards her then just let it go in my opinion.

Unless you work for the politically correct police or the greater East Tennessee cussing patrol I don't see much here to get inflamed about.

If someone is going to report every time a coach cusses then good luck with that, because that is going to become your full time job imo.

Knowing the context would also help. In addition, this is third hand gossip, without a perpetrator to pin it on. At this time you have nothing to report.

It would be like me reporting, " I want you to know principal Jones that someone told me that 3 years ago one of your students called another student a F-ing idiot. " No, I didn't hear it myself. No, I don't know who said it. Just thought you needed to know so you could take appropriate steps to contain the outbreak.
 
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Fullfillmer said:
Unless you have a daughter on the women's team and he was specifically directing it towards her then just let it go in my opinion.

Unless you work for the politically correct police or the greater East Tennessee cussing patrol I don't see much here to get inflamed about.

If someone is going to report every time a coach cusses then good luck with that, because that is going to become your full time job imo.

Knowing the context would also help. In addition, this is third hand gossip, without a perpetrator to pin it on. At this time you have nothing to report.
It would be like me reporting, " I want you to know principal Jones that someone told me that 3 years ago one of your students called another student a F-ing idiot. " No, I didn't hear it myself. No, I don't know who said it. Just thought you needed to know so you could take appropriate steps to contain the outbreak.
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Exactly this. You didn't see it or hear it with your own ears so you really have no grounds on which to report such a violation. even if you trust the person that told you, you still cant really do anything about it legally except go talk to the coach. That's what I would do.
 
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Lofton4Three said:
Anonymous emails are for the C word that the coach used.
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Agreed. Approach the coach with the utmost respect and speak with him (not in an accusatory or aggressive tone) and just have a conversation about said topic. If both parties approach the situation like mature adults, everything will be handled accordingly.
 
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NCVol94 said:
As a coach, I have a lot of intensity and occassionally things slip out of my mouth. Happened to me yesterday. I apologized even though it wasn't direct at a player. Be a man and talk to the coach about it. Find out the whole story. If you are going to complain, use your name and don't be a pansy. The coach will figure out who it was and it will affect your child more than if you just go talk to coach yourself. Also, when children get mad at a coach they bring up everything to get you mad at the coach so you will retailate. Last year I had a kid go tell his dad I cussed him and said somethings way over the line. The father called and was going to kick my arse. When I pulled in the next morning, both he and his son where there waiting to apologize. His son had fabricated the story and put everyone in a bad situation. Not saying using the "C" word was right but have a backbone and confront the coach about it. Don't weasel your way around the situation that happened forever ago because you or your child is now upset at the coach for a separate reason.
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she's not my kid,she is a family member though, if she was mine, I would've went to the school and talked to the principal and the coach about it
I personally cuss like a sailor,since I was one,most cussing doesn't bother me at all,there are just some things you don't say to a 15yr old girl,I don't care who you are

I'll find out more next time I go up to Kingsport and talk to her

and a pansy ? I'm a man,watch this

YouTube - Mike Gundy - Im A Man Im Forty, Come After Me
 
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Special Ed said:
No one respects a fink, son.
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now dad,and by the way that should make you around 85 :) I don't want to do it this way and since I've been thinking about it I won't,I would go and talk to the school personally,but I gave my word that I wouldn't,before they would tell me about it and I don't go back on my word,so I need to figure out a way to talk to him,I'll come up with something
 
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I agree that word shouldn't of been used. No one should ever direct any vulgarity at a student athlete, male or female. Especially that towards females. That isn't my issue. My issue is the parent should go talk directly to the coach then progress to the principal. Most coaches would sincerely apologize and accept responsibility for their mistake. If the coach had a unacceptable response, then progress to the athletic director, principal, etc.
 
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NCVol94 said:
I agree that word shouldn't of been used. No one should ever direct any vulgarity at a student athlete, male or female. Especially that towards females. That isn't my issue. My issue is the parent should go talk directly to the coach then progress to the principal. Most coaches would sincerely apologize and accept responsibility for their mistake. If the coach had a unacceptable response, then progress to the athletic director, principal, etc.
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that does make sense
 
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