When I was getting recruited through high school it was a fairly typical experience.
Due to my high school basketball, the typical visit was midday on Saturday through Sunday.
I visited a couple D1-aa at the time schools as well as South Carolina. Basically the way it worked most of the time was get their mid day. Meet the coaches and take a tour of the facilities and the school. There is limited in depth talk on the first day. Its a layed back meet the coaches and other recruits type deal.
Then one of the current players will come and you will meet him as your host and whatnot. Usually there is a couple hours to kill before dinner. Most of the time I have found that you chill with the other recruits and their hosts during this time while you wait for dinner.
Then you go to a good dinner where once again your interacting with the other recruits and the coachs, but still maybe only get a few minutes of one on one time.
After that it was kinda up to you and your host to figure out what was next. The majority of my recruiting visits lead to me getting pretty drunk and going to parties around campus. Now it was apparrent that everyone was being nice to you, and they pretty much introduce you to every female they can while at the party. At the bigger schools there are certainly more girls that wanna jump all over the next big thing.
After this depending on how things went at the party you usually head back to crash at the dorm room or if you had some game (and you usually have much better luck if your already 18, I found that the 17 year olds got limited or no play) then you might stay with a coed.
There were times we were given the option to go to a strip club, but we declined as most guys wanna see campus life, campus parties, and whatnot.
The next morning we had breakfast and this is when a lot of the extensive talking with the coaches would have. I think on 4 of my 5 visits I met with the head coach to talk scholorship (at D1aa schools not every kid is getting a full ride pretty much, and at the time at South Carolina they were in the waiting game for much higher rated prospects so it came to an invitational walk-on and possible scholarship depending on who committed). After I would talk with the head coach I would usually talk extensively with the position coach and get a feel for how I would fit with the team and stuff like that. I have found this to be the meeting that tied me to my eventual school. Meeting the person you hope to be coaching you for the next 4-5 years is a big deal. Talking to them about the offense and where they see you fitting in is huge as well.
Those are my experiences. I ended up at a D1-AA school, but the recruiting process was awesome and I certainly learned a lot.