Best advice your mom or daddy gave you...

[Juanita]

Maybe that's easy if you are looking for a good woman to stick with. Try finding a good man.

 

[Vol524]

1) Son if you are going to be dumb you better be tough!
2) You only get 1 chance to do something right the first time!
3) ALWAYS do your best the person you are cheating is yourself!

 

[tntar heel]

Boy: Character is not what you do when I'm in the room with you, it's what you do when no one is around.

 

[Firebirdparts]

Maybe that's easy if you are looking for a good woman to stick with. Try finding a good man.

I can't even imagine. My wife and joke about it all the time, being hurled into dating by some tragedy at our age. I will say, though, geography is important. Lots of very ugly people in Sullivan County. Maybe different in the south of France.

People used to give lots of advice about finding a mate, and of course when you're not married, you can't understand it. one thing I remember that I could understand is people would say "If you marry a woman you'll be marrying the whole family" and I could understand that. And I actually let it guide my decisions. Of course, your ability to assess families is pretty limited at that age, and then too, the predictable generational boom-and-bust cycle surprises you when it's individuals you actually know. My wife's family, grandmother was from Floyd Country, Va, extreme poverty. Parents generation, all hard working and comfortably well off. Her generation, all lazy and worthless. Can't have everything, I guess.

 

[Juanita]

I can't even imagine. My wife and joke about it all the time, being hurled into dating by some tragedy at our age. I will say, though, geography is important. Lots of very ugly people in Sullivan County. Maybe different in the south of France.

People used to give lots of advice about finding a mate, and of course when you're not married, you can't understand it. one thing I remember that I could understand is people would say "If you marry a woman you'll be marrying the whole family" and I could understand that. And I actually let it guide my decisions. Of course, your ability to assess families is pretty limited at that age, and then too, the predictable generational boom-and-bust cycle surprises you when it's individuals you actually know. My wife's family, grandmother was from Floyd Country, Va, extreme poverty. Parents generation, all hard working and comfortably well off. Her generation, all lazy and worthless. Can't have everything, I guess.

Hope I quoted you right, Firebird. Yes, you cannot have everything. But, you can have something. And I agree. There are are a lot of big ugglies roaming Sullivan County. Maybe we should put an orange shirt on them and stick them on the O Line. Haha

 

[n_huffhines]

My Dad is huge on honesty and that was about as much advice as he ever offered. He's mostly a lead by example guy, not an advice guy. He's actually not good at advice (unless it's financial) and doesn't seem comfortable with offering it.

Random memories affirming this: One time we were almost home from the hardware store and he discovered he hadn't paid for a pair of plug outlet covers (what, $0.75?) and we drove all the way back and paid for them. You see people who don't play the last hole in miniature golf so they can keep their ball and play again. My Dad would never, ever do that. He broke our new TV on Christmas Eve setting it up. The screen totally chipped and it was his fault and instead of telling some lie to Sam's Club, he told them exactly what happened and they still exchanged it. The worst punishment I ever got was him telling me he couldn't trust me anymore because I knew how much trust meant to him.

Recently, I had mold damage in my kitchen and during the insurance co's investigation, I was tempted to not tell the whole truth about a mistake I made that led to the mold damage. I told the complete truth and came to find out later that if I had lied about it, I would have hurt my chances to get it covered.

3 lessons:

1) On the net, it pays to always be honest in your dealings.
2) Your kids are always watching.
3) Your kids won't forget.

 

[tdawgs]

Was 13 and Dad told me" the world doesn't owe you anything. It could care less if you lived in a box under a bridge. You want it , work for it."
Best thing ever said to me.

 

[Juanita]

yes, yes. To tdawgs: Nothing is owed. It is always due. To huff; your kids will always watch if you leave the door open. Sorry, just being ,as my mom says, a sweet bitch.