I honestly don’t understand your perspective on any of those points. How many 30 year old women are making employment decisions on their potential SS benefits 30+ years down the road?I'm not missing the point; I just emphatically disagree with it. If the spousal benefit were so advantageous, more couples would choose to avail themselves of it. I see no evidence, however, that it's been an inducement for anyone at all to leave the labor market.
As for the idea that homemakers are free riders in the Social Security system, I submit that the opposite is in fact true. Social Security was designed to be a "pay as you go" system -- there is no "lock box." Benefits for current workers will ultimately be paid by the two generations that follow them. On balance, families with a stay-at-home parent contribute disproportionately to the cost of keeping the system afloat.
Also, anyone drawing benefits without paying into the system is the definition of a free loader. Pleas help explain why one guy should draw 1.5 times the amount as a peer who’s make equal contributions to the system based on his roommate’s employment choices? My spouse stayed at home until our children were in school and it was the right decision for us. She chose to return to the workforce when she wasn’t providing full time child care. Was the right decision for us but everyone needs to decide what’s right for them. I just don’t understand the logic of why the government should provide your family extra retirement benefits if your partner wants to avoid being in the workplace for 40+ years. Children has nothing to do with that choice