Yes, I really don't understand the distinction that the poster was trying to make. Both cases present a major violation of your institutional responsibility. Tyler was also married so that is that additional violation trust.
There is no way he will ever coach a women's program, particularly in the #metoo era, but even without that:
TS: I would love for your17-18 year old daughter to play for my program.
Parents: And you promise to not have sex with you like you did at LATech.
TS: I promise!
Parents - okay, she is all yours. We are all about forgiveness, live and let live we say!
But for all the Tyler is the next great hope, there is no "coaching gene." Just because his mom was a legend does not mean that TS is by genetic birth right a great coach in waiting.
I'm not excusing Tyler or Pokey. Someone asked what would happen if it was a woman's coach and a men's player, and Pokey was offered as an example. Which doesn't fit. I don't think there are even any theoretical examples because I don't know of any men's programs that have a women's HC.
For the record, I don't believe that Tyler has any business coaching prep girls or women's college basketball. He's done, and I don't think he deserves another shot.
If he wants to try his hand at boys/men's basketball, by all means. But I don't believe any school would risk having him be part of the women's program. Too much of a liability in so many ways.