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Great to hear good news that she is on the path to recovery.

One bit of information: the Netflix series called '13 Lives' based on a novel about a teenage girl who commits suicide is heavily watched by high school / middle school students. Our daughter watched 4 episodes and became upset and agitated. Her school has sent out a warning that parents need be aware of this series. We decided for our daughter that she could only watch any future episodes with us present.
 
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OldandStillaVol said:
Great to hear good news that she is on the path to recovery.

One bit of information: the Netflix series called '13 Lives' based on a novel about a teenage girl who commits suicide is heavily watched by high school / middle school students. Our daughter watched 4 episodes and became upset and agitated. Her school has sent out a warning that parents need be aware of this series. We decided for our daughter that she could only watch any future episodes with us present.
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I have watched this series and I think the message behind it is outstanding. But.. I don't know how I would feel having someone who survived suicide or who has or had suicidal thoughts watch this. The problems that the girl faced are very prevalent today for our teenagers. Some of the problems she faced may seem minor to us adults, but they're very serious to them. Rumors, humiliation, not feeling accepted, bullying, victim shaming, etc. I really don't want to spoil the show for anyone so if you plan on watching it I would stop here......

But the girl got raped and tried to get help, but got victim shamed and pretty much got told by a counselor to get over it. It also at the end shows this girl committing suicide, so this would not be something I would want my kids to see. But I would want them to see and understand the message that the show brought.
 
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vols72 said:
Had a very good last couple of weeks. She's really making a turn. Thursday will be her last IOP session and then she starts monthly sessions. Very proud of how she has worked so hard. It's hard for me to see my baby struggle with this because we all know dad's are fixers and I can't fix this.It's also hard on me having to deal with emotions that I've never had to deal with before. But I guess it makes it easier for me to understand what she's dealing with now. Her mom has suffered from depression and anxiety for years now and I tried to be understanding but until you go through it you just can't. You guys have been so wonderful through this,we may not always get along but we're family and for that I thank you
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This is great to hear! I have a question if you don't mind me asking.. My significant other has been suffering from anxiety/depression for close to a year now.

My question is what have you done to help your wife through her depression and anxiety? I'm the type of person that when I see someone hurting I want to try and help them and fix their problems. But I don't think this is the right approach. I honestly think that I'm smothering her at times because I don't want her to feel the loneliness that her depression makes her feel.
 
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Stoked said:
This is great to hear! I have a question if you don't mind me asking.. My significant other has been suffering from anxiety/depression for close to a year now.

My question is what have you done to help your wife through her depression and anxiety? I'm the type of person that when I see someone hurting I want to try and help them and fix their problems. But I don't think this is the right approach. I honestly think that I'm smothering her at times because I don't want her to feel the loneliness that her depression makes her feel.
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First thing I learned is you can't fix it which is hard for us males because that's what we do. I always tried to be understanding and sympathetic but until I went through it I had no idea. My best advice is to just let her talk/vent when she needs to and just hold her. That will do more for her than anything. You are her comfort and safety. Just let her know your there. Turn the TV off and make her your first priority and she will open up and you will be surprised how close you will become. Our love has grown so much through all this and we ate closer now than ever. If she needs space let her have it no matter how hard it is. Sometimes you just have to let her cry just hold her and left her get it out and then just tell her you love her and are there for her. Her mind is always running a 1000 miles a minute and can't slow down. I have learned that no matter what you do it will never keep her from getting depressed just always be there for her and let her dictate the conversation. Sometimes it's just the little things that will be giant things to her. Buy her some bubble bath and light her some candles turn on some music and leave and let her soak. She will get to where she can't be without you and that my friend is the greatest feeling in the world. Good luck and just remember to let her be her and she will return in kind
 
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vols72 said:
First thing I learned is you can't fix it which is hard for us males because that's what we do. I always tried to be understanding and sympathetic but until I went through it I had no idea. My best advice is to just let her talk/vent when she needs to and just hold her. That will do more for her than anything. You are her comfort and safety. Just let her know your there. Turn the TV off and make her your first priority and she will open up and you will be surprised how close you will become. Our love has grown so much through all this and we ate closer now than ever. If she needs space let her have it no matter how hard it is. Sometimes you just have to let her cry just hold her and left her get it out and then just tell her you love her and are there for her. Her mind is always running a 1000 miles a minute and can't slow down. I have learned that no matter what you do it will never keep her from getting depressed just always be there for her and let her dictate the conversation. Sometimes it's just the little things that will be giant things to her. Buy her some bubble bath and light her some candles turn on some music and leave and let her soak. She will get to where she can't be without you and that my friend is the greatest feeling in the world. Good luck and just remember to let her be her and she will return in kind
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Amazing advice! This past week she has really been needing some space and that is kind of hard for me because in my mind I feel like I'm just letting her battle this alone, but I have heard a lot people say that people battling depression/anxiety need their space often. It's been an awful week with anxiety attacks and I hate it so much seeing someone who you love go through something like that. Thanks again for the advice!
 
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Stoked said:
Amazing advice! This past week she has really been needing some space and that is kind of hard for me because in my mind I feel like I'm just letting her battle this alone, but I have heard a lot people say that people battling depression/anxiety need their space often. It's been an awful week with anxiety attacks and I hate it so much seeing someone who you love go through something like that. Thanks again for the advice!
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Just being around and supportive is helpful. I've suffered from depression/anxiety and having people that I love and trust around me was therapeutic. Encourage her to take small steps by doing things she enjoys, it could be artistic, or athletic or just doing a jigsaw puzzle. It will get better.
 
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Stoked said:
Amazing advice! This past week she has really been needing some space and that is kind of hard for me because in my mind I feel like I'm just letting her battle this alone, but I have heard a lot people say that people battling depression/anxiety need their space often. It's been an awful week with anxiety attacks and I hate it so much seeing someone who you love go through something like that. Thanks again for the advice!
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My wife's battled that some as well. One thing she really struggled with was acknowledging it. She felt like it was wrong to be depressed and that seeking help for it was shameful. Let her know that it's normal. Lot's of people struggle with it. Tell her she's not alone and that seeking treatment is ok. Don't force her into to but support her and let her know that you're ok with her taking medication. My wife's been on anti-depressants a couple of times and now realizes that when she's stressed and over-whelmed and can't cope that there is help available. Just know that has really helped reduce the feelings of helplessness. We can now discuss her mental state without her feeling defensive or that there's something bad about it, but rather we can deal with it like any other medical condition. Once she's willing to get help, it may take time to find the right medication. Try and stay with the lowest dose possible as well as there will be side effects. Stay strong and the both of you will come through this closer than ever. Best wishes.
 
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vols72 said:
Had a very good last couple of weeks. She's really making a turn. Thursday will be her last IOP session and then she starts monthly sessions. Very proud of how she has worked so hard. It's hard for me to see my baby struggle with this because we all know dad's are fixers and I can't fix this.It's also hard on me having to deal with emotions that I've never had to deal with before. But I guess it makes it easier for me to understand what she's dealing with now. Her mom has suffered from depression and anxiety for years now and I tried to be understanding but until you go through it you just can't. You guys have been so wonderful through this,we may not always get along but we're family and for that I thank you
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What med is your daughter on ? I know they all are different for everyone but just curious and would like to know -- my daughter is having problems getting the right one all of a sudden -- maybe whatever your daughter is taking could be a suggestion for the Dr -- Also how is yours doing ? Any worries about going back to school ? Thanks in advance
 
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508mikey said:
What med is your daughter on ? I know they all are different for everyone but just curious and would like to know -- my daughter is having problems getting the right one all of a sudden -- maybe whatever your daughter is taking could be a suggestion for the Dr -- Also how is yours doing ? Any worries about going back to school ? Thanks in advance
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School is a big concern for us because a lot of the problems stem from there. We are trying to get moved back to my home town but don't think it will happen before school starts. She has had a bad couple of weeks but that's to be expected with depression and anxiety and teenage hormones. They have her on Efexor (sp?) And it seems to work well for. Thank you for asking. I've been meaning to get in here and update everyone
 
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vols72 said:
School is a big concern for us because a lot of the problems stem from there. We are trying to get moved back to my home town but don't think it will happen before school starts. She has had a bad couple of weeks but that's to be expected with depression and anxiety and teenage hormones. They have her on Efexor (sp?) And it seems to work well for. Thank you for asking. I've been meaning to get in here and update everyone
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Been praying for you all every day. Will continue to do so. Please keep us updated.
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Smallvol#1 said:
Been praying for you all every day. Will continue to do so. Please keep us updated.
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She wants to be a Nurse Practioner and is on schedule to graduate early. She's heading into the 10 grade and may not even have to go but for one class her SR year. She's looking at Vanderbilt and UT. She may go to Freed Hardeman for basics then transfer. She's sitting on a 3.8 right now
 
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vols72 said:
She wants to be a Nurse Practioner and is on schedule to graduate early. She's heading into the 10 grade and may not even have to go but for one class her SR year. She's looking at Vanderbilt and UT. She may go to Freed Hardeman for basics then transfer. She's sitting on a 3.8 right now
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Have a friend who is in the Board at Freed Hardeman. From what I know, that would be an excellent choice for her, both academically and socially.

If he is any indication of the school.......phenomenal! Also all four of his kids went there, so obviously he is "$$ where mouth is".

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508mikey said:
What med is your daughter on ? I know they all are different for everyone but just curious and would like to know -- my daughter is having problems getting the right one all of a sudden -- maybe whatever your daughter is taking could be a suggestion for the Dr -- Also how is yours doing ? Any worries about going back to school ? Thanks in advance
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Depends on the issue. Example - Prozac does well for depression, but Zoloft does well for anxiety. But not really vice versa. At least that's according to a pediatric psychiatrist.
 
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jhamilton1208 said:
Depends on the issue. Example - Prozac does well for depression, but Zoloft does well for anxiety. But not really vice versa. At least that's according to a pediatric psychiatrist.
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She has had both of those - she has to go to outpatient for 2 weeks starting 7/20 -- not my thread, but now I can use some prayers -- things are not well
 
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508mikey said:
She has had both of those - she has to go to outpatient for 2 weeks starting 7/20 -- not my thread, but now I can use some prayers -- things are not well
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Brother this thread is for everyone. Prayers for you just know we are here for you.
 
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508mikey said:
She has had both of those - she has to go to outpatient for 2 weeks starting 7/20 -- not my thread, but now I can use some prayers -- things are not well
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Prayers sent for you. Please keep us updated.

These things are hard.
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I know you guys are probably getting tired of the pics but I'm just glad she's doing better. By the Grace of GOD she is still with us
 

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