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AllVols

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Just venting… I’ve been dating a girl who is almost polar opposite from me. She a vegan, I’m a steak and potatoes kind of guy. She’s an agnostic and I’m a believer. I’ve got kids and she doesn’t.
She’s rich and successful and I’m struggling to pay bill after divorce and child support, but none of that mattered when we were together. We got along, better than anyone else I’ve dated. No arguments we had great conversations and our chemistry was great. The problem is distance. She’s just about an hour and a half away, it’s not like you can see each other nightly or even every other night.
We still care for each other and have expressed it but we’ve decided to walk away from one another.
All I can say is damn…
 
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Long distance relationships are tough, but 1 1/2 hours should be pretty easy to deal with, especially if your chemistry really is as good as you say.
 
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Hope the two of you can work things out. If it was me, I'd try and keep things alive and see how things go since the distance isn't huge. If she is the one who wants to break it off, there might be other reasons.
 
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When I was dating my wife I was living in SJ, Mo and she was in Knoxville. We dated for nearly 2 years before she moved to Mo. That is nearly a 12 hour drive. It can be done bro. I would drive 1 1/2 hours in reverse if I really wanted to make it work.
 
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Yankee_Vol said:
This. An hour and a half is nothing
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No lie. My wife and I dated I college and then lived an 1:15 apart for 2 years before we got married. I'd be a lot more concerned with her belief system being so different from mine than riding a little in a car.
 
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That is not long distance. I commuted 1 way for 3 years to a job 1 hour away. Find a solution.
 
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GAVol said:
No lie. My wife and I dated I college and then lived an 1:15 apart for 2 years before we got married. I'd be a lot more concerned with her belief system being so different from mine than riding a little in a car.
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I agree with you. Believing certain things differently may not be an issue at first, but eventually it will cause issues.
 
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GAVol said:
No lie. My wife and I dated I college and then lived an 1:15 apart for 2 years before we got married. I'd be a lot more concerned with her belief system being so different from mine than riding a little in a car.
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As in a catholic and a atheist as a example. That would have a lot of problems.
 
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My husband and I lived an hour and twenty minutes away from each other when we met. I also worked 12hr swing shifts. He found a way to see me and we built a relationship.

But, we had a boat load of things in common. We had the same type of goals, the same beliefs, the same values. It was totally worth it to each of us to figure out how to make it work. If that's not the case with you and her, then maybe it's a blessing it's over. You can only see a new opportunity in front of you when you don't have your head turned looking at what you left behind.
 
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GAVol said:
No lie. My wife and I dated I college and then lived an 1:15 apart for 2 years before we got married. I'd be a lot more concerned with her belief system being so different from mine than riding a little in a car.
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That's a very good point and has to be at the top of the list come the end of the day.
 
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AllVols said:
Just venting… I’ve been dating a girl who is almost polar opposite from me. She a vegan, I’m a steak and potatoes kind of guy. She’s an agnostic and I’m a believer. I’ve got kids and she doesn’t.
She’s rich and successful and I’m struggling to pay bill after divorce and child support, but none of that mattered when we were together. We got along, better than anyone else I’ve dated. No arguments we had great conversations and our chemistry was great. The problem is distance. She’s just about an hour and a half away, it’s not like you can see each other nightly or even every other night.
We still care for each other and have expressed it but we’ve decided to walk away from one another.
All I can say is damn…
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I'll be honest, but that distance shouldn't be a problem. I'm an hour and 20 minutes way from my girlfriend, and we've been going out for 2 months and still counting. Like another person said, if she broke up with you, there's probably another reason why she did.
 
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My wife and I shared a lot of common interests and values, but we are polar opposites in terms of personality. Differences can work, as long as they are complementary or at least you both respect each other's differences and not devalue/demean them.

Having said that ... we'll find out this weekend, when my Vols and her 'Dores play.
 
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I am 32 and have never been married. I didn't go on any dates between 2010-2014. I have been on a bunch of dates with this woman since June 2014 though. I don't expect it to go anywhere though.
 
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My wife and I lived an hour and a half apart, when we first met. Distance can be tough, but its easy to get past, if you truly want to have a relationship with the other person. So, build something that distance can't tear down, or end it and find someone local. Really only two choices here.
 
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g8terh8ter_eric said:
My wife and I lived an hour and a half apart, when we first met. Distance can be tough, but its easy to get past, if you truly want to have a relationship with the other person. So, build something that distance can't tear down, or end it and find someone local. Really only two choices here.
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I think that's the point of the thread. He's trying to figure out if it's worth it and from what I read he's sort of already made the decision.
A lot of people on here are saying an hour and a half is nothing but I personally couldn't disagree more. Nothing about having to make a 2 hour round trip drive every day to date someone is convenient. I live in Knoxville and unless the girl was my soul mate I probably wouldn't date her if she lived in Sevierville, let alone further away.
 
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Coug said:
I think that's the point of the thread. He's trying to figure out if it's worth it and from what I read he's sort of already made the decision.
A lot of people on here are saying an hour and a half is nothing but I personally couldn't disagree more. Nothing about having to make a 2 hour round trip drive every day to date someone is convenient. I live in Knoxville and unless the girl was my soul mate I probably wouldn't date her if she lived in Sevierville, let alone further away.
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Lol, I'm from Knoxville and my gf is from Sevierville. We haven't had too many problems with the distance.
 
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Coug said:
I think that's the point of the thread. He's trying to figure out if it's worth it and from what I read he's sort of already made the decision.
A lot of people on here are saying an hour and a half is nothing but I personally couldn't disagree more. Nothing about having to make a 2 hour round trip drive every day to date someone is convenient. I live in Knoxville and unless the girl was my soul mate I probably wouldn't date her if she lived in Sevierville, let alone further away.
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That's the point of the weekend.
 
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