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[LilVolX3]

One other thing.... I think it's great that she's focused and not interested in dating but that also means that you haven't had the opportunity to discuss how any of her dates have gone. She doesn't know what to expect from a gentleman. Take her on a date and show her. It sets the expectation high for when she is ready.

Agreed. Great advice! Working on gentlemen lessons with my 8 year old starting with how he treats his sisters. Thankfully my ex husband is an amazing daddy so my girls will grow up surrounded by males that treat them right.

 

[crusse10]

I'll throw this out there...I think a dad would get a lot out of this theoretical daddy/daughter date. As for a teen girl...I just don't know. It could be a thing for her to look back on, sure. She'll have that memory forever. But will she take from that date a view of how she should be treated on a date? Doubtful. Dating doesn't happen anymore. Assuming that it does is naive.

Do the daddy/daughter date. But don't try and make an example for that hour and a half of what the proper teenage boy should act like. Instead, talk about the bads and the things to notice. Talk about how much you love her and how you're so scared but so excited that she's growing up. You aren't a teen and teens aren't you. Understand that. If you try to act as if either of those aren't true, it'll cause a disconnect and most of it will go in one ear and out the other.

 

[txbo]

I'll throw this out there...I think a dad would get a lot out of this theoretical daddy/daughter date. As for a teen girl...I just don't know. It could be a thing for her to look back on, sure. She'll have that memory forever. But will she take from that date a view of how she should be treated on a date? Doubtful. Dating doesn't happen anymore. Assuming that it does is naive.

Do the daddy/daughter date. But don't try and make an example for that hour and a half of what the proper teenage boy should act like. Instead, talk about the bads and the things to notice. Talk about how much you love her and how you're so scared but so excited that she's growing up. You aren't a teen and teens aren't you. Understand that. If you try to act as if either of those aren't true, it'll cause a disconnect and most of it will go in one ear and out the other.

I certainly understand the skepticism in today's world. I may also be naive. I can only say that the young men that my daughters have brought home have all been reflective of good judgement and high expectations of respect.

 

[Roustabout]

It's all about choices. You can get in as little or as much trouble you want at UT.

 

[governmentmule]

the if you have sex,use a condom talk and to not leave a drink alone at parties or what ever and when to leave a gathering if she is uncomfortable with the people ,which you probably all ready have or get her mom to have a "TALK" with her,just to be on the safe side

 

[LouderVol]

its not something you can rush, but if she knows what major she is going into that helps form friendships and whatnot. and usually you can trust the people you go to the classes with more than strangers. stay away from the fort at night and she is safe.