Ok, let me put it this way. If you were a Father of a kid, and he had an interest in playing football, would you want him around a John Henderson or an Albert Haynesworth? Or if you had a kid who wanted to be a boxer, would you want him around a Mike Tyson? You may not care about who is allowed to influence you son while he is still learning to make the right choices, but most good Fathers are.
Plenty of athletes are flawed. We have had a couple of former Vols driving DUI that caused deaths. Will I listen to their views? Yeah. That happened off the field. I don't approve of what they did, and I hope they are doing things that might prevent others from doing the same thing.
But what Haynesworth did threatens the game. What would happen if 2 or 3 other guys had done the same kind of crap right after him? Boxing has never been the same since Tyson's ear biting. It's popularity went straight to Hell right after that. Concussion issues are eroding both sports anyway. But Haynesworth's actions was just as or more insane than Tyson's biting. You proud a VFL did that? I sure as Hell am not.
I will tell you this; if I were a recruit's father, an Albert Haynesworth being in contact with the program and players in any way would scare me off. In fact, it would certainly make me more welcoming of coaches from other programs despite my love for the Vols. I hope that makes a smidgin of sense to you. Because I find your support and defense of him appaling.