I'm sure that Tyler Summitt started feeling like his world was spiraling out of control the moment Pat received her diagnosis, and then, eventually, it finally flew completely off its axis.
I cannot imagine the pain and sorrow and fear and confusion and, whether he'd ever admit it or not, the self-pity that was swallowing him up as he was trying to put on a brave and confident face for the world -- literally, the world -- to see. Including his mom.
So, while what he did was stupid, and wrong and heartbreaking on so many levels, it really wasn't all that surprising to anyone who dabbles in human psychology.
Often in times of great stress and depression, otherwise good people can find themselves doing incredibly stupid things that hurt themselves and those they love. Like infidelity.
What Tyler did to both AnDe and the student-athlete was awful and he has paid for it not only with his career, but with losing the respect that had been his birthright because of his mother.
He's such a young man and for him to lose his mother, probably THE most influential mother ever born in Tennessee, just when he needed her most, had to be devastating beyond comprehension. So he went off the rails -- BIGtime.
But since he is so young I truly hate that this will likely be a mistake that will haunt him into old age. Everyone makes mistakes, and should be forgiven.
But like others have said, the particular mistake Tyler made -- cheating on his wife with one of his players -- is a mistake that can be forgiven, but never forgotten. What university wants to risk recruiting teams for other programs constantly telling parents, "Do you REALLY want to risk your daughter being seduced by Tyler Summitt? I mean, he's done it before, what's to keep him from doing it to YOUR daughter?"
I don't see any Athletic Directors being willing to subject its women's basketball program to that kind of nastiness. Ever. Now, a men's program? Possibly. No guarantee that his general integrity would be an issue, but, in time, perhaps that could be addressed and forgiven as Tyler matures. It's more possible that in the future a men's program could take into consideration that he was sooooo very young and in turmoil when it occurred. Maybe in 5-10 more years?
Tyler has all the money he'll ever need, so at least Pat was able to take care of him in that way.