Wickman
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Basically what they're teaching. It's from a professor at the University of Minnesota, and right now we're comparing monozygotic twins, dizigotic twins, and kids raised in foster homes. All of these studies show that monozygotic twins are clearly most similar in IQ, personality, Psychological illness, etc. I also found it interesting that studies show that environmental factors that are externally imposed (I.e. Family has money problems, have you been mugged, etc.) do not lead to more similar traits in monozygotic twins compared to dizygotic twins. However, environmental factors that reflect to some degree our pen behavior (I.e. Whether or not we do good in school, whether or not we have relationship issues, problems at work, etc.), there is a greater similarity in monozygotic twins rather than dizygotic twins. What basically he is saying is the environments we experience, we form those environments due in part due to our genetic constitution. There are genetic factors within us that creates our environment, and therefore genetics carries much more weight. Also, twins separated at birth in general have much more in common than foster kids raised in the same environment, although that environment does influence things like IQ and personality to an extent.
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Yeah I thought it was incredible. I always thought genetics weighed more, but I never though genetics shaped your environment like that. It has to be terrifying as a parent. You have only a short window to raise your kids properly, and that window mostly will only effect his/her IQ. Everything else is already, in a way, determined for him/her. I guess you can allow how much your child does outside of home and school as he gets older, but parents that are too controlling have a backlash effect the majority of the time. You just have to hope to God your child is intelligent enough to not make too many adolescent mistakes.Yeah, the genetics gets you both ways. The history of this research so far has been an inexorable march towards the rather depressing conclusion that who we are is largely out of our and our parents' control.
And even worse, if you're a parent: apparently most of what little slice of "environment" that matters in the nature/nurture thing is out of your control too. The upshot of these studies seems to be that, as a parent, most of your job is done once you finish your orgasm that fertilizes the egg, and the rest of it is over by the time the kid turns 5 and gets out there into the world. After that his peer group has far more influence than you do. As the father of a 10 year old, that's terrifying.
This stuff fascinates me. I know BARELY ANYTHING about it, but it's fascinating from a criminology and crime prevention standpoint. Don't know enough to utilize it for research, but
I have to check that out over the summer once I have a little more time and a little break.
Definitely know of a couple that I'd target.
Yeah I thought it was incredible. I always thought genetics weighed more, but I never though genetics shaped your environment like that. It has to be terrifying as a parent. You have only a short window to raise your kids properly, and that window mostly will only effect his/her IQ. Everything else is already, in a way, determined for him/her.
Parenting is always a touchy topic, so I'm gun shy to comment on it at times, but that is a unique approach and sounds like it could be effective. I hope one day I can be half the parent my father was. Not to go on and on about him, but I feared my father in a sense of if I let him down, it would break my heart. He never once pushed me to be anything, except to use manners, be honest, and stay positive. He was incredibly loving and understanding, yet even in my high school years I passed on numerous bad choices for the soul fact that I feared letting him down tremendously. The thing about it is, if I had made those bad choices, he would have been understanding and loving regardless, while also being a strong disciplinary. I often think that There is no way I can replicate that if/when I'm a father. I wish I know how he did it, because thinking about it now, he not only had a terrible environment growing up, but he was also nothing like my grandfather or grandmother. But back to the point at hand, it sounds like you have a unique grasp on parenting that could be a big influence to your 2 childrenIt's affected the way I approach fatherhood, now that my kids are school-age and supposedly past the window of my significant influence. I don't really have any illusions that I can directly browbeat them into becoming the people I want them to be, so instead I have this sort of sideways approach where I treat them like trainees in a restaurant: I explain what I'm doing as I go through life, and why I do it that way. I.e., life as a skill to be acquired (like cooking or painting) rather than a didactic approach where life is a Thing To Be Taught. The idea being that when they're 16 and it comes down to What My Dad Says vs What My Friends Want Me To Do, the only way I've got a shot is if they view What My Dad Says as honest practical advice rather than "here's what you're supposed to do because I said so."
Didn't ready any of yalls debate... But adamantly disagree