I don't disagree, Hacksaw. I've just learned to adjust my expectations.
My work allows (or sometimes requires) me to deal with many mothers of teenage athletes, and I'll just say that there are instincts at work (in otherwise gracious and exceedingly intelligent brains) that just aren't going to be "coolly objective" under every circumstance. And the closer their sons get to permanently leaving home, the more intensely those instincts can express themselves.
So, as a son who would probably not have survived his teen years if not for a mother's inordinate grace, I will try to extend the same.
(How did I do, moms, with that delicately attempted explanation?)