I need someone to talk to :(

#28
#28
Reaching out, talking about, and asking for help is the right thing to do. Don't get all machismo and try to handle all this on your on. You're never alone.
 
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rocktopper16 said:
Last year I lost my nana too lung cancer.. she raised me for 14 years. The night before her passing I told her I loved her and she didn't say it back. Two nights ago I had a dream inehich she appeared. Her soft spoken words told me to keep my family close. Mind you, on her year of passing My fiancé and I had a miscarriage. Life's been rough. Well, last night someone had set my SUV on fire and my barn. I had well over $20,000 worth of stuff inside my barn. I don't care about it though it's the memories that was made in that barn with my papaw that kills me and my nana rushing us to finish up tinkering on cars to come and eat supper. I'm at a loss for words. How could someone be so cruel! The SUV was parked on the car port. If I didn't hear my dog barking outside I'm sure the house would have went up in flames. I have nothing but my family now. That's more than enough. The pain is sending me into a deep depressed mode.
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Take a deep breath. Eat something and drink some water. It sounds like fire and police have been there so make sure to report to insurance, let your work know what happened and maybe other family members as well. If you belong a church, call pastor let him know.
 
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prayers man, things will get better. Just stay calm and pray. It will all work out in its due time.
 
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coffeevol said:
Nah, man don't apologize. VN is kind of like one giant dysfunctional family...Vent away...we will listen...we will pray...and we will talk about the sorry POS that did that mess.
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Said it better than what I tried to.

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In the words of the great Pat Summitt, left foot, right foot, breathe. Repeat.

It truly is the little things in life that we most take for granted that can make us the happiest. Enjoy and be thankful for what you have. Even a short walk out to the mailbox can seem like the easiest task, yet can be so joyful. A lot of people simply can't. Hang in there bud.
 
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You've had a rough season, bro. You lost your Nana, the baby, and now someone set fire to your property -- as if you didn't already hurt enough. I'm sorry you had to go through any of those things, much more all of them, and so close together.

In times like this, when it feels like bad things that don't make any sense just keep happening all at once and one after the other, and you just don't know how much more of these things you can take, it feels close to rock bottom and you need a lifeline for some kind of support, some kind of comfort and reassurance that God loves you and hasn't forgotten about you, I look to the scriptures for comfort and strength (The book of Psalm chapter 121: verses 1 and 2).

I found a few I'd like to share with you.

Like David in 2 Samuel 12:23, you cannot bring your baby back to you, or your nana, but at the appointed time, you will go to them and rejoice more than ever before.

(I'm glad it was you who posted about what happened instead of a family member or a friend who said they needed to talk because you and your fiance passed away in the fire. It's terrible to lose all those valuable material things, but thankfully you're still alive!)

Remember, like all of us, you were born into this world with nothing and you'll leave this world without being able to carry any of that stuff with you out of it (Job 1:21).

Finally, I'd like to speak a blessing from the scriptures for you and your household. I pray for your protection, peace, and comfort, for you and your family and that you will be preserved from all evil from this time forth, and even for evermore (Psalm 121:1-8 and Romans 8:28,31,38,39).

I found all those verses (in Romans 8, starting with verse 28,) reassuring that everything (even the bad) will work out for the good for you and that nothing, no deaths, no fires, nothing can separate us from God's love for us which is in Christ Jesus.
 
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rocktopper16 said:
Last year I lost my nana too lung cancer.. she raised me for 14 years. The night before her passing I told her I loved her and she didn't say it back. Two nights ago I had a dream inehich she appeared. Her soft spoken words told me to keep my family close. Mind you, on her year of passing My fiancé and I had a miscarriage. Life's been rough. Well, last night someone had set my SUV on fire and my barn. I had well over $20,000 worth of stuff inside my barn. I don't care about it though it's the memories that was made in that barn with my papaw that kills me and my nana rushing us to finish up tinkering on cars to come and eat supper. I'm at a loss for words. How could someone be so cruel! The SUV was parked on the car port. If I didn't hear my dog barking outside I'm sure the house would have went up in flames. I have nothing but my family now. That's more than enough. The pain is sending me into a deep depressed mode.
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Wow...that is crazy.
Unfortunately, some people can be extremely cruel.
Fortunately, there are countless others who can be kind & thoughtful.

Hang in there as best as possible. BTW-good call on reaching out to VN. Hope it takes some of the burden off your shoulders.
 
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Do you guys think anything would happen tonight? We are all worried that they had something else planned and it felt through
 
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rocktopper16 said:
Do you guys think anything would happen tonight? We are all worried that they had something else planned and it felt through
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I would guess that with all of the attention this has and the seriousness of the charges, that they would be crazy to do something.
I recommend that you ask the police to drive by a few times for awhile.
 
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VolFaninFla said:
I would guess that with all of the attention this has and the seriousness of the charges, that they would be crazy to do something.
I recommend that you ask the police to drive by a few times for awhile.
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Good advice.
 
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rocktopper16 said:
Yup
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I have a place in Monroe county although I do not live there at this time . I will not say what town or area but I do have some contacts there. Know of a few churches that would be of great spiritual help if you should need the comfort if you do not have your own.

So sorry that this world has come to this but times are so bad you don't know who to trust.

Prayers!!
 
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OneVolNation said:
You've had a rough season, bro. You lost your Nanna, the baby, and now someone set fire to your property -- as if you didn't already hurt enough. I'm sorry you had to go through any of those things, much more all of them, and so close together.

In times like this, when it feels like bad things that don't make any sense just keep happening all at once and one after the other, and you just don't know how much more of these things you can take, it feels close to rock bottom and you need a lifeline for some kind of support, some kind of comfort and reassurance that God loves you and hasn't forgotten about you, I look to the scriptures for comfort and strength (The book of Psalm chapter 121: verses 1 and 2).

I found a few I'd like to share with you.

Like David in 2 Samuel 12:23, you cannot bring your baby back to you, or your nanna, but at the appointed time, you will go to them and rejoice more than ever before.

(I'm glad it was you who posted about what happened instead of a family member or a friend who said they needed to talk because you and your fiance passed away in the fire. It's terrible to lose all those valuable material things, but thankfully you're still alive!)

Remember, like all of us, you were born into this world with nothing and you'll leave this world without being able to carry any of that stuff with you out of it (Job 1:21).

Finally, I'd like to speak a blessing from the scriptures for you and your household. I pray for your protection, peace, and comfort, for you and your family and that you will be preserved from all evil from this time forth, and even for evermore (Psalm 121:1-8 and Romans 8:28,31,38,39).

I found all those verses (in Romans 8, starting with verse 28,) reassuring that everything (even the bad) will work out for the good for you and that nothing, no deaths, no fires, nothing can separate us from God's love for us which is in Christ Jesus.
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I agree with this ^ and also about having the police drive by a few times over the next couple of weeks....
May Jesus provide His exact shade of Grace, Peace and Protection needed to you now and may He provide a a special Hedge of protection for you and your family and His guardian angels by your side this moment..Thinking of you. You have friends that care
 
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508mikey said:
you said they arrested 2 guys -- does someone have a vendetta against your family over something ?
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Two suspects. One is my uncle in law, the other is Floyd Jenkins. Floyd just called the house and told us he didn't get us last night and he will get us soon. He told me that he will catch my papaw back on Vonore road and beat his eyes in. It's all over my aunt cleaning her life of drugs up and leaving my uncle in law for a better life and she mentioned to him this weekend that she has a new boyfriend. She stays with us in the basement because she had nowhere else to go where she would be able to stay clean.
 
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I'm also scared to leave my family at home tomorrow if I do go to work.


I know god only gives us what we can handle but dang..
 
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Every time I hit bottom, I seem to run into someone who has it tougher than I do. Count your blessings. God first, family second, then all that other stuff. 22 Veterans commit suicide every day. A child who loses their mother at 4. A mother who has to bury a child. A visit to a nursing home always helps me understand priorities. May God bless and strengthen you and your family. Google the Serenity Prayer. Do your best where you can and give the rest to God. That is what strengthens me. My Church family has a lot of wonderful shoulders to lean on. If you don't have one, I highly recommend you find one.
 
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Think you should see if the police can have an officer sit in front of your house and keep an eye on things tonight. Two suspects need to be brought in immediately for questioning, especially since the threatening phone call was made.
 
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rocktopper16 said:
I'm also scared to leave my family at home tomorrow if I do go to work.


I know god only gives us what we can handle but dang..
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I suggest calling work and letting them know the whole story. They might have resources available to assist with your needs.

Name names to all that will listen to ensure these guys are exposed for what they have done.
 
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