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If ever been married, have you had a marriage that ended in divorce?

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#301
#301
Quit, as in file for divorce myself? Never. Realize the love is gone and that all I am doing is wasting my ****ing time-money-effort, for ****ing sure.
 
#302
#302
Nerd-Vol said:
I've never been married, but I know people who are. I've also read about it in books.
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Which one is your favorite?
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#303
#303
I read a book a month ago when I was teaching a class on dating for girls. In the book it talked about how marrying for love is a relatively new concept and that even though people, even as recently as the 40's and 50's might have lived one another, many married out of necessity and stayed married based upon upholding a commitment. Then they developed a love for the other person based upon this. It was eye-opening to me.

Anyway pimp, I know she has hurt you and you've built a wall, but one day, if it doesn't work out, you will need to tell ur kids that YOU did everything YOU could to fight to keep their family intact. Get the book or movie, watch it alone if you have to, but be an active participant in solving the problem.

Women are ****ed up. It's just how it is, but try this for your kids sake. If there is another man then he's doing something, if ur family is important to you, you better do something too
 
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#304
#304
wildnkrazykat said:
I read a book a month ago when I was teaching a class on dating for girls. In the book it talked about how marrying for love is a relatively new concept and that even though people, even as recently as the 40's and 50's might have lived one another, many married out of necessity and stayed married based upon upholding a commitment. Then they developed a love for the other person based upon this. It was eye-opening to me.

Anyway pimp, I know she has hurt you and you've built a wall, but one day, if it doesn't work out, you will need to tell ur kids that YOU did everything YOU could to fight to keep their family intact. Get the book or movie, watch it alone if you have to, but be an active participant in solving the problem.

Women are ****ed up. It's just how it is, but try this for your kids sake. If there is another man then he's doing something, if ur family is important to you, you better do something too
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Great advice Kat.
 
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#308
#308
PimpVol said:
I am working like heck. But she is largely non-chalant. Can not do it by myself.
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Do you know your wife's love language? It's actually a good study, and very similar to understanding personality profiles.

Language Profile | The 5 Love Languages®

Most people fall into one of five categories:

  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Acts of Service
  3. Receiving Gifts
  4. Quality Time
  5. Physical Touch

For example, my wife's primary love language is Acts of Service (although she also likes gifts). All I have to do is help out around the house, do a little vacuuming, etc., and it's on for the night. :shades:
 
#311
#311
wildnkrazykat said:
5Words of Affirmation
8Quality Time
1Receiving Gifts
10Acts of Service
6Physical Touch
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Very close to my wife's.

Old theory is that many women have "Acts of Service" at or near the top because of the historical view of wanting a man that is a good worker/provider.

Modern belief is that women just want a guy who'll help out with the day-to-day grind.

My primary love language, which I believe is more common for men, is "Physical Touch".
 
#313
#313
wildnkrazykat said:
I was surprised at PT that being so high for me.
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It's good to know these things about your spouse/partner.

You would think more men would have Acts of Service high on their list. You know... the whole "bring me a sammich" thing. But I don't think that is typically the case.
 
#315
#315
IBlvNTmWrk said:
It's good to know these things about your spouse/partner.

You would think more men would have Acts of Service high on their list. You know... the whole "bring me a sammich" thing. But I don't think that is typically the case.
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I don't think a lot of men associate acts of service with love and I think that's why a lot of women get do frustrated. We don't just do sucky housework things because we want to.
 
#317
#317
IBlvNTmWrk said:
kat gets it. :yes:
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It's just a biological thing I think. That's all it boils down to. And y'all are made differently than us. I think women underestimate the amount of stress that men internalize about providing for the needs of the family.

I guess a lot could be solved if people would empathize with one another and not try to keep score.
 
#318
#318
wildnkrazykat said:
It's just a biological thing I think. That's all it boils down to. And y'all are made differently than us. I think women underestimate the amount of stress that men internalize about providing for the needs of the family.

I guess a lot could be solved if people would empathize with one another and not try to keep score.
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why do you have to be a kentucky fan?
 
#319
#319
Just remember that you deserve to be happy too. Having enjoyment in life will make you an even better father. Just because ya'll break up doesn't have to change your relationship with ur kids...you'll just have to work harder at it. If you're miserable, the kids notice.
 
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wildnkrazykat said:
It's just a biological thing I think. That's all it boils down to. And y'all are made differently than us. I think women underestimate the amount of stress that men internalize about providing for the needs of the family.

I guess a lot could be solved if people would empathize with one another and not try to keep score.
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#325
#325
Hang in there PV. I'm sure your kids will recognize and appreciate your efforts... even if your wife does not. I hope things work out for you.
 
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