Prayers to you and your mother. Mine is going through dementia. So cruel.
Thank you, and same back to your mom. Its never easy watching your parent suffer with these things. Cruel is the only word for it! Id rather have her here with me, but shes determined to live in her home until she dies, and I will support that as best as I can.
After arduous, hellish testing, they have decided that she doesnt have dementia (shes fine with long-term memory, reasoning, common sense, etc.), but she has hypertensive encephalopathy instead. For some period of months, her blood pressure was up, not crazy up but probably in the 150s-160s systolic, and caused brain damage (encephalopathy).
Her short-term memory is comically and tragically shot, unable to remember anything that happened in the last hour, last day, last week, last month. Shes on BP meds now, but I can always tell when it creeps up, because she will call me, anxious and confused, about some little thing like who is taking her to her hair appointment, or has she already had her hair appointment. When I ask her what her BP was that morning on her home BP cuff, its always in the mid-130s or higher. I have never known anyone so exquisitely sensitive to relatively minor BP changes.
She has always been ridiculously healthy (no smoking, no drinking, active, and lean as a whip), but I guess that at 92, something is gonna getcha.
Bless her heart, she voluntarily hung up the car keys after doing a test drive to where she has played bridge every month for the last 40 years, and got lost. Thats very rare, and I know how lucky I am to have avoided that horrible argument.
If anyone has elderly family or friends with a sudden onset of mental status changes, especially so narrowly focused, get their BP checked. This is not all that well-known in the primary care field. Her internist is still very dismissive of the daily fluctuations in her blood pressure and how they affect her. :banghead2:
Again, best wishes to your mom, and to you and the rest of your family. Its heartbreaking to see someone who successfully battled the Memphis property tax assessment board for 30-40 years suddenly unable to make sense of her checkbook.