If you (not you, gainesvol82) have not been there, you wouldn't understand. The problem with the whole, "Never, ever hit a woman!!!" thinking is that women are human too, and they (not all women) pick up on this. Then, they feel they are free to do ANYTHING. That is not a good thing.
Don't get me wrong. I do not believe in hitting women, but it is ridiculous to just be a punching bag (literal and otherwise).
Having said all that, I agree, folks need to see the whole story before judging. Some situations get ridiculously bad, when women think they are untouchable. Not saying I know anything about this particular situation, but self - and family member - defense sometimes override everything else.
I've had people do they opposite of what they preached to me, when put in ridiculous situations.