Tell Me Your Worst Dating Story?

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mad4vols said:
Man, you are a good storyteller, I didn’t see that twist coming. By the way, very smart on your part how you handled things when she returned a month later. Obviously you lost respect and there would never have been any trust.
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Thank you and no doubt about losing respect. I never would have invited her if I knew she was married...not even just to party. Even in my wild days I wouldn't give another man's wife that stuff.

Our group of friends did help her with support and helping her move past it. She knew I wouldn't do anything with her but I did let her cuddle with me when she was feeling depressed. She wasn't happy in her marriage before he died but still no excuse to try to cheat on him.
 
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gainesvol82 said:
Thank you and no doubt about losing respect. I never would have invited her if I knew she was married...not even just to party. Even in my wild days I wouldn't give another man's wife that stuff.

Our group of friends did help her with support and helping her move past it. She knew I wouldn't do anything with her but I did let her cuddle with me when she was feeling depressed. She wasn't happy in her marriage before he died but still no excuse to try to cheat on him.
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tbh said:
Hiding "crazy" is a skill that some have more than others...sometimes it takes a few minutes, sometimes it takes a few dates. But eventually, the smokescreen clears and reality comes into full view.

Back in the day (and a few dates in), this one gal starts acting oddly clingy...the first few dates had been great (no expectations, just enjoying dinner and a night out, a concert, etc)...no red flags at all. After the 3rd or 4th date, she starts calling and texting at random times asking me where I am and what I'm doing (working, etc). This was pretty much a complete 180 from the relaxed, self-confident gal she was previously. Against my better judgement, we set up another dinner date and at this restaurant she starts grilling me on how we should raise "our children", what we should name them, etc. This came out of nowhere. At that point I had checked out...she was obviously fighting a chronic case of the baby rabies, and I wanted nothing of it, so I expressed that evenly and without a speck of ill will once dinner had finished and we were out in the parking lot. Thank goodness that we had driven separately and that I was parked in a way that allowed me a clear exit in case she tried to post up and block my vehicle's exit, which as a matter of fact she attempted. Always have an escape plan.
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I think that everybody, men and women, has a "best behavior phase." The difference is how long the best behavior phase lasts and just how bad the person's "bad behavior" (i.e., their real personality) is.

IMO, most people are pretty good at being on their best behavior for the first few months of a relationship, which can last several dates. Most people have some level of self-awareness and will keep any annoying habits, personality traits, etc., hidden for a while. If you're dating a person and you find something in particular that they do to be irritating early on, just say "nice to meet you" and end it because they are probably on their best behavior (for them) at that point and it'll only get worse from there. If somebody is annoying to you right out of the box, just imagine how annoying they'd be in 6 months.

Odds are you have a keeper when you start to see the best behavior phase wear off and you still like them.
 
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creekerballer said:
I had been out with this girl a couple times and it had become apparent she was moving wayyyyyy to fast. Other than that though she seemed okay, but it should of been a warning. So, she messages me one evening and asks to come over, I planned to ignore it and just say I was asleep. Well she shows up knocking on the door. I let her in, which was a big mistake. Not long after I know I really just want her gone and that I don’t want to see her anymore, she’s wanting marriage and a house after a couple dates and has no respect for boundaries. So, I tell her I’ve got a headache and I’m just going to rest tonight and I’ll talk to her later, but she just invites herself to stay. At this point I just decide I have to be blunt and tell her this isn’t working out and I’d like for her to go. She freaks the heck out, starts trying to force herself into my bedroom. Then she goes down the hall and starts throwing my golf clubs on my hardwood floor. I recorded this, which makes her even more mad. I finally am able to trick her into going outside and the second she stepped out the door I slam the door shut and lock it then called the cops.
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Omg, what a nightmare.
 
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tbh said:
Hiding "crazy" is a skill that some have more than others...sometimes it takes a few minutes, sometimes it takes a few dates. But eventually, the smokescreen clears and reality comes into full view.

Back in the day (and a few dates in), this one gal starts acting oddly clingy...the first few dates had been great (no expectations, just enjoying dinner and a night out, a concert, etc)...no red flags at all. After the 3rd or 4th date, she starts calling and texting at random times asking me where I am and what I'm doing (working, etc). This was pretty much a complete 180 from the relaxed, self-confident gal she was previously. Against my better judgement, we set up another dinner date and at this restaurant she starts grilling me on how we should raise "our children", what we should name them, etc. This came out of nowhere. At that point I had checked out...she was obviously fighting a chronic case of the baby rabies, and I wanted nothing of it, so I expressed that evenly and without a speck of ill will once dinner had finished and we were out in the parking lot. Thank goodness that we had driven separately and that I was parked in a way that allowed me a clear exit in case she tried to post up and block my vehicle's exit, which as a matter of fact she attempted. Always have an escape plan.
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This must have messed you up in giving future women a chance. Good thing you kept your cool, could have ended very badly.
 
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05_never_again said:
I think that everybody, men and women, has a "best behavior phase." The difference is how long the best behavior phase lasts and just how bad the person's "bad behavior" (i.e., their real personality) is.

IMO, most people are pretty good at being on their best behavior for the first few months of a relationship, which can last several dates. Most people have some level of self-awareness and will keep any annoying habits, personality traits, etc., hidden for a while. If you're dating a person and you find something in particular that they do to be irritating early on, just say "nice to meet you" and end it because they are probably on their best behavior (for them) at that point and it'll only get worse from there. If somebody is annoying to you right out of the box, just imagine how annoying they'd be in 6 months.

Odds are you have a keeper when you start to see the best behavior phase wear off and you still like them.
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Great advice
 
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mad4vols said:
This must have messed you up in giving future women a chance. Good thing you kept your cool, could have ended very badly.
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Nah...it was actually kind of funny. I had encountered ladies before with the same affliction, but this one was next-level. If I would've busted out laughing, I'd probably have ended up with a salad fork in my eye, though.
 
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tbh said:
Nah...it was actually kind of funny. I had encountered ladies before with the same affliction, but this one was next-level. If I would've busted out laughing, I'd probably have ended up with a salad fork in my eye, though.
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I will not be ignored….
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creekerballer said:
I had been out with this girl a couple times and it had become apparent she was moving wayyyyyy to fast. Other than that though she seemed okay, but it should of been a warning. So, she messages me one evening and asks to come over, I planned to ignore it and just say I was asleep. Well she shows up knocking on the door. I let her in, which was a big mistake. Not long after I know I really just want her gone and that I don’t want to see her anymore, she’s wanting marriage and a house after a couple dates and has no respect for boundaries. So, I tell her I’ve got a headache and I’m just going to rest tonight and I’ll talk to her later, but she just invites herself to stay. At this point I just decide I have to be blunt and tell her this isn’t working out and I’d like for her to go. She freaks the heck out, starts trying to force herself into my bedroom. Then she goes down the hall and starts throwing my golf clubs on my hardwood floor. I recorded this, which makes her even more mad. I finally am able to trick her into going outside and the second she stepped out the door I slam the door shut and lock it then called the cops.
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You met her on Tinder didn’t you?
 
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walkenvol said:
Got a nephew who’s married to a Tinder date going on 5 years and 2 kids now - some percentage of them work out
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I have no doubt, but based on a friend’s experience with Match.com, you have to wade through a bunch of crazy to get to the swimming hole.
 
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Carl Pickens said:
I have no doubt, but based on a friend’s experience with Match.com, you have to wade through a bunch of crazy to get to the swimming hole.
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I never said nephew and bride weren’t crazy. In my experience almost everyone has some crazy, it’s the acceptable level that someone can live with that matters
 
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walkenvol said:
I never said nephew and bride weren’t crazy. In my experience almost everyone has some crazy, it’s the acceptable level that someone can live with that matters
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I didn’t mean to sound like I thought they were crazy….my buddy used to tell me some great stories though…. I was shocked by some of the things he’d tell me.
 
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mad4vols said:
Let’s hear them 😀
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Well…. I was present for one of them….. my friend was in a band and playing a club in Nashville. The lady he was currently dating was there… they’d been going out a couple of months…. In walks a former girlfriend…. Keep in mind my friend is on stage playing… next thing me and a couple of friends see is the current lady walk up behind the ex gf at the edge of the dance floor… she was standing and watching but not dancing…. The current reaches up and grabs a handful of the ex’s hair and jerks her down from behind….. cat fight!…the ex was totally innocent…. They scrapped for 25-30 seconds until security got to them… band never stopped…the ex left immediately…. They current stayed. When the band stopped playing we were helping the guys load up and had made it outside…. My buddy is pissed… she’s still talking S about what happened earlier and he tells her to be quiet and get in the car…. She goes ape S…. So he tells her to get her own ride home if she’s going to act like that…. She replied very loudly and emotionally “fine! I’ll go over there! (pointed at the bar across the street) I F’ed the bartender last week and he’ll give me a ride home”!
 
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The first girl I dated in college seemed like a really sweet, down-to-earth chick. We went on a couple of dates, nothing serious, everything seemed cool. I was in a band and had gotten my lip pierced a few weeks before I met her. On our 3rd or 4th date, she asked me where I'd had my piercing done, and I told her about the body art shop. She proceeded to ask if they could help remove a piercing. I wasn't sure, but I assumed they could. I asked where the piercing was that she couldn't remove it herself. She didn't have anything visible like in her nose or navel, and by that point I could confirm that she didn't have a tongue ring. I immediately assumed that she had one or both nipples pierced, which was weird, because she didn't seem the type.

Wrong. She had a hood piercing. I didn't even want to ask what inspired her to get that done.

She asked if I'd go with her to get it taken out, and I agreed. She wanted me to go in the privacy room with her and the body artist so I could hold her hand, but that was a bit much for me. So she's in there, and I can hear their conversation thru the curtain. After she's been in there a minute or two, I hear the piercer say "I hate to tell you this, but that's really infected. I don't think it's a good idea for me to take this out. You need to go to a doctor." She comes out of there and acts like absolutely nothing is wrong. I think she thought I hadn't heard everything. I can't bring myself to raise the issue with her. I'm now completely grossed out thinking not only how crazy it was that she got that done to herself, but also that she practiced such poor hygiene that it got infected. The next time she called I made up some excuse about being too busy with school and the band to be dating anyone.

I have absolutely no idea if she ever went to the doctor. She dropped out after freshman year.
 
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Carl Pickens said:
Well…. I was present for one of them….. my friend was in a band and playing a club in Nashville. The lady he was currently dating was there… they’d been going out a couple of months…. In walks a former girlfriend…. Keep in mind my friend is on stage playing… next thing me and a couple of friends see is the current lady walk up behind the ex gf at the edge of the dance floor… she was standing and watching but not dancing…. The current reaches up and grabs a handful of the ex’s hair and jerks her down from behind….. cat fight!…the ex was totally innocent…. They scrapped for 25-30 seconds until security got to them… band never stopped…the ex left immediately…. They current stayed. When the band stopped playing we were helping the guys load up and had made it outside…. My buddy is pissed… she’s still talking S about what happened earlier and he tells her to be quiet and get in the car…. She goes ape S…. So he tells her to get her own ride home if she’s going to act like that…. She replied very loudly and emotionally “fine! I’ll go over there! (pointed at the bar across the street) I F’ed the bartender last week and he’ll give me a ride home”!
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This was a great story, her true colors came out.
 
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bamawriter said:
The first girl I dated in college seemed like a really sweet, down-to-earth chick. We went on a couple of dates, nothing serious, everything seemed cool. I was in a band and had gotten my lip pierced a few weeks before I met her. On our 3rd or 4th date, she asked me where I'd had my piercing done, and I told her about the body art shop. She proceeded to ask if they could help remove a piercing. I wasn't sure, but I assumed they could. I asked where the piercing was that she couldn't remove it herself. She didn't have anything visible like in her nose or navel, and by that point I could confirm that she didn't have a tongue ring. I immediately assumed that she had one or both nipples pierced, which was weird, because she didn't seem the type.

Wrong. She had a hood piercing. I didn't even want to ask what inspired her to get that done.

She asked if I'd go with her to get it taken out, and I agreed. She wanted me to go in the privacy room with her and the body artist so I could hold her hand, but that was a bit much for me. So she's in there, and I can hear their conversation thru the curtain. After she's been in there a minute or two, I hear the piercer say "I hate to tell you this, but that's really infected. I don't think it's a good idea for me to take this out. You need to go to a doctor." She comes out of there and acts like absolutely nothing is wrong. I think she thought I hadn't heard everything. I can't bring myself to raise the issue with her. I'm now completely grossed out thinking not only how crazy it was that she got that done to herself, but also that she practiced such poor hygiene that it got infected. The next time she called I made up some excuse about being too busy with school and the band to be dating anyone.

I have absolutely no idea if she ever went to the doctor. She dropped out after freshman year.
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You handled that diplomatically. As you were telling the story I was expecting it to go in a few different directions. One scenario was you overhearing the piercer and her getting it on, or you overhearing the piercer say “this pen!s piercing is very infected”
 
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bamawriter said:
The first girl I dated in college seemed like a really sweet, down-to-earth chick. We went on a couple of dates, nothing serious, everything seemed cool. I was in a band and had gotten my lip pierced a few weeks before I met her. On our 3rd or 4th date, she asked me where I'd had my piercing done, and I told her about the body art shop. She proceeded to ask if they could help remove a piercing. I wasn't sure, but I assumed they could. I asked where the piercing was that she couldn't remove it herself. She didn't have anything visible like in her nose or navel, and by that point I could confirm that she didn't have a tongue ring. I immediately assumed that she had one or both nipples pierced, which was weird, because she didn't seem the type.

Wrong. She had a hood piercing. I didn't even want to ask what inspired her to get that done.

She asked if I'd go with her to get it taken out, and I agreed. She wanted me to go in the privacy room with her and the body artist so I could hold her hand, but that was a bit much for me. So she's in there, and I can hear their conversation thru the curtain. After she's been in there a minute or two, I hear the piercer say "I hate to tell you this, but that's really infected. I don't think it's a good idea for me to take this out. You need to go to a doctor." She comes out of there and acts like absolutely nothing is wrong. I think she thought I hadn't heard everything. I can't bring myself to raise the issue with her. I'm now completely grossed out thinking not only how crazy it was that she got that done to herself, but also that she practiced such poor hygiene that it got infected. The next time she called I made up some excuse about being too busy with school and the band to be dating anyone.

I have absolutely no idea if she ever went to the doctor. She dropped out after freshman year.
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I bet it was awkward when you bumped into her at the next family reunion....

Sorry, I had to BW. Good story though.
 
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