There are plenty of "non gender" based playing cards out there. I dont know if the little girl ever gets around to it, too much uneducated whining for my taste, but you can simply replace them with number values.
And there is an explanation for the face cards which are actually pretty cool and can teach people who actually care about some bad arse women. Not that virtue signalers ever care about facts.
https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-history-behind-the-design-of-face-cards-in-a-standard-playing-deck
Also the value of a card is set by the game. And considering we humans are generally pretty smart I would think we could handle making the queen the top valued face card in a little house ruling.
Why do we spend so much time looking for things to be offended over that can be fixed so simply? It's not even an issue, imo, if it can be fixed so easily.