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#126
#126
Volnanza said:
The wife made an arrangement for us to have dinner at a friends house on Saturday night. I ask her if she had lost her mind. I tend to get rather into the game and am not good at conversation while the game is on. My mind is troubled about this. It's like I would ask some beer drinking buddies over to the house while she is doing a baby shower. This is a BAD omen.
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it's well known by all that know me if you want me to attend, you don't schedule on Saturdays during football season.

I didnt attend my wife's sisters wedding because they did not adhere to this well known fact.
 
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#127
topdog4tn said:
it's well known by all that know me if you want me to attend, you don't schedule on Saturdays during football season.

I didnt attend my wife's sisters wedding because they did not adhere to this well known fact.
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Excellent! The only exception is funerals. Sometimes you have to go, but who schedules a funeral on a Saturday--especially Game day Saturday? Are you crazy? We have refrigeration don't we? Now you're going to tell me I'm cold, well, not me but.....
 
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Volnanza said:
The wife made an arrangement for us to have dinner at a friends house on Saturday night. I ask her if she had lost her mind. I tend to get rather into the game and am not good at conversation while the game is on. My mind is troubled about this. It's like I would ask some beer drinking buddies over to the house while she is doing a baby shower. This is a BAD omen.
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I've gotta go to a wedding Saturday night. I'm so pissed.
 
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Well OP, you’ve been married longer than I’ve been alive, so giving advice feels strange, but here goes. You have many options. The two best, in my opinion, are as follows:

1. Finagle the situation to make it tolerable.

Ensure the game will be on at the dinner. Be direct but good-natured about it. Take control of the situation, not in a brazen, bullish way, but in a positive way. Don’t just tag along; make your presence felt at this thing. Offer to help the friend you’re visiting with the set up or food, bring him a bottle of whiskey, something that is assertive in a positive, generous way. Or see if you can get the time or venue changed; offer to grill up ribs for everybody at your place instead! What’s your relationship with the host like, do you have a rapport with him?

2. Consider this a down payment on the future.

Be pleasant about the dinner itself. Tell your wife you’re excited to go, even, but explain that football season is dear to you and you only get 12 UT football Saturdays a year! Be direct, but not harsh. Be earnest, don’t pout. Make sure she’s aware that you don’t object to going along with plans of hers or spending time with her friends, but that UT football Saturdays are sacrosanct. Be clear that you won’t be able to attend social gatherings during game time in the future.

At the dinner, be grace and charm personified (before the game is on; after kickoff all bets are off, but still be nice to the people around you. Trash talk the OU fans in a good-natured way). You are showing your wife that you value the things she cares about (social outings with her friends) and in return you expect her to value the things you care about.

Above all, don’t listen to the people telling you to make an ass out of yourself at dinner. Flatly refusing to go is better than that, but still won’t be best for you long-term. You don’t want her to develop negative associations with you watching football and have to re-litigate this argument 3 or four times a season. You want to nip it in the bud now. Be strong and considerate, and expect the same consideration in return. Be a man standing up for his right to enjoy a favored passtime; some in here are encouraging you to be a toddler pouting over his favorite toy.

Godspeed, brother.
 
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Volnanza said:
47 years. She's been a keeper all that time. The last time something like this came up was during the 5 OT victory over Alabama. I got home in time to watch the end of the game. I forget why we had to go somewhere, but it wasn't her fault that time. I still am warning her that if the game goes bad, that I won't be a lot of fun to be around. She knows this.
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Being that old dont you eat dinner around 4 pm ? @malinoisvol
 
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Voltopia said:
In these scenarios I'm sometimes a fan of malicious compliance. Make it clear that if you have to come, then the game has to come too. Keep the game on the phone at all times. Wear bluetooth earphones so you can hear the game without disturbing the oh-so-important dinner, and when you remove them to hear someone, take out only one and leave the other in. When people try to speak to you, say "excuse me" and hold up one finger to ask for a moment while you listen to some important thing that's being said on the broadcast. Randomly interject stats or play commentary into the conversation. "That's Sampson's third touchdown tonight, he's on pace to set a record." "Pearce got his second sack of the year!" "These targeting reviews are the stupidest thing they've done to football."

And of course, when listening to the pep band after a UT touchdown, be sure to nod your head in time with the band, and give your best and loudest "WOOOO" to the room when the wooo comes 'round.
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Aren't you the devious one? Well played, sir. Take a WOO outta petty cash. :cool:
 
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#139
I’m only off every other weekend. My wife knows not to make plans when a TN football game is on.
xJesusx56 said:
**** your pants. Nobody wants a guy with mud butt around. Rep may take a hit for a bit but at least you can watch the game
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Get there early, **** pants, go home, clean up in time to watch game. If he chooses this idea that would be awesome but damn gross! Lol
 
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Volnanza said:
The wife made an arrangement for us to have dinner at a friends house on Saturday night. I ask her if she had lost her mind. I tend to get rather into the game and am not good at conversation while the game is on. My mind is troubled about this. It's like I would ask some beer drinking buddies over to the house while she is doing a baby shower. This i
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#144
Volnanza said:
The wife made an arrangement for us to have dinner at a friends house on Saturday night. I ask her if she had lost her mind. I tend to get rather into the game and am not good at conversation while the game is on. My mind is troubled about this. It's like I would ask some beer drinking buddies over to the house while she is doing a baby shower. This is a BAD omen.
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Weren't you exposed to someone with covid this afternoon?

(Oops - Chuckie's on this, already!).
 
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One of my favorite stories was a UT grad I knew married a girl from Connecticut back in the 90's. On the honeymoon, he could not find our football game on TV anywhere so for four hours he listened to the game via the phone in their hotel room. This was before cell phones..
They were divorced a short time after that.
 
#147
#147
you should just put her in her place by telling her in no uncertain terms that she is to be seen and not heard, and that her place is being pregnant, barefooted, and in the kitchen cooking YOUR dinner..i mean that works for me all the times ive been married.
 
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Maybe you and some of your buddies get too carried away? Seems like a message here to me.
 
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