Who in here married a woman or knows someone who married a woman who’s sole purpose was to have a child and never work again?

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volfan_28 said:
True love is unconditional. Not something earned through good works. The guy needs to focus on learning how to be a good husband and stop playing the blame game. And no I’m not claiming to be Mr. Perfect... far from it. But accepting responsibility for a situation isn’t difficult. Gotta start there.
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If he does that, she should focus on pulling her weight. Otherwise he's a doormat and things will not end well.
 
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volfan_28 said:
If you think raising kids is easy, it’s your kids who deserve the apology because you weren’t around much, and when you were your mind was somewhere else.
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Raising kids wasn’t hard for us but don’t know if I’d call it easy. We were relatively young and we did pretty much everything with our children. Great time in our lives. I’m sure folks have many different experiences.
 
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walkenvol said:
Raising kids wasn’t hard for us but don’t know if I’d call it easy. We were relatively young and we did pretty much everything with our children. Great time in our lives. I’m sure folks have many different experiences.
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Our son was/is very headstrong and independent, even as a toddler. (He's 19 now). But, he never has been in trouble. Never has come home smelling like weed or alcohol or looked or acted like he'd been into it....and I would definitely know. I've never even heard him cuss, and thanks to his mom he's heard most existing words. He's active outdoors, but he doesn't run the roads, and the friends he does keep post high school are equally good kids. Was it easy, no parenting is. But, he wasn't much trouble either. I can't even confirm he's ever tasted alcohol. I was 19 myself on my first sip. He doesn't smoke. Doesn't dip. Heck, he may have even raised himself.
 
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volfan_28 said:
If you think raising kids is easy, it’s your kids who deserve the apology because you weren’t around much, and when you were your mind was somewhere else.
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What the hell? Sorry you were a bad parent and struggled raising your kids. Get outta here.
 
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GVF said:
Our son was/is very headstrong and independent, even as a toddler. (He's 19 now). But, he never has been in trouble. Never has come home smelling like weed or alcohol or looked or acted like he'd been into it....and I would definitely know. I've never even heard him cuss, and thanks to his mom he's heard most existing words. He's active outdoors, but he doesn't run the roads, and the friends he does keep post high school are equally good kids. Was it easy, no parenting is. But, he wasn't much trouble either. I can't even confirm he's ever tasted alcohol. I was 19 myself on my first sip. He doesn't smoke. Doesn't dip. Heck, he may have even raised himself.
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You’re kid was either sheltered or someone else raised them. If you think your kid hasn’t experienced life yet in some form or fashion you’re out of touch. I did everything under the son. I just never got caught.
 
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Incredible_duck said:
What the hell? Sorry you were a bad parent and struggled raising your kids. Get outta here.
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No, I'm a very good parent. Not perfect. But very good. So is my wife. She's also one of the best therapeutic counselors in the world. Like it or not, I have a good understanding of what good and bad parenting looks like and a good idea of what good and bad spousal treatment looks like.
 
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Incredible_duck said:
You’re kid was either sheltered or someone else raised them. If you think your kid hasn’t experienced life yet in some form or fashion you’re out of touch. I did everything under the son. I just never got caught.
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You would not equate to my son. I didn't live like that when I was young. I never said he hasn't. I said the signs haven't been there. I was a college soph before I ever even drank or had a buzz.
 
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Incredible_duck said:
You’re kid was either sheltered or someone else raised them. If you think your kid hasn’t experienced life yet in some form or fashion you’re out of touch. I did everything under the son. I just never got caught.
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Lack of morals I presume.
 
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volfan_28 said:
True love is unconditional. Not something earned through good works. The guy needs to focus on learning how to be a good husband and stop playing the blame game. And no I’m not claiming to be Mr. Perfect... far from it. But accepting responsibility for a situation isn’t difficult. Gotta start there.
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No, not talking about "good works". There are certain roles and responsibilities that each person has to perform in a marriage. If the wife is not cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children or bringing in any money, then what is that?
 
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Rasputin_Vol said:
No, not talking about "good works". There are certain roles and responsibilities that each person has to perform in a marriage. If the wife is not cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children or bringing in any money, then what is that?
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A sign of depression and an opportunity to make her feel valuable by loving her anyway. I'm not defending the wife's behavior or suggesting that it's okay for someone to go through their life like that, but when people seem unmotivated there's always a reason behind it and it's usually that they don't feel loved(women)/respected(men) or they've lost a sense of purpose in life. It's not a husband's job to fix his wife or a wife's job to fix her husband.... if someone has a spouse who isn't meeting their expectations the best thing they can do is focus on what they can do to make their spouse feel more loved/respected. Reading the 5 love languages book is helpful for most people. Marriage counseling is usually helpful but the success rate is low because most people wait too long before getting help or don't go to counseling until it's ordered by a judge. Pointing fingers just makes things worse.
 
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Firebirdparts said:
I’m working from home, so I find I can do my job in my pajamas. I had a meeting with some guys in Germany just this morning. They don’t know if I have pants on or not.
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Please do not start VNers responding they aren't wearing pants as they post........
 
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After 30 years of doing what she wants all day with no adult supervision, my wife was very afraid that when I retired I would knock her playhouse down. But thanks to Covid, she found out I am the fun one.
 
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...my wife stays at home. Which is fine.

But I'm working on getting a working wife, and possibly business partner wife.
 
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