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#176
#176
mad4vols said:
I need dad advice from the other dads with adult children.
My daughter is 31 years old and she is seeing a married man that has two kids. I’m very disappointed in my daughter with her choice and I’m having a hard time dealing with the situation. Our relationship is fine otherwise but if I try to bring it up and tell her what she is doing is wrong she pushes me away completely.

Has anyone else had to deal with a situation like this?
Any tips on keeping my sanity?
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Sort of went through this with my daughter when she got got engaged, I said that i don't like him and gave my reasons. I only said it once so as not to harp on it but made sure my opinion was heard. She is stubborn as heck and married the moron and realized it is easier to get married than to stay married. We, as parents, have to teach them about making correct decisions but the hardest thing is to allow them to make their own mistakes and learn from them.
 
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mad4vols said:
I need dad advice from the other dads with adult children.
My daughter is 31 years old and she is seeing a married man that has two kids. I’m very disappointed in my daughter with her choice and I’m having a hard time dealing with the situation. Our relationship is fine otherwise but if I try to bring it up and tell her what she is doing is wrong she pushes me away completely.

Has anyone else had to deal with a situation like this?
Any tips on keeping my sanity?
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To me this is one of those times when you need to let them make their own mistakes and be there to pick up the pieces.

Just my opinion of course.
 
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mad4vols said:
I need dad advice from the other dads with adult children.
My daughter is 31 years old and she is seeing a married man that has two kids. I’m very disappointed in my daughter with her choice and I’m having a hard time dealing with the situation. Our relationship is fine otherwise but if I try to bring it up and tell her what she is doing is wrong she pushes me away completely.

Has anyone else had to deal with a situation like this?
Any tips on keeping my sanity?
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I haven’t, but this appears to be one of those things you really can’t do anything about. You’ve told her how you feel about it and that’s about all you can do. That’s a tough one
 
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I taught my daughter three things.

1: Think for yourself.
2: Choose your friends very carefully, your friends will take you down.
3: Keep control of your emotions, panic NEVER helps.

She is now an uber bright, strait A student that HATES everyone and can out think me.

My advice is stand back and let someone else make the mistakes. Take up a socially acceptable numbing habit, and stop worrying about what the f she eats, if you put a healthy diet in front of her, she will eat what she needs to grow her brains.

If you have a boy, throw a ball cap on him and tell him "DON'T KILL ANYONE!"
 
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IluvdoubleD's said:
I taught my daughter three things.

1: Think for yourself.
2: Choose your friends very carefully, your friends will take you down.
3: Keep control of your emotions, panic NEVER helps.

She is now an uber bright, strait A student that HATES everyone and can out think me.

My advice is stand back and let someone else make the mistakes. Take up a socially acceptable numbing habit, and stop worrying about what the f she eats, if you put a healthy diet in front of her, she will eat what she needs to grow her brains.

If you have a boy, throw a ball cap on him and tell him "DON'T KILL ANYONE!"
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That was awesome and made my laugh! Love the last line of advice!
 
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Heard this on Yellowstone and thought it is appropriate for this thread:
Dads try to keep their daughters from getting screwed and try to keep their son's from screwing themselves!
 
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Here's a question for the group, regarding the stepcritters (I have 2, ages 9/F and 15/M):

Is it normal for a pair of kids to be on polar opposite "high and low" cycles? It seems like every 2 or 3 weeks they alternate/exchange the "I'm p*ssed off at everyone and everything, so sod off unless my demands are met" hat for the "all is well in the world and I am a model youth...by the way, is there anything I can help out with" hat. Occasional speedbumps at school or whatever, I get...but it seems to be way more cyclical than that.
 
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Some things I talked to my daughter about.. 1.. I told her to not make the life mistakes I made.. I talked to her about me thinking back on the choice I made and learning from those choices... With a career, or money etc.. 2.. I told her to have a plan and goal.. Put them in place and achieve them.. I didn't live this way as a young adult.. How that you don't need to obtain everything up front.. To build a better home.. Gotta have a rock solid foundation and house plan. It takes steps to achieve it. My plan was to build the walls and roof before breaking ground. I had to learn the hard way on this. 3.. I took her to UTs campus when she was 13... She graduated from UT 😁. She is doing better at this stage in her life than me at any point I think... For all my faults and failures.. I'm truly blessed to see her happy and doing well..
 
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Maybe this is just me ranting rather than looking for advise, but me and my dad never had, and still don’t, a good relationship. He spent most of my childhood and teenage years working and going to school (masters and PhD,) so when he was finally done, I was a senior in HS going to college and we had never done anything together as a father and son.

Now that I have a son, he’s doing this weird thing where he pretends I don’t exist and will take my son (3 weeks old,) to watch TV or listen to music in another room without telling me or my wife. I guess he’s trying to make up for what he missed on, but it drives my wife crazy and I’m about to have to be the bad guy and tell him to knock it off.
 
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