the Gaza war was worse. Hamas attacked with, depending on your source, anywhere from 10k to 20k troops, included at least 1100 MILITARY and 900 CIVILIAN Israeli deaths. I doubt mass rapes, and abductions were lacking there.
There were also several other wars against their Arab neighbors that involved far more troops. easily could have been the death of all/most Jews in Israel had it gone differently.
it may have been the most effective SINGLE attack, but it was no where close to the worst thing Israel has experienced since the Holocaust. and all of those stats you listed wouldn't have occured on a single day, you are having to condense the events of at least a week to make the single day more than it was.