Marriage

If ever been married, have you had a marriage that ended in divorce?

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#855
#855
vol_in_ar said:
well had a good run
15 years and 1 day

ended today at 4 pm
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i have a month to turn mine around. She has filed, she is giving counseling a try but if she doesn't see any hope after 3 sessions (that's the amount i get from work) then she wants it finalized.
 
#857
#857
rmsmith said:
i have a month to turn mine around. She has filed, she is giving counseling a try but if she doesn't see any hope after 3 sessions (that's the amount i get from work) then she wants it finalized.
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Wow, sorry to hear Smitty
 
#860
#860
rmsmith said:
i have a month to turn mine around. She has filed, she is giving counseling a try but if she doesn't see any hope after 3 sessions (that's the amount i get from work) then she wants it finalized.
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That really doesn't seem like enough time or enough of a chance to do much. :ermm:
 
#862
#862
Just became aware over the weekend of a "situation" with my sister and Brother in law. They've got a 9 year old girl and twin 6 year old boys. I'm pretty much beside myself trying to figure out what I can do to help them hold it all together.
 
#863
#863
rmsmith said:
i have a month to turn mine around. She has filed, she is giving counseling a try but if she doesn't see any hope after 3 sessions (that's the amount i get from work) then she wants it finalized.
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Sorry, bro. My experience was that by the time my first wife decided to mention splitting, she had made her mind up. We went to one counseling session and she refused to go to any more saying it was pointless.

Sorry you are going through this.
 
#864
#864
rmsmith said:
i have a month to turn mine around. She has filed, she is giving counseling a try but if she doesn't see any hope after 3 sessions (that's the amount i get from work) then she wants it finalized.
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wish you the best...the counseling didn't work for us, but she wasn't really committed to it, but she checked the box that we went
 
#866
#866
GAVol said:
Just became aware over the weekend of a "situation" with my sister and Brother in law. They've got a 9 year old girl and twin 6 year old boys. I'm pretty much beside myself trying to figure out what I can do to help them hold it all together.
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take thier kids for a week, and let them try here.


Contact Us - National Institute of Marriage

they have a location in GA....

Good Luck
 
#867
#867
GAVol said:
Just became aware over the weekend of a "situation" with my sister and Brother in law. They've got a 9 year old girl and twin 6 year old boys. I'm pretty much beside myself trying to figure out what I can do to help them hold it all together.
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My experience would say there is not much you can do except encourage your sister and brother-in-law to talk it out. Definitely avoid taking sides or giving advice. If their situation is upsetting their kids and if you have a good relationship with your nieces and nephews, perhaps spending more time with the kids would be helpful.
 
#868
#868
TNVolunteerGrad said:
My long time gf and I were talking and she asked a question that kinda stumped me. A short history, we've been together many years, but have been doing long distance the last two years in order for both of us to graduate and get jobs. Now she's moving to houston, we both have great jobs. And we've touched briefly about living together in the future. She asked, whats the big deal with marriage? Why do some guys seem to fear it? If a couple is living together previously, what difference does marriage really make? Just interested to hear some thoughts.
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Essentially, there is no difference (when it comes to love/commitment). Any perceived difference is rooted in what a person artificially attaches to it (most notably the transcendental meaning).

There are obvious legal/tax reasons. Just make sure you protect yourself (prenuptial).
 
#869
#869
GAVol said:
Just became aware over the weekend of a "situation" with my sister and Brother in law. They've got a 9 year old girl and twin 6 year old boys. I'm pretty much beside myself trying to figure out what I can do to help them hold it all together.
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Is it an adultery situation? Even if that's the case and it's is over or one time indescretion it's usually best to go to counseling and try and work it out.
 
#872
#872
volwindy said:
That really doesn't seem like enough time or enough of a chance to do much. :ermm:
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Same here. Although she has gone from "when it's final" to "if we go through with it"

Read a book called divorce busting. It's good and has stories about people in my situation that ended up staying together
 
#873
#873
vader said:
Sorry, bro. My experience was that by the time my first wife decided to mention splitting, she had made her mind up. We went to one counseling session and she refused to go to any more saying it was pointless.

Sorry you are going through this.
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She says hers is made up too. I've noticed small signs of her wavering on that though.
 
#875
#875
rmsmith said:
I've thanked her profusely. I ignored the signs for way too long
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There are resources you can use other than the three counseling sessions you get. And it sounds like you've already started looking into that. :good!:

You and she are in my prayers.
 
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