Marriage

[vol_in_ar]

this sucks, was around the ex and the kids most of the day today, due to a couple of B-day parties..
I see them a lot 3-4 days a week, for their sports, soccer, cheer, TKD, hockey, so it's not unusual to be around them. The kids are doing great, and my ex is sociable and as unemotional about the whole thing as anyone could imagine, but it rips my heart out.

 

[Dave1967]

Marriage sucks,you're better off just having a steady girlfriend.

 

[volmanbill]

this sucks, was around the ex and the kids most of the day today, due to a couple of B-day parties..
I see them a lot 3-4 days a week, for their sports, soccer, cheer, TKD, hockey, so it's not unusual to be around them. The kids are doing great, and my ex is sociable and as unemotional about the whole thing as anyone could imagine, but it rips my heart out.

Hang in there, it will get better. There are plenty of women that are looking for good men and you'll have fun browsing. Just stay away from the bi-polar ones.

Remember, the best revenge is happiness.

 

[vol_in_ar]

Hang in there, it will get better. There are plenty of women that are looking for good men and you'll have fun browsing. Just stay away from the bi-polar ones.

Remember, the best revenge is happiness.

I knew it would be tough, and I'm only 2 weeks into it, so I just need more time to go by

 

[vollygirl]

this sucks, was around the ex and the kids most of the day today, due to a couple of B-day parties..
I see them a lot 3-4 days a week, for their sports, soccer, cheer, TKD, hockey, so it's not unusual to be around them. The kids are doing great, and my ex is sociable and as unemotional about the whole thing as anyone could imagine, but it rips my heart out.

Be good to your kids (including not saying anything bad about their mom regardless of how hard that may get.)

I'm telling you from experience, when parents divorce with kids and one parent downs the other without cause, the kids eventually figure it out.

 

[vol_in_ar]

Be good to your kids (including not saying anything bad about their mom regardless of how hard that may get.)

I'm telling you from experience, when parents divorce with kids and one parent downs the other without cause, the kids eventually figure it out.

agreed, I'm not going to bad mouth her

 

[Slydell]

Arky, Smitty and anyone else, I have no words of wisdom for you. Been awhile since I've been married. You'll fare well and make it through these tough times. Just thinking about y'all.

 

[vol_in_ar]

Thanks, Sly

I'll take the positive thoughts, as I'm sure Smitty will

 

[Burger]

Be good to your kids (including not saying anything bad about their mom regardless of how hard that may get.)

I'm telling you from experience, when parents divorce with kids and one parent downs the other without cause, the kids eventually figure it out.

My dad tried that stunt for a long time. You're absolutely correct volly.

 

[UTVOLKeith]

workin on my ex

 

[UTVOLKeith]

i found some of my ex wife's pants in the closet

i gave her the bag and said if you can fit in these again i'd hit it

 

[vader]

I'm sure it was all she could do to contain her excitement

 

[vol_in_ar]

how'd that turn out

 

[volwindy]

Sorry you guys couldn't make it work.

 

[wildnkrazykat]

This thread helps me be perfectly content being alone. My heart breaks for y'all.

 

[7thgroupvolfan]

Don't replace your wife with alcohol cause alcohol wont love you back. My words of wisdom for this thread.

 

[vol_in_ar]

Don't replace your wife with alcohol cause alcohol wont love you back. My words of wisdom for this thread.

qft

 

[rmsmith]

There are resources you can use other than the three counseling sessions you get. And it sounds like you've already started looking into that. :good!:

You and she are in my prayers.

Thanks
I have this book

it's very helpful.

 

[rmsmith]

Arky, Smitty and anyone else, I have no words of wisdom for you. Been awhile since I've been married. You'll fare well and make it through these tough times. Just thinking about y'all.

thanks Sly. I'm changing all the wrong things I was doing but she says too late. We'll see I guess.

 

[rmsmith]

Don't replace your wife with alcohol cause alcohol wont love you back. My words of wisdom for this thread.

haven't had a drop since a few days before she told me she wanted a divorce.

 

[Ned Ray McWorkher]

This thread helps me be perfectly content being alone. My heart breaks for y'all.

It is worse than I imagined. If I had intended to not be with my family, I would have left.

I'd heard that life is a *****. Now I know her name.

 

[Ned Ray McWorkher]

thanks Sly. I'm changing all the wrong things I was doing but she says too late. We'll see I guess.

There is only one thing you should change.

 

[Ned Ray McWorkher]

Don't replace your wife with alcohol cause alcohol wont love you back. My words of wisdom for this thread.

The only the thing that could replace my wife is my wife, and sometimes your wife won't love you back.

Drinking never really seemed like it would help me deal with losing my family honestly. Nothing can. Like I said before, if there was something I wanted to replace my family with I would have already done it.

 

[Ned Ray McWorkher]

I knew it would be tough, and I'm only 2 weeks into it, so I just need more time to go by

Like eight months, cold turkey. That will fix it for sure.

 

[rmsmith]

There is only one thing you should change.

What's that?