VolNExile
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Looking in from the outside, as everyone else but you must do, I'm glad or grateful or something that you are choosing to share this. There's such a range of views about what it means to survive sexual and physical (and other) trauma, ranging from the jeers of "snowflake" and "toughen up, buttercup" to "OMG that's devastating you can never be what you would have been it's all ruined forever." It's good to have witness of the true ground in between, both the suffering and the strength.One of the things that came out …..or I realized yesterday is that I tend to help people or am involved in charity type work. This is related to things I’m going through. For example I might be the kinda guy who would make his struggles public so that others who are suffering would also decide to seek help. I’m not sure why I do it. Is it trama response to cope and feel better or concern for my fellow man?
I guess I’m going to get to figure it out because this morning I got this in an email.
“Reminder:Begin to explore the difference between the persona you needed to create in response to trauma vs. the parts of you that are not in response to trauma. “
I don’t like this very much
But, with all that, if you need to dial it back or ration or <no idea what the term would be> this stuff for your own healing, then that's what you do. Period. Floating up another prayer for ya.