Parents With Little Screaming Kids

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Coug said:
So if a kid is disturbing you or your dinner and the parent is literally doing nothing to calm him down or console him you're not going to say anything even if you're out at a restaurant and it's been going on for a half hour?
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JMO, but if you feel the need to say something, say it to the wait staff or to management and let them deal with it. Don't confront the parents personally. There's nothing to be gained by that.
 
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#202
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The only way I say something to a parent is if the child were to escalate things to a personal or physical nature. Simply crying loudly is not enough to make me feel like I have to say something personally. If out to eat, it's part of the restaurant staff's responsibility to see that you enjoy your meal. Let them deal with it.
 
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Weezer said:
Trying to see your point, but it's flying above my head. I don't see how any words justify a physical attack. Sure, maybe the girl should have said nothing, but the fact that she did doesn't make it okay for the mother to attack her. What kind of lesson does that teach the child? It's okay to beat on people who disrespect you? Teacher makes you look dumb in class, beat the hell out of him/her. That makes no sense. Poor judgement may have been used on both sides, but one side used poorer judgement.
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Like you said, over your head.
 
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Coug said:
So if a kid is disturbing you or your dinner and the parent is literally doing nothing to calm him down or console him you're not going to say anything even if you're out at a restaurant and it's been going on for a half hour?
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Not saying anything. Never have. May give a look or switch tables, but not saying a word. Especially in a checkout line, which is taking up a whole 3 minutes of my life.
 
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#206
Spartacavolus said:
I don't like being near the huge peanut bucket that everybody else is putting their booger eating fingers into and fingering all the peanuts.

But my kids are awesome. Well behaved. Yessir, nossir. And one is autistic. And I have volunteered for the Autism Foundation for a decade. And I've been around kids, coached 100's of kids, and have been out and about in my 45 years.

And you don't say a damn word to a lady about her child or tell her to go to hell. Period. If you think there is an issue that is a police matter, then you inform someone. Otherwise, you shut your damn mouth, mind your own business, and save your teef, like I said previously.

And people think it's ok to tell someone to go to hell, but oh no, please don't hit me because I verbally assaulted you?
That's part of the problem with kids nowadays. They want to be able to say or do whatever they want, without repurcussions.
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You are absolutely 100% correct, there was no reason to tell the woman to go to hell. But there is nothing wrong with asking politely for a parent to quiet their screaming brat in a public place.

What gives you or anyone else the right to let your kid continually scream, holler and disrupt my meal, movie or anything else?
 
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hog88 said:
You are absolutely 100% correct, there was no reason to tell the woman to go to hell. But there is nothing wrong with asking politely for a parent to quiet their screaming brat in a public place.

What gives you or anyone else the right to let your kid continually scream, holler and disrupt my meal, movie or anything else?
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Maybe I don't like your crunching or chewing with your mouth open. Maybe your significant other is an eyesore and making me not enjoy my biscuit. Maybe the sound of both of your voices grates on my last nerve...see where I'm going? It's not your restaurant, movie or area to dictate what somebody else does. Maybe I go to the table and tell you that your woman is ugly and ruining my meal, along with your voices. I guess nothing is wrong with that?
 
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Spartacavolus said:
Maybe I don't like your crunching or chewing with your mouth open. Maybe your significant other is an eyesore and making me not enjoy my biscuit. Maybe the sound of both of your voices grates on my last nerve...see where I'm going? It's not your restaurant, movie or area to dictate what somebody else does. Maybe I go to the table and tell you that your woman is ugly and ruining my meal, along with your voices. I guess nothing is wrong with that?
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Unbelievable. If you cannot differentiate between a the annoyance of a continually screaming kid and you're examples above, you have serious problems. One of them being self centered.

To your second to last sentence, if you feel you must then by all means please do so.
 
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hog88 said:
Unbelievable. If you cannot differentiate between a the annoyance of a continually screaming kid and you're examples above, you have serious problems. One of them being self centered.

To your second to last sentence, if you feel you must then by all means please do so.
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Do you have kids? Maybe to some, your crunching and sloppy eating is more annoying than a kid having a fit, which usually doesnt last more than a couple of minutes. Your eating may be annoying for an hour.
 
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Spartacavolus said:
Do you have kids? Maybe to some, your crunching and sloppy eating is more annoying than a kid having a fit, which usually doesnt last more than a couple of minutes. Your eating may be annoying for an hour.
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I have raised 2 to be successful adults. The couple times they acted up like this, one of us took them outside and corrected the behavior like responsible parents should.

A couple minutes of unruly is one thing, what I experienced Sunday was 1/2 an hour at least of constant screaming and crying! There is NO excuse for subjecting others to that.

Again you are proving to be one self centered individual.
 
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hog88 said:
I have raised 2 to be successful adults. The couple times they acted up like this, one of us took them outside and corrected the behavior like responsible parents should.

A couple minutes of unruly is one thing, what I experienced Sunday was 1/2 an hour at least of constant screaming and crying! There is NO excuse for subjecting others to that.

Again you are proving to be one self centered individual.
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I'm discussing the topic and giving various angles that people may look at it. Usually people don't like other perspectives. I love them.
And 30 minutes is a long time. I'd be $1000 it was more like 10. If it got to 15, no reason not to ask a manager to move them or move you due to bothering other customers.
In my 4 decades around kids, I've never heard one at a restaurant go off for 30 minutes. Not even close.
 
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Spartacavolus said:
I'm discussing the topic and giving various angles that people may look at it. Usually people don't like other perspectives. I love them.
And 30 minutes is a long time. I'd be $1000 it was more like 10. If it got to 15, no reason not to ask a manager to move them or move you due to bothering other customers.
In my 4 decades around kids, I've never heard one at a restaurant go off for 30 minutes. Not even close.
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You are lucky.

I gave you a perspective that there is nothing wrong with POLITLEY asking a parent to quiet a bothersome child. You then went off on a childish tirade.
 
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hog88 said:
You are lucky.

I gave you a perspective that there is nothing wrong with POLITLEY asking a parent to quiet a bothersome child. You then went off on a childish tirade.
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childish tirade? not quite. If you want to say something to a parent, then why didn't you? You are talking on here like it's no big deal, yet you refused to say a word when it just happened to you. Why is that?

And btw, that scenario is a tad different than skinny girl in line turning to say "could you please quiet your child. He's giving me a headache and it's right in my ear." followed by a response from the mom and a "go to hell" by the "victim".
 
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Spartacavolus said:
childish tirade? not quite. If you want to say something to a parent, then why didn't you? You are talking on here like it's no big deal, yet you refused to say a word when it just happened to you. Why is that?

And btw, that scenario is a tad different than skinny girl in line turning to say "could you please quiet your child. He's giving me a headache and it's right in my ear." followed by a response from the mom and a "go to hell" by the "victim".
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I didn't because my wife asked me not to, we did move tables, as did others.
 
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hog88 said:
I didn't because my wife asked me not to, we did move tables, as did others.
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your wife is smart and taking a minute to change tables instead of acting like an ahole to a parent in an already tense situation shouldn't have been a big deal in the least.
You got to know when to hold em. Know when to fold em. Know when to walk away. Know when to run.
 
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hog88 said:
You are absolutely 100% correct, there was no reason to tell the woman to go to hell. But there is nothing wrong with asking politely for a parent to quiet their screaming brat in a public place.

What gives you or anyone else the right to let your kid continually scream, holler and disrupt my meal, movie or anything else?
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How could you possibly say this? The woman told the mom to go to hell in response to what the mother said and there is no telling what that was but I'm sure it wasn't friendly.
 
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utvolpj said:
The thing most people without kids fail to realize is that there is no one who wants the kid to be quiet more than the parent. Saying something to the parent does absolutely nothing to help the situation and can only make it worse. This girl learned that lesson the hard way
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Wait... you are assuming that this is an attack on responsible and reasonable parents. This is obviously an attack on someone that does not know how to act in a civilized society. Big difference between a parent that is overwhelmed and going about things the right way and this case. The fact that she chased her down in the parking lot proves that she is unstable.
 
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Spartacavolus said:
And when you verbally tell somebody to go to hell, all bets are off, imo.
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So let me make sure I understand what you are saying... Assaulting someone after they tell you to go to hell is an understandable (if not acceptable) response. They haven't physically touched you, but they did say something that pushed your buttons that triggered an emotion response.

Let me make sure I have this on record and have anyone that agrees or disagrees with this sentiment speak on this.
 
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#223
Spartacavolus said:
I don't like being near the huge peanut bucket that everybody else is putting their booger eating fingers into and fingering all the peanuts.

But my kids are awesome. Well behaved. Yessir, nossir. And one is autistic. And I have volunteered for the Autism Foundation for a decade. And I've been around kids, coached 100's of kids, and have been out and about in my 45 years.

And you don't say a damn word to a lady about her child or tell her to go to hell. Period. If you think there is an issue that is a police matter, then you inform someone. Otherwise, you shut your damn mouth, mind your own business, and save your teef, like I said previously.

And people think it's ok to tell someone to go to hell, but oh no, please don't hit me because I verbally assaulted you?

That's part of the problem with kids nowadays. They want to be able to say or do whatever they want, without repurcussions.
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Boy you said a mouth full right here.

1. Get the police involved? Is that an option that this poor assaulted woman should have used? I'm just asking is calling the police on the table... I just want to understand.

2. The mother that chased the other poor woman outside and attacked her taught her child that if violence solves any problems where someone "disrespects you" and damages you pride. Just curious, but do you know how many people are hurt/injured over foolish pride? Especially in these poor inner city or rural areas? Please, help me to understand where you are going with this.
 
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Weezer said:
JMO, but if you feel the need to say something, say it to the wait staff or to management and let them deal with it. Don't confront the parents personally. There's nothing to be gained by that.
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You know what, that is a very interesting position, because it is lose-lose. Either you are a snake/rat for anonymously snitching on another table for noise or you confront them yourself and get labeled as rude and open yourself up to a potential parking lot beatdown.

Either way, the noise and disturbance issue has to be resolved, and it is not other people's responsibility or a courtesy they have to extend for them to deal with a loud, misbehaved child.
 
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