We've pulled it together a little bit now but the idea of losing someone I've been with for 35 years and really the only woman I've ever loved still doesn't seem possible. I shed more tears in two days than the rest of my adult life put together.
I would encourage you to do your own research. My uncle had one of the best cancer doctors in his area, who specialized in the cancer my uncle had.
He offered my uncle a choice between two treatment alternatives. And told him to look at them and make a choice. The doctor did not see a preferred choice between the two.
One week later, my uncle walked into his office and plopped down a 3rd treatment option and said, "I like this one better that the ones you offered me."
The doctor looked at it and said, "I do not know this doctor and I have never heard of this treatment. Can you give me a few days to make some calls and let's make a decision then."
On the return visit, The doctor indicated that he was whole heartedly in support ... and that the 3rd option did appear to be superior to the other two choices!
Also, my mother-in-law could not overcome her fight with cancer, we found it too late. It was in her bones and had spread too far too far, but there was a fantastic innovative new study being done across the street - that he tried to get her in ... unfortunately she did not qualify. Ultimately, she choose not to spend their life savings on a battle that the doctor said was not winnable.
May God guide your research and the choices that the family must make. God bless you and your wife.