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#101
#101
vols72 said:
We get to see her this morning and have our first family session. You guys are amazing I can't tell you how much this means to me. Thank you and keep those prayers coming
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Still praying for your daughter.

Also praying for you, and the rest of your family, that you encounter people who can counsel you and equip you with the things you'll need (sometimes that's remembering to take care of your yourselves too) to be the most help for your daughter.
 
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vollygirl said:
Still praying for your daughter.

Also praying for you, and the rest of your family, that you encounter people who can counsel you and equip you with the things you'll need (sometimes that's remembering to take care of your yourselves too) to be the most help for your daughter.
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Thank you Volly
 
#103
#103
vols72 said:
We get to see her this morning and have our first family session. You guys are amazing I can't tell you how much this means to me. Thank you and keep those prayers coming
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All my love and positive thoughts to you, your little girl and family.
 
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#104
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vols72 said:
We get to see her this morning and have our first family session. You guys are amazing I can't tell you how much this means to me. Thank you and keep those prayers coming
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vols72, you betcha those prayers will keep coming!! We are here for you plus as TENNESSEE FANS, we stick together!!!

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InVOLuntary said:
I've heard that it is common in these cases to blame yourself. DON'T blame yourself. Teenagers' thought processes are sometimes hard to understand.
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Reiterate this. My son had a female friend in school do this a few months ago right after she got home from school. He couldn't understand, said she was fine that day - cutting up, laughing, no sign of anything wrong. This scenario is very common. (The no signs, etc.)
Anyways the theory is that where teens brains are not quite fully developed, and their decision making tends to be more spontaneous/rushed/irrational. Reason is the limbic system (responsible for emotional response) develops and matures quicker than the prefrontal cortex (the part of your brain responsible for thinking ahead and sizing up risks and rewards). So when a teen makes a decision in an emotionally charged situation it tends to be more on feelings instead of logic. This is also why a lot of times they make bad decisions without thinking of consequences like drugs, etc.
 
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jhamilton1208 said:
Reiterate this. My son had a female friend in school do this a few months ago right after she got home from school. He couldn't understand, said she was fine that day - cutting up, laughing, no sign of anything wrong. This scenario is very common. (The no signs, etc.)
Anyways the theory is that where teens brains are not quite fully developed, and their decision making tends to be more spontaneous/rushed/irrational. Reason is the limbic system (responsible for emotional response) develops and matures quicker than the prefrontal cortex (the part of your brain responsible for thinking ahead and sizing up risks and rewards). So when a teen makes a decision in an emotionally charged situation it tends to be more on feelings instead of logic. This is also why a lot of times they make bad decisions without thinking of consequences like drugs, etc.
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This is almost word for word what the therapist told us today.
 
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#111
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It's a long tough road. Don't let yourselves get discouraged. Just like any other disease --and this is a disease, not a weakness etc. --it takes a while to get things back on track. Time helps a lot, and as always, lots and lots and lots of love and patience.

I'm so glad to hear that your daughter has medically recovered enough to start this next crucial stage! Prayers continuing for you and yours. {{{{hugs}}}}
 
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#112
#112
vols72 said:
Can't stop crying,don't know how to act. I'm just lost right now
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You might want to ask your Dr for some xanax or something for anxiety -- things will be rough the next month or so -- just the lowest dose will help you - at least it worked for me
 
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vols72 said:
Can't stop crying,don't know how to act. I'm just lost right now
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Crying is good. Let it go, don't try and hold it in.

One emotion I experienced at one point was actually anger. Taking your own life or attempting to is a selfish act(they're not thinking about that at the time because they're stuck in their own head). It's done with complete disregard to everyone around that loves and cares about them. They don't think about how it hurts and affects those closest to them.
 
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vols72 said:
Can't stop crying,don't know how to act. I'm just lost right now
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Let it out. But just know it will get better. I don't want to say it's a long road, but it will be a hard one, and in the end it's worth it. The one piece of advice I will give is to be open, honest, and your authentic self.
 
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My prayers are with you. As someone who is bipolar, I can tell you that you can live with mental illness. It won't be an easy road for her, but she can make it through. And you can rack your brain all you want, but you'll never understand mental illness unless you experience it. What you can do is hug her every day and tell her you love her. Remind her just how important she is to you. Never take the time we have for granted. Try to engage her into family activities to distract her from her depression. Family is the most important thing we have.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be strong for your little girl, and love her. More than anything, just love her.
 
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Weezer said:
My prayers are with you. As someone who is bipolar, I can tell you that you can live with mental illness. It won't be an easy road for her, but she can make it through. And you can rack your brain all you want, but you'll never understand mental illness unless you experience it. What you can do is hug her every day and tell her you love her. Remind her just how important she is to you. Never take the time we have for granted. Try to engage her into family activities to distract her from her depression. Family is the most important thing we have.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be strong for your little girl, and love her. More than anything, just love her.
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This.
 
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#118
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Right now and I know it sounds crazy but the only thing keeping me sain is a long hot shower. It just slows my mind down.
 
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#119
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Coug said:
Crying is good. Let it go, don't try and hold it in.

One emotion I experienced at one point was actually anger. Taking your own life or attempting to is a selfish act(they're not thinking about that at the time because they're stuck in their own head). It's done with complete disregard to everyone around that loves and cares about them. They don't think about how it hurts and affects those closest to them.
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This is so true!

People say, "Oh, it's not fair to blame the patient (the one who attempted suicide) for making you feel angry", but then, whose fault is it? Most family members aren't monsters; they're just everyday people who muddled along, maybe not really thinking about what should really be important, or just as likely, not having the gift of foresight to know what should have been done. (We live in a world with seriously effed up priorities.)

When we do our damndest to do the right thing, even if it turns out to be wrong, should we really be punished for the rest of our lives with the guilt resulting from a suicide?

Life is tough. None of us are perfect. Practice forgiveness toward others, with the humble hope that some might be given to us.

Namaste, y'all. :hi:
 
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vols72 said:
Right now and I know it sounds crazy but the only thing keeping me sain is a long hot shower. It just slows my mind down.
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Something about hot water relaxes us. The way you keep your sanity, though, is to realize your daughter is fighting a disease. Depression, bipolar, schizophrenia; mental illnesses are just as much a disease as diabetes, or epilepsy, or any other disease. There is a cause. It's a chemical imbalance in the brain. You've done nothing wrong. You are not to blame. All you can do is try to understand the physical side of the disease. There are meds that can possibly help. The hard thing for the doctors will be finding the right one. I can't even tell you the number of drugs I've been prescribed over the years. With drugs designed to fight mental illness, everyone reacts different, so it's a crap shoot until you find one that works. But you'll learn this through experience. Your daughter has a tough road ahead. All you can do is be there for her, remind her how much you love and need her, and realize you are not at fault. You have nothing to feel guilty about. It's a parent's natural reaction to want to ease their child's burden, and to feel guilty when they can't, but you have done nothing wrong. Please, remember that. This is not on you.

I wish you and your daughter peace.
 
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#123
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It's been a tough day,we found the letter and a journal while cleaning out her room. I just don't understand how I missed it. I should have seen it sooner
 
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