Prayers Please

[goldenvol]

We are when we go up sat. They are aware of it

Can she call you if she wants or is communication only allowed with counselor present for awhile ?

 

[vols72]

Can she call you if she wants or is communication only allowed with counselor present for awhile ?

Only on certain days. She gets to call Fri night. We got to see her yesterday for the first time,I almost lost it

 

[OldandStillaVol]

Only on certain days. She gets to call Fri night. We got to see her yesterday for the first time,I almost lost it

Ask if you can deliver things like newspapers, cartoon books, magazines, puzzles, encouraging cards, etc. She is getting good counseling but may feel lonely. Hang in there, it WILL get better.

 

[508mikey]

Ask if you can deliver things like newspapers, cartoon books, magazines, puzzles, encouraging cards, etc. She is getting good counseling but may feel lonely. Hang in there, it WILL get better.

chances are she sleeps alot right now being new to the anti depressants they give her

 

[Dustin4Vols]

Prayers!!

 

[volmanbill]

Right now and I know it sounds crazy but the only thing keeping me sain is a long hot shower. It just slows my mind down.

When it comes to our kids, we just don't know how we will handle things. My daughter was in a bad accident 8 years ago and I would drive to the top of the parking garage and down again, unable to "choose" a spot when I would leave to shower, etc. I could make a big medical decision, but not one on a parking spot. I also leaned on this site to vent and feel the support. It's amazing the difference the people here can make when the chips are down.

My advice is to show her the strength of your love. Let her know that nothing is more important than family and that together you can conquer all. Hug her and hold her tight. There is nothing more important as parents than our kids, whether we always understand them or not.

 

[vols72]

Ask if you can deliver things like newspapers, cartoon books, magazines, puzzles, encouraging cards, etc. She is getting good counseling but may feel lonely. Hang in there, it WILL get better.

Right now she can't uless it's something already there

 

[vols72]

chances are she sleeps alot right now being new to the anti depressants they give her

They started her today on a low dose of efexor and they will work her up. It's probably the best thing out there for this and it was what I was hoping they would put her on.

 

[Weezer]

They started her today on a low dose of efexor and they will work her up. It's probably the best thing out there for this and it was what I was hoping they would put her on.

Hopefully the efexor works, but don't be surprised or disappointed if they have to try different meds. When I was first diagnosed, I went through a lot of meds to find the right mix that worked. When it comes to depression meds, you name it, and there's a good chance I was on it at one time.

 

[vols72]

Hopefully the efexor works, but don't be surprised or disappointed if they have to try different meds. When I was first diagnosed, I went through a lot of meds to find the right mix that worked. When it comes to depression meds, you name it, and there's a good chance I was on it at one time.

That's what they told us also. I know the effexor worked for my wife the best. It only had one side effect that kinda didn't work for me if you know what I mean

 

[Weezer]

It's been a tough day,we found the letter and a journal while cleaning out her room. I just don't understand how I missed it. I should have seen it sooner

Are you saying you should have seen signs in her earlier? If so, let that go. You couldn't know how badly depressed she was. Those of us who have the disease, we internalize it. We don't show it to the world, and most especially don't show it to those we love. It's a fear of being seen as weak, because most cannot recognize what they're experiencing as the disease that it is. Even having the disease myself, I couldn't see it in my cousin. He committed suicide when he was 14 years old. When it first happened, I was racked with guilt, because I thought I, of all people, should have seen signs. But the truth is, when they don't want to show how they feel, you can't see how they feel. There are no true tell tale signs.

As I said before, you have nothing to feel guilty about. I know it's hard for you to see that right now because she is your baby girl. But to move forward, you need to let go of that guilt and just focus on loving her, and letting her know how important she is to you. If she senses guilt in you, she will feel guilty and continue to shut down her feelings where you cannot see them. Honestly, sometimes I feel like those of us who live with this disease day in and day out, we're more empathic than the average person. It's easier for us to sense what and how others are feeling. So you feeling guilty for something you couldn't have seen only serves a negative purpose. She'll blame herself for you feeling that way, and that doesn't help her move forward.

 

[Weezer]

That's what they told us also. I know the effexor worked for my wife the best. It only had one side effect that kinda didn't work for me if you know what I mean

I'm sure you won't mind if your baby girl experiences the same side effect, lol. You'll be able to put the shotgun away for awhile. :birgits_giggle:

 

[Weezer]

You know, it's ironic. Since I was a teenager, I've lived with my BPD, a disease which makes me think of killing myself. Now I'm dying from cirrhosis. My only shot is if a tissue match liver becomes available for transplant. It gives you perspective on life.

 

[vols72]

Weezer my thoughts and prayers are with you buddy. Thank you for your words they do help. I'll get past it it's just to fresh right now

 

[wildnkrazykat]

Can't stop crying,don't know how to act. I'm just lost right now

I don't have kids, so I can't imagine, but you can't blame yourself for not seeing/knowing. I struggled for years with depression and still do on occassion. When all that stuff gets going in your brain, it's hard for anyone else to pull you out of it. Just be there and support her. Hopefully just getting it out in the open will be a big first step.

 

[vols72]

Got to talk to her earlier,she sounds a little better but I don't think she's had that ah ha moment yet. We get to go see her tomorrow and I can't wait to just be able to put my arms around her. I'm starting to get to the mad stage,haven't let myself go there but everyone tells me I should. Went to the Dr today and I've lost 11lbs in about 4 days he was a little worried about it and put med on a mild anxiety med. The new Wonder Woman trailer drops tomorrow and it's a movie she and I have been waiting to see. I told her I wouldn't watch it till she came home so we could watch it together. Sorry I know I'm rambling but it helps to just get it out. Thank you guys again for letting me vent to ya'll

 

[kayakonthefly]

Got to talk to her earlier,she sounds a little better but I don't think she's had that ah ha moment yet. We get to go see her tomorrow and I can't wait to just be able to put my arms around her. I'm starting to get to the mad stage,haven't let myself go there but everyone tells me I should. Went to the Dr today and I've lost 11lbs in about 4 days he was a little worried about it and put med on a mild anxiety med. The new Wonder Woman trailer drops tomorrow and it's a movie she and I have been waiting to see. I told her I wouldn't watch it till she came home so we could watch it together. Sorry I know I'm rambling but it helps to just get it out. Thank you guys again for letting me vent to ya'll

5 stages of grief. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
Anger is a necessary stage. Let yourself feel it. Anger can be a structure where you were feeling lost. The problem is society wants you to quell anger. It's not looked at favorably. Under that anger is more than likely a ton more of emotions. Once anger is worked through, you can tackle the others that come along. The key is not getting stuck in any one emotion, especially depression, which can lead to despair.

I told you earlier - it's a hard road ahead. Feelings suck. I know, I used to not have any. But that sucks worse.

 

[joevol33]

Got to talk to her earlier,she sounds a little better but I don't think she's had that ah ha moment yet. We get to go see her tomorrow and I can't wait to just be able to put my arms around her. I'm starting to get to the mad stage,haven't let myself go there but everyone tells me I should. Went to the Dr today and I've lost 11lbs in about 4 days he was a little worried about it and put med on a mild anxiety med. The new Wonder Woman trailer drops tomorrow and it's a movie she and I have been waiting to see. I told her I wouldn't watch it till she came home so we could watch it together. Sorry I know I'm rambling but it helps to just get it out. Thank you guys again for letting me vent to ya'll

Ramble all you want my friend. I come here every time I see there's been a new post to look for updates, or what you've said like this. It helps us all to know how to direct our prayers for that moment. Just know we're still praying.

 

[vols72]

Got to go see her today,as soon as the doors opened she had a smile on her face I haven't seen in awhile. She ran up and just grabbed us and told us she loved us. She seemed to have a little of that light back in her eyes. I know now she's in the best place she could be. I've even had a little of a better day myself.

 

[vollygirl]

Continuing prayers for y'all 72. Glad to hear this news.

 

[Ulysees E. McGill]

Praying for you, and your family. This is good news.

 

[CardiacKid]

Still praying for your family and everyone involved, 72. Keep the faith.

 

[joevol33]

Awesome news!

 

[hmanvolfan]

That is fantastic news.

 

[vols72]

Today has been a little tough,it was one week ago today it happened. Just trying to get this day over. We both sleep better last night and for the first time since I was able to turn the lamp off in the bedroom.