Recruiting Forum Football Talk III

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Catbone said:
We lived together and I had a ring for her, was planning on proposing this fall. Got the ring and everything.. ain't quitting that easily Chief
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Ultimately your decision either way, but just know that it's far easier to walk away sometimes in hard situations. Best of luck either way. It's interesting though, apparently cohabitation prior to marriage leads to more struggles when married and a higher divorce rate because of it.

Premarital Cohabitation Is Still Associated With Greater Odds of Divorce
 
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Glitch said:
Good luck buddy. My wife broke it off with me at one point and then we got back together. We have been married for 17 years now. It takes two people wanting to be together though. If one isn't bought in then you will wear yourself out trying and she won't care. I would recommend reading "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman together. If you can each figure out how to speak the other's love language then it will be extraordinarily helpful.

Amazon.com : five love languages of love
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My love language is the only thing I ask for every christmas, birthday, or any other special occasion… being taken care of sexually…. Cooked my favorite food……. Turn on the game….. take the kids and leave…… still not received that gift going on 11 years.
 
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volbeast33 said:
I like their info but made me shake my head when they said they thought it was Brian Maurer’s job to lose coming out of the spring.
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Tbf wasn't he in the lead at some point? Can't remember now, but thought he might have been leading post-Spring, but maybe it was considered Hooker.
 
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MoCo_Vol said:
Are you even married?

I mean it's great you're willing to work on yourself and such, but if it's not to save a marriage you've been in for years I'd break that ish off. Wouldn't even think about couples therapy for just a dating type relationship.
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This is so, so true. Even marriages that start at the very top end of perfect and happy become super, super hard at times. If you don't start close to that top end of perfect and happy, marriage will be a living hell when it eventually comes down off the height of happiness that you are in while dating. If you're dating someone and it's so contentious and stressful that you need therapy, that means marriage will be 1000000000000000x more stressful and contentious. The whole point of dating is to see if your relationship gets contentious and stressful before it's too late (or too expensive) to get out of that relationship.
 
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Maxwell865 said:
-Nemith
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Such a big difference imo. We caught it ourselves to some degree, at least it seemed. Believe someone from compliance or the AD was the one that came forward.

Missouri never would have known a thing if not for the tutor. That's why they got popped so badly. Internal controls. It's as important as what happened.
 
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Devo182 said:
Tbf wasn't he in the lead at some point? Can't remember now, but thought he might have been leading post-Spring, but maybe it was considered Hooker.
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Hooker 1st Maurer 2nd and then Bailey but fans moved Bailey to 1 bc of the orange and white game.
 
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Ten_Titans said:
That's like telling the judge to suck it during sentencing after pleading guilty and signing an in depth confession.

"If you give me a punishment I don't like I'm gonna take it all back."

Not how it works. We're past that. We were past that in February. I don't know why people keep saying this lol.
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Because they seemingly think the NCAA is going to disappear in the next month or something. I don't get it either. The NCAA is stepping back...yeah from NiL. They are still the member association all universities control and are tasked to take input from universities, set and enforce rules. Guess that could change...years down the road. That would be a MASSIVE overhaul. And then the new organizing body would just punish us anyway. All universities want rules and want them enforced. That is all the NCAA is - the desires of all the universities.
 
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jave36 said:
Financially, psychologically, emotionally, every way dangerous. Staying in a bad dating relationship and trying to force it into marriage is exactly what he said, dangerous.
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Financially maybe….. I’m a guy….. psychologically and emotionally will never be a factor.
 
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volbeast33 said:
Hooker 1st Maurer 2nd and then Bailey but fans moved Bailey to 1 bc of the orange and white game.
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Guess we ignored the part where he struggled all rest of Spring. I guess if he had been the best both scrimmages, that would've been a sign for HB.

Oh well. Now he has time to develop and get better. Needs to get faster processing, reading, not holding ball, accuracy, etc. Not sure if one can develop arm strength, but I'm sure Hype could morph the offense to his strengths/weaknesses if needed.
 
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Devo182 said:
Guess we ignored the part where he struggled all rest of Spring. I guess if he had been the best both scrimmages, that would've been a sign for HB.

Oh well. Now he has time to develop and get better. Needs to get faster processing, reading, not holding ball, accuracy, etc. Not sure if one can develop arm strength, but I'm sure Hype could morph the offense to his strengths/weaknesses if needed.
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Yeah….. he is not ideal for the offense but seems like he has been improving
 
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Catbone said:
Thank you I appreciate that. I'm giving this one shot and if she's not going to give some effort herself after I've bent over backwards for her then I'm absolutely moving on.
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Good for trying. I disagree with people downplaying a serious dating relationship. That's weird to me. Dating can be nearly as serious as marriage, of course. My wife and I dated for 10 years and lived together for 5 before marriage. We just weren't in a rush to dump 15k until we were completely set with careers, grad schools, etc. Doesn't mean it wasn't as serious. We might as well have been married.

Do what you need to do to save a relationship worth it to YOU.

Though I do agree, if she isn't 100% in it as you are, that's really tough to swallow, but that's where I'd cut it off too.
 
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Cosmo Kramer said:
Trust everyone on here who is or has been married. If you are having to do this now it’s only going to get worse. Consider Volnation your therapist, lawyer, and divorce attorney.
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Not really. Glitch said he broke up. My parents broke up before marriage. Then married all their lives, very happily, until my dad passed.

I don't think it's that simple or cookie cutter for everyone else. Married people just think they know everything about it, for everyone. People are all different.
 
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Devo182 said:
Not really. Glitch said he broke up. My parents broke up before marriage. Then married all their lives, very happily, until my dad passed.

I don't think it's that simple or cookie cutter for everyone else. Married people just think they know everything about it, for everyone. People are all different.
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Just saying if it is this difficult now in the engagement phase you better be damn careful
 
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