Recruiting Forum Football Talk LIX

[bignewt]

Patience.

Rash emotional decisions are rarely wise decisions.

If she wants to work on it, you owe it to your family to explore that. Many couples have worked through this and had wondered faithful marriages afterwards. Be a success story (as much as depends on you) not another failure.

Once a cheater always a cheater, especially in the mind of the betrayed.

 

[jjay2518]

I appreciate all the words of wisdom. We have 2 children together 9 and 4. I found out by snapchat which she then said all they did was send pictures. I had her phone and talked as her then found out that it had been physical. It only happened once but they continued to talk and hide it afterwards. He sent me his address cause when i was acting like her i said i needed it again. I jumped in my truck and tore down the road. I continued to snap while driving and found out that he didn't know who I was or that I existed. I then told him this is her husband and you just saved your life. He apologized profusely saying hes not like that he doesn't mess with other men's wives she told him we were divorced. As angry as I was I couldn't see how me going and breaking his face was fair when all he thought he was doing was talking to a single mom. The part that gets me even more is we had been fine no fighting no more arguing than what was normal(minimal). It didn't happen on fathers day it happened April 6 which was 3 days after we just got back from our amazing week vacation in the mountains. I'm in a bad spot and I'm scared She was my world my high school sweetheart been together 12 years I'm only 27(married for 8) I dont want to be over but I dont know how I can forgive her I cant think of how she can make this up to me. She says she wants to ans loves me and all of that but how can she... this isn't the first time it's happened in the past but we were young and immature. I thought she was past this. I cannot imagine her not in my life and I cant figure out how to forgive her.


Sorry for the long post.

I'd be gone without question. That's just me though.

 

[nicksjuzunk]

Once a cheater always a cheater, especially in the mind of the betrayed.

Only for those who choose to hold onto it.

I’m not going to debate this. You either live with a lens of grace and forgiveness or “what she did and what I deserve.” You can’t have both, and I don’t I’m not really interested in debating the merits of each. Everyone makes mistakes, and I’m in no place to judge why she did what she did, or the moral canvas of the rest of her life. I find the “cut bait” response without further knowledge of the situation highly irresponsible and destructive... most likely based if the hurt others have experienced.

My opinion is there

:hi: have a good one fellas

 

[HoleInTheRoof]

I never dealt with cheating in my (failed) marriage, but I was cheated on in serious relationship that I at one time thought would be my second marriage. Also found out through social media. Long story short, this girls dad was in the hospital so she called me all panicky and asked me to drive her because she was too upset. On the way she realized she forgot her phone at home, and needed to use mine to contact her sister. Realized she didn't have her sisters number memorized, so she logged me off of my FB app and logged in hers to message her sister. Only problem was, when we got to the hospital and she ran inside to see her dad, she forgot to log off of FB on my phone. So I'm parking the car and I get a message from a guy on my phone talking about what a great time he had with her the other night.


Re: marriage counseling - I tried that in my marriage before the divorce. Call me jaded and cynical (I am) but I hated it. You're basically paying someone a lot of money to listen to you argue. I'm stubborn as hell and my ex is too, so it was a complete waste of time.

 

[volfanCLT]

Only for those who choose to hold onto it.

I’m not going to debate this. You either live with a lens of grace and forgiveness or “what she did and what I deserve.” You can’t have both, and I don’t I’m not really interested in debating the merits of each. Everyone makes mistakes, and I’m in no place to judge why she did what she did, or the moral canvas of the rest of her life. I find the “cut bait” response without further knowledge of the situation highly irresponsible and destructive... most likely based if the hurt others have experienced.

My opinion is there

:hi: have a good one fellas

Wise words

 

[billwilson]

I appreciate all the words of wisdom. We have 2 children together 9 and 4. I found out by snapchat which she then said all they did was send pictures. I had her phone and talked as her then found out that it had been physical. It only happened once but they continued to talk and hide it afterwards. He sent me his address cause when i was acting like her i said i needed it again. I jumped in my truck and tore down the road. I continued to snap while driving and found out that he didn't know who I was or that I existed. I then told him this is her husband and you just saved your life. He apologized profusely saying hes not like that he doesn't mess with other men's wives she told him we were divorced. As angry as I was I couldn't see how me going and breaking his face was fair when all he thought he was doing was talking to a single mom. The part that gets me even more is we had been fine no fighting no more arguing than what was normal(minimal). It didn't happen on fathers day it happened April 6 which was 3 days after we just got back from our amazing week vacation in the mountains. I'm in a bad spot and I'm scared She was my world my high school sweetheart been together 12 years I'm only 27(married for 8) I dont want to be over but I dont know how I can forgive her I cant think of how she can make this up to me. She says she wants to ans loves me and all of that but how can she... this isn't the first time it's happened in the past but we were young and immature. I thought she was past this. I cannot imagine her not in my life and I cant figure out how to forgive her.


Sorry for the long post.

Slip out the back Jack, get a new plan Stan....

 

[Outofmyvolcanmind]

I appreciate all the words of wisdom. We have 2 children together 9 and 4. I found out by snapchat which she then said all they did was send pictures. I had her phone and talked as her then found out that it had been physical. It only happened once but they continued to talk and hide it afterwards. He sent me his address cause when i was acting like her i said i needed it again. I jumped in my truck and tore down the road. I continued to snap while driving and found out that he didn't know who I was or that I existed. I then told him this is her husband and you just saved your life. He apologized profusely saying hes not like that he doesn't mess with other men's wives she told him we were divorced. As angry as I was I couldn't see how me going and breaking his face was fair when all he thought he was doing was talking to a single mom. The part that gets me even more is we had been fine no fighting no more arguing than what was normal(minimal). It didn't happen on fathers day it happened April 6 which was 3 days after we just got back from our amazing week vacation in the mountains. I'm in a bad spot and I'm scared She was my world my high school sweetheart been together 12 years I'm only 27(married for 8) I dont want to be over but I dont know how I can forgive her I cant think of how she can make this up to me. She says she wants to ans loves me and all of that but how can she... this isn't the first time it's happened in the past but we were young and immature. I thought she was past this. I cannot imagine her not in my life and I cant figure out how to forgive her.


Sorry for the long post.

I’m telling you this from the bottom of my heart. Get professional help.

A licensed counselor will be impartial. You need that.

 

[SSVol]

There was infidelity in our marriage in our first year. We will celebrate 33 next month. God can heal.

 

[Glitch]

All that's left of 3 huge racks. Happy father's day to all the dads.

Chicken and ribs on the smoker. Best Father's Day meal I could have asked for. Just enough chicken left to make chicken salad for lunch this week. Yum.

 

[Bauce]

Any man that stays with his wife after she cheats is a simp/soy

That's why she cheated in the first place...

 

[Ulysees E. McGill]

Only for those who choose to hold onto it.

I’m not going to debate this. You either live with a lens of grace and forgiveness or “what she did and what I deserve.” You can’t have both, and I don’t I’m not really interested in debating the merits of each. Everyone makes mistakes, and I’m in no place to judge why she did what she did, or the moral canvas of the rest of her life. I find the “cut bait” response without further knowledge of the situation highly irresponsible and destructive... most likely based if the hurt others have experienced.

My opinion is there

:hi: have a good one fellas

There comes a time when you have to say "no more". I forgave my ex twice..after the third time in 12 years that I knew of, which came after she had begged and begged me to come back and promised undying love and faithfulness forever...I was done. All it ever brought me was more pain and hurt.

Forgiveness and trust are two different things. God knows our heart better than we do, he knows when you sincerely change, I do not.

To be clear, I'm not fully disagreeing with you on the thought, I have seen a few who have put this behind them and go on to happy beautiful marriages, but the far larger majority of them end up back in the same situation...I don't think he should be made to feel guilty or that is an unforgiving person if he moves on.

I have been there...

 

[volfanCLT]

There comes a time when you have to say "no more". I forgave my ex twice..after the third time in 12 years that I knew of, which came after she had begged and begged me to come back and promised undying love and faithfulness forever...I was done. All it ever brought me was more pain and hurt.

Forgiveness and trust are two different things. God knows our heart better than we do, he knows when you sincerely change, I do not.

To be clear, I'm not fully disagreeing with you on the thought, I have seen a few who have put this behind them and go on to happy beautiful marriages, but the far larger majority of them end up back in the same situation...I don't think he should be made to feel guilty or that is an unforgiving person if he moves on.

I have been there...

I hate it so much that it didn’t work out for you but I have so much respect for how you handled it, showed grace, and did everything you could. It’s not the easy way and I can only imagine the pain but also growth you went through.

Seriously McGill.

Alright nice post over, did you watch that boring crap golf today on Fox.

 

[Ulysees E. McGill]

I’m telling you this from the bottom of my heart. Get professional help.

A licensed counselor will be impartial. You need that.

If they are both invested, this is wisdom.

 

[GoBigOrange86]

There comes a time when you have to say "no more". I forgave my ex twice..after the third time in 12 years that I knew of, which came after she had begged and begged me to come back and promised undying love and faithfulness forever...I was done. All it ever brought me was more pain and hurt.

Forgiveness and trust are two different things. God knows our heart better than we do, he knows when you sincerely change, I do not.

To be clear, I'm not fully disagreeing with you on the thought, I have seen a few who have put this behind them and go on to happy beautiful marriages, but the far larger majority of them end up back in the same situation...I don't think he should be made to feel guilty or that is an unforgiving person if he moves on.

I have been there...

Quitter.







I’m kidding I’m kidding I’m kidding. I had to. I’m sorry. I am very glad that you are happy and with someone who loves you and respects you in the manner you deserve.

 

[Ulysees E. McGill]

I hate it so much that it didn’t work out for you but I have so much respect for how you handled it, showed grace, and did everything you could. It’s not the easy way and I can only imagine the pain but also growth you went through.

Seriously McGill.

Alright nice post over, did you watch that boring crap golf today on Fox.

No..I was pretty busy and not feeling well till late afternoon, and then got to feeling really rough when I got home, so I took some medicine and laid down and went to sleep for awhile. I will probably catch some highlight vids on US OPEN.com later.

 

[85SugarVol]

Westworld....

 

[Ulysees E. McGill]

Quitter.







I’m kidding I’m kidding I’m kidding. I had to. I’m sorry. I am very glad that you are happy and with someone who loves you and respects you in the manner you deserve.

My wife of the last 18 years really is an angel sent from God. I am blessed indeed.

 

[Big Gucci Sosa]

Joshua Dobbs likely showcasing his skills for the rest of league in the preseason – ProFootballTalk

 

[awaitingawin]

Have known JP for a while, and he's a very good teacher and talent evaluator. His staff is amazing especially on defense. Time will tell on offense Helton is a good offensive mind and has worked under some really good offensive minds at WKU and USC. Friend is an excellent OL coach and will recruit well. Coach YAC will be a star on the staff at a position that needs it most. Weinke is the ine who was a head scratcher but I figure its about inroads to IMG.

Great post..I have posted several times that people will see a big difference on the field this year...We have one of the best staffs in NCAAF..

OL prospects will be dying to play for Will Friend when they see what he has done with the OL in 2018

I say look to be surprised this year

 

[OTR_Vol]

Joshua Dobbs likely showcasing his skills for the rest of league in the preseason – ProFootballTalk

Whatever happens with him, he's always been pure class. I hope he finds a good situation somewhere.

 

[Coach Punk]

Joshua Dobbs likely showcasing his skills for the rest of league in the preseason – ProFootballTalk

Talked about this in yet another FF post about Dobbs. He needs to go where he doesn’t have to start and be the primary backup in a place like KC or Philly where they develop QBs. He’s got plenty of moxie to cover for the starter for a half or so just by talent. I don’t want his career to divebomb because he didn’t learn more than scramble around until you find 84.

I just fear for his life after football. I mean, what kind of summer home can you buy on an aerospace engineers salary? A 5,000 sq ft shack that didn’t even have a maids quarters?

 

[nicksjuzunk]

Joshua Dobbs likely showcasing his skills for the rest of league in the preseason – ProFootballTalk

Well, I see D4H commented at the bottom of that story

 

[Sleegro]

Well, I see D4H commented at the bottom of that story

Hahaha good catch.

 

[volfanCLT]

Well, I see D4H commented at the bottom of that story

Lulz

 

[Vols4us]

No..I was pretty busy and not feeling well till late afternoon, and then got to feeling really rough when I got home, so I took some medicine and laid down and went to sleep for awhile. I will probably catch some highlight vids on US OPEN.com later.

When you watch, you may want to turn the volume off. Fox Sports is clueless about broadcasting golf and Azinger was a total homer goofball with his comments. The only thing worse was listening to Buck pretending to know what he was talking about.