AM64
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Still sounds like you're defending an actual rape situation with the "just better not to be there". Those of us believing that our players have been falsely accused, prolly also believe a young woman can attend a social gathering without expectation of sexual assault. :unsure:
Not really, and to be honest it's one of those issues that is tough to debate. Say anything too bluntly and you get into having to back away from being accused of saying "she was asking for it" or that "boys will be boys" or any number of other things.
Yeah, I think several of the guys have been falsely accused; they certainly didn't hang out in the bushes and grab women off the street. In just about every post I've made on this topic, my direction has been that most of the UT incidents have either been or started as consensual (from what we know). A guy doesn't stand a great chance in the PC era when the girl decides she was a victim and not a partner - even if the DA disagrees, there's an ambulance chaser waiting in the wings. Check out the Harvard basketball player - accused of rape a year after the event and when the girl even admitted they had willing sex a few times before the time she decided he raped her. Hard to defend your self against that (at least the accusation and all that entails) except by just not being there.
Where it really gets problematic is when you mix confusing consensual incidents with what may well have taken place at Baylor. Again we have to remember that an accusation doesn't mean that something happened or that it happened as stated. There is a big difference between real rape (an act absolutely against someone's will accomplished through force or drugs) and some type of willing engagement that maybe went too far because of lack of inhibition. Personal safety and personal responsibility for safety are still paramount in both - whether it's not going into a bad place alone or staying sober enough to know what's happening.
In the end it is a lot like driving after too many drinks. You might not be capable of avoiding an accident or of thinking you were capable of driving, but you were certainly sober enough at one point to have avoided being too drunk to function later. Bad things can happen when you choose to put yourself in a position that you cannot control. Too many people - like the girls in several of the UT incidents - are unwilling to accept responsibility for their own poor judgement. If you set a room on fire and stand in the middle because it's exciting, don't be surprised if it doesn't end well - but, you see, that's really getting close to saying that like fire will be fire, boys will be boys.