An interesting article (College football is breaking my heart) regarding abuse and college athletes - yes, UT gets mentioned again in passing
College football is breaking my heart
Again the blame is heaped on the schools and the male participants - pretty much rightly so, but it fails, as most others also do, to point out the other contributing factors. The emphasis on winning above all else - scholarship, sportsmanship, common sense, and even the most basic - the core business of universities (and it isn't sports). Perhaps some of the offenders would belong more appropriately in an institution not ending in university, but that thought probably offends the more liberal mind.
This article interestingly touches on another aspect and then veers away - that of the women and their choices.
"I once was a victim of abuse; now I am a victor.
Late one night, I was in a familiar house with a familiar somebody and he was uncharacteristically angry. He drug me from one end of the house to the other, by my hair."
We don't know from the article whether he was often angry and just over the top that time, if she (or something else) angered him, whether he was easily angered, or if she actually knew him well enough to be alone with him. But the question comes back to what about her choice to be alone with him. Did she not consider that a much larger guy could be a physical threat?
"Thats why I identify with these victims, those we know about and the great many more we dont, at campuses across the country. I am one of them. They are me. Hundreds, thousands, tens of thousands of us were ignored in our most vulnerable hour.
Who in college football is listening to their voices? To our voices? Who is putting themselves in their shoes? Who is looking out for them, for us?"
How about a lot of these women are putting themselves in those shoes? That they fail to balance the notoriety of being with a star athlete - "celebrity status" - knowing that a competitive athlete is probably an aggressive person - against a more rational thought of self protection. Of course, it's always easier to blame someone or something else when things go wrong. Sure we shouldn't blame the victim (political correctness if nothing else), but as a society we certainly need to regain some sense of self control and self responsibility.