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[MAD]

Wow. Rough share, brother. Hate that you lived through that.

Hope you can find a way to forgive her. Not for her sake, but for yours.

Thanks buddy, appreciate it. Unfortunately she passed away unexpectedly almost 5 years ago so any forgiveness at this point is solely for my own sake.

 

[MAD]

I’ve been there buddy, not married but was engaged and had a child with someone I thought I was spending the rest of my life with and it’s quite honestly the worst feeling in the world. Lots of dark days and regrets. I’m not one to naturally talk to my family and friends about personal problems. Still don’t for the most part really. After something like that happens it makes you question everything and nothing anyone says or does will make it better. I still don’t think I’ve fully gotten over it because I definitely have trust issues due to that. Everyone has this perfect life laid out in their head but whenever it all comes crashing down it’s hard to come back from. What I’ve come to learn of it is all we can do is be there for our children the best we can because ultimately that situation is hardest on them. The other person clearly wasn’t into having a committed relationship so the way I look at it is it’s better to find out whenever we did rather than making it all the way to our deathbed and finding out that person never really cared for us. God always has a plan, sometimes it isn’t the path we want but the path we need in order to build us into a stronger spirit for what comes next.

I appreciate you sharing your story, it felt eerily familiar as you told it. Thanks for your wise words.

 

[VolPack22]

I appreciate you sharing your story, it felt eerily familiar as you told it. Thanks for your wise words.

It almost always is a similar story unfortunately.

 

[chuckiepoo]

By the way, @VolGirl81, we still love you!

Definitely one of us. We know there are good women out there. It’s just finding them.

 

[Volprofch05]

I remember it like it was yesterday.

Pulling up my driveway, seeing my wife and my neighbor/friend talking…..

Let me set the picture.

Our daughter was 6 and it was July. I flew with her down to Florida from Ohio so she could spend a few weeks with her grandparents.

I flew back the following day, stopped and picked up some flowers for my wife.

As I pulled up my stomach sank, I could just tell from their body language.

Picture me walking up carrying a dozen roses feeling like a fool and that my world had ended.

They saw me and the two of them tried to play it off. He greeted me and asked if I wanted to play some tennis later and he walked back next door.

My wife and I went inside and I asked her immediately and she confirmed everything.

My main regret is that I didn’t turn around and leave. I also regret not sharing what had happened with my friends and family for support.

I felt humiliated, lost and alone and blamed myself.

Spent the next 10 years unsuccessfully trying to salvage my marriage.

—————

So yeah, seeing that video and the comments brought back memories.

Women Suck!

I’m really sorry mad, that sucks to be betrayed! She deserves the Ben Johnson treatment!

 

[W.TN.Orange Blood]

I'm having a hard time believing if @MAD 's story is true.
Not calling him a liar here but his story sounded like it came
from the Playboy Forum story page. If true my heart weeps for
you & I feel sad that something so cruel happened to you like that.
Nobody deserves to be treated like that from a wife who pledged
to love & to cherish her husband until death do you two part. Everybody
has a story of some kind of heartbreak that has happened to them in life.
Just have to pick up the pieces and move on to see what else God has for you.

 

[Volprofch05]

I’ve been there buddy, not married but was engaged and had a child with someone I thought I was spending the rest of my life with and it’s quite honestly the worst feeling in the world. Lots of dark days and regrets. I’m not one to naturally talk to my family and friends about personal problems. Still don’t for the most part really. After something like that happens it makes you question everything and nothing anyone says or does will make it better. I still don’t think I’ve fully gotten over it because I definitely have trust issues due to that. Everyone has this perfect life laid out in their head but whenever it all comes crashing down it’s hard to come back from. What I’ve come to learn of it is all we can do is be there for our children the best we can because ultimately that situation is hardest on them. The other person clearly wasn’t into having a committed relationship so the way I look at it is it’s better to find out whenever we did rather than making it all the way to our deathbed and finding out that person never really cared for us. God always has a plan, sometimes it isn’t the path we want but the path we need in order to build us into a stronger spirit for what comes next.

That sucks VP, I can definitely understand that it would be difficult to trust people after that. I appreciate that y’all are open to sharing with us. It’s particularly difficult when children are involved and your focus on taking care of your child, which I know is also the case with mad, is admirable.

 

[Volprofch05]

By the way, @VolGirl81, we still love you!

Definitely one of us. We know there are good women out there. It’s just finding them.

There are many amazing people in this world, but yet also so many self-absorbed sheet bags. It is mind boggling.

 

[W.TN.Orange Blood]

I’ve been there buddy, not married but was engaged and had a child with someone I thought I was spending the rest of my life with and it’s quite honestly the worst feeling in the world. Lots of dark days and regrets. I’m not one to naturally talk to my family and friends about personal problems. Still don’t for the most part really. After something like that happens it makes you question everything and nothing anyone says or does will make it better. I still don’t think I’ve fully gotten over it because I definitely have trust issues due to that. Everyone has this perfect life laid out in their head but whenever it all comes crashing down it’s hard to come back from. What I’ve come to learn of it is all we can do is be there for our children the best we can because ultimately that situation is hardest on them. The other person clearly wasn’t into having a committed relationship so the way I look at it is it’s better to find out whenever we did rather than making it all the way to our deathbed and finding out that person never really cared for us. God always has a plan, sometimes it isn’t the path we want but the path we need in order to build us into a stronger spirit for what comes next.

I had a similar experience as you when I was in my 20s. I won't go into any details & be long with the story that happened to me so long ago now. All I know is God came through and provided something better for me bc He promises to never leave you feeling hopelessly downtrodden by being betrayed from a loving relationship. .

 

[@1RBFjr]

Correct.

Jim Hart played for the St.Louis Cardinals all those years, not the Arizona Cardinals. Ottis Anderson also..both played majority of the NFL Careers in St. Louis.

Coincidentally, I have a St. Louis Cardinals autographed football, from around 1980. You can easily spot Jim Hart’s autograph.

 

[@1RBFjr]

I remember it like it was yesterday.

Pulling up my driveway, seeing my wife and my neighbor/friend talking…..

Let me set the picture.

Our daughter was 6 and it was July. I flew with her down to Florida from Ohio so she could spend a few weeks with her grandparents.

I flew back the following day, stopped and picked up some flowers for my wife.

As I pulled up my stomach sank, I could just tell from their body language.

Picture me walking up carrying a dozen roses feeling like a fool and that my world had ended.

They saw me and the two of them tried to play it off. He greeted me and asked if I wanted to play some tennis later and he walked back next door.

My wife and I went inside and I asked her immediately and she confirmed everything.

My main regret is that I didn’t turn around and leave. I also regret not sharing what had happened with my friends and family for support.

I felt humiliated, lost and alone and blamed myself.

Spent the next 10 years unsuccessfully trying to salvage my marriage.

—————

So yeah, seeing that video and the comments brought back memories.

Women Suck!

Ugh. I’m sorry you and @Volpack22 had that happen.

 

[W.TN.Orange Blood]

 

[Halph66]

I have a hard time caring.

 

[W.TN.Orange Blood]

I have a hard time caring.

I haven't watch any NBA games since Michael Jordan played in the 1980s.
To me he was the best at playing the game college or pro.

 

[Volprofch05]

Thanks buddy, appreciate it. Unfortunately she passed away unexpectedly almost 5 years ago so any forgiveness at this point is solely for my own sake.

Sorry mad, missed this post before I responded, very sad

 

[Drewbydoo]

Breaking news on CNN and Fox: Apache Attack Helicopter collides with regional jet in or near the Potomac. Jet origin flight from Wichita, KS

 

[W.TN.Orange Blood]

I’m really sorry mad, that sucks to be betrayed! She deserves the Ben Johnson treatment!

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Just what is it that kid is holding in his hand while stabbing it?
It doesn't look like no voodoo doll to me.

 

[W.TN.Orange Blood]

Breaking news on CNN and Fox: Apache Attack Helicopter collides with regional jet in or near the Potomac. Jet origin flight from Wichita, KS

Got it on.

 

[VolPack22]

By the way, @VolGirl81, we still love you!

Definitely one of us. We know there are good women out there. It’s just finding them.

All the BaseVol women of this site are great in my book.

Not all women suck, just like all men don’t suck. It is the deceitful ones that create the stereotypes unfortunately. There are some incredible people in this world but there are also equally evil people.

 

[W.TN.Orange Blood]

Breaking news on CNN and Fox: Apache Attack Helicopter collides with regional jet in or near the Potomac. Jet origin flight from Wichita, KS

That crash was recorded on tape like everything else is these days.
Looks like the helicopter flew right into the plane on purpose .... JMO.

 

[Ritzwatch]

Thanks buddy, appreciate it. Unfortunately she passed away unexpectedly almost 5 years ago so any forgiveness at this point is solely for my own sake.

A huge part of forgiveness, in fact, the biggest part, is for the benefit of the one who forgives, not the forgiven.

If you still haven’t done that, I’d encourage you to stick with it til you do, even if she is gone. Do it for yourself, your health and your future.

 

[Drewbydoo]

GMA

 

[knoxvol52]

Short and sweet sad story in my world.

Got married, had 2 children together found out she was cheating with a guy I worked with. Kicked his @$$ and told her to kick rocks. Been divorced for 18 years and love every minute of it. Life goes on.

 

[VolPack22]

And people ask me why I have never flown on a plane. Seeing that crash is sad. Nothing those people could do. “Flying is so much safer than driving.” Yeah but what happens whenever you actually do have an accident? And that happened in probably the most, or one of the most, air traffic controlled places in the world. If it can happen there it can happen anywhere. Prayers for all their friends and family

 

[VolPack22]

FSU and Clemson might be staying put in the ACC.