Tiffany's Thread (updates and prayers, and a place where she can smack Joe in public when he needs it :)

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joevol33 said:
I'm going to vent in the nervous/doubtful stage. Not being negative, but it's normal for your mind to think about all possibilities, even the bad. I see her every day, so I completely understand her wanting to do this. Heck, I would if I suffered like she does, but I also see the weakness in her body. I've also seen her almost due, so my mind wonders about the reality of how risky this is. That leads to questions of what if. What if it goes bad, and she doesn't make it? You have to deal with the outcome if it happens, as in getting her back home from out there. The biggest concern, the kids. Do you tell them something like that over the phone with nobody with them (family), or hop on a plane and wait? Then I worry about me, I think the protection mode of a dad would kick in, and keep me halfway calm until I get to them, but what if I do break down out there without them? Sorry, I'm just really nervous, and hate even saying any of that, but it's eating my brain and heart holding it. I don't want to talk to her about it, or anyone really, so I am here. It's not that I don't see miraculous things in this, it's just my human nature. It's risky, we both do understand that, and I do realize there is a chance I come home without her. I'm just going to cherish every second, and spoil her while I can, and hope I can look back and laugh at my fear.
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Hang in there and keep that positivity going Joe! Vent as much as you need too as well. I know I'm not alone in repeating that WE'RE all thinking and praying for you and the family often. 🙏🏻
 
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I've always told her that I'd buy her a brand new car when we got our house paid off. I'm just a poor boy, from a poor family 👀😁, and we've never got one brand new. God willing, we'll be making our very last house payment in a few days, so we got her this today. Kinda wanted to wait, but I don't want to wait and regret not seeing that smile. I'm not posting this bragging"we got a new car", cause my 15 hour days aren't anything to brag about. I'm just sharing with you guys, so you can see her happy, because you are invested in her. Not that it takes material things to make her happy, but that smile will forever be in my head. Ftr, it's a Rav 4.IMG_20231129_172144946.jpg
 
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joevol33 said:
I've always told her that I'd buy her a brand new car when we got our house paid off. I'm just a poor boy, from a poor family 👀😁, and we've never got one brand new. God willing, we'll be making our very last house payment in a few days, so we got her this today. Kinda wanted to wait, but I don't want to wait and regret not seeing that smile. I'm not posting this bragging"we got a new car", cause my 15 hour days aren't anything to brag about. I'm just sharing with you guys, so you can see her happy, because you are invested in her. Not that it takes material things to make her happy, but that smile will forever be in my head. Ftr, it's a Rav 4.View attachment 598773
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Dude, I’m trying not to tear up looking at this photo and reading your post.

I am not succeeding.
 
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joevol33 said:
We have free counseling through my insurance. I don't know if they want that, but I believe I will mention it. They admit they're stressed about it, but they do talk about it, which is good. I don't say anything to them, or her, about stuff I'm afraid of, just tell them I'm concerned as well.
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You know, they are likely having the same what if feelings. It's natural for any kind of procedure to have concerns or worry even when you have the best of the best in doctors. It's just how you manage those concerns to not let them consumer you, which is where counseling may help.
 
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volwindy said:
You know, they are likely having the same what if feelings. It's natural for any kind of procedure to have concerns or worry even when you have the best of the best in doctors. It's just how you manage those concerns to not let them consumer you, which is where counseling may help.
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Very true.
 
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joevol33 said:
I've always told her that I'd buy her a brand new car when we got our house paid off. I'm just a poor boy, from a poor family 👀😁, and we've never got one brand new. God willing, we'll be making our very last house payment in a few days, so we got her this today. Kinda wanted to wait, but I don't want to wait and regret not seeing that smile. I'm not posting this bragging"we got a new car", cause my 15 hour days aren't anything to brag about. I'm just sharing with you guys, so you can see her happy, because you are invested in her. Not that it takes material things to make her happy, but that smile will forever be in my head. Ftr, it's a Rav 4.View attachment 598773
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❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
 
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joevol33 said:
I've always told her that I'd buy her a brand new car when we got our house paid off. I'm just a poor boy, from a poor family 👀😁, and we've never got one brand new. God willing, we'll be making our very last house payment in a few days, so we got her this today. Kinda wanted to wait, but I don't want to wait and regret not seeing that smile. I'm not posting this bragging"we got a new car", cause my 15 hour days aren't anything to brag about. I'm just sharing with you guys, so you can see her happy, because you are invested in her. Not that it takes material things to make her happy, but that smile will forever be in my head. Ftr, it's a Rav 4.View attachment 598773
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RAV4?
 
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joevol33 said:
I've always told her that I'd buy her a brand new car when we got our house paid off. I'm just a poor boy, from a poor family 👀😁, and we've never got one brand new. God willing, we'll be making our very last house payment in a few days, so we got her this today. Kinda wanted to wait, but I don't want to wait and regret not seeing that smile. I'm not posting this bragging"we got a new car", cause my 15 hour days aren't anything to brag about. I'm just sharing with you guys, so you can see her happy, because you are invested in her. Not that it takes material things to make her happy, but that smile will forever be in my head. Ftr, it's a Rav 4.View attachment 598773
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OMG. This is so great. I love being reminded about real life stuff like this. {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} at all y'all!! 💕💕💕
 
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joevol33 said:
I've always told her that I'd buy her a brand new car when we got our house paid off. I'm just a poor boy, from a poor family 👀😁, and we've never got one brand new. God willing, we'll be making our very last house payment in a few days, so we got her this today. Kinda wanted to wait, but I don't want to wait and regret not seeing that smile. I'm not posting this bragging"we got a new car", cause my 15 hour days aren't anything to brag about. I'm just sharing with you guys, so you can see her happy, because you are invested in her. Not that it takes material things to make her happy, but that smile will forever be in my head. Ftr, it's a Rav 4.View attachment 598773
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WOW.....What a Great moment and memory in time......that is wonderful and so Happy for you all :)
 
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joevol33 said:
I'm going to vent in the nervous/doubtful stage. Not being negative, but it's normal for your mind to think about all possibilities, even the bad. I see her every day, so I completely understand her wanting to do this. Heck, I would if I suffered like she does, but I also see the weakness in her body. I've also seen her almost due, so my mind wonders about the reality of how risky this is. That leads to questions of what if. What if it goes bad, and she doesn't make it? You have to deal with the outcome if it happens, as in getting her back home from out there. The biggest concern, the kids. Do you tell them something like that over the phone with nobody with them (family), or hop on a plane and wait? Then I worry about me, I think the protection mode of a dad would kick in, and keep me halfway calm until I get to them, but what if I do break down out there without them? Sorry, I'm just really nervous, and hate even saying any of that, but it's eating my brain and heart holding it. I don't want to talk to her about it, or anyone really, so I am here. It's not that I don't see miraculous things in this, it's just my human nature. It's risky, we both do understand that, and I do realize there is a chance I come home without her. I'm just going to cherish every second, and spoil her while I can, and hope I can look back and laugh at my fear.
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Its perfectly normal for your mind to be racing right now with the what if's because this is a very big step that you all are taking and you are
doing the right thing by talking about it and letting your feelings out instead of just keeping them to yourself.
 
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Tiffany’s nurse brought her dog, Lucy (in the cage with pink collar), she’s friendly and curious… She’s pretty in pink.
 
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They're still working on it, she actually talked to him today. He said it's likely going to be end of January, he explained there's a lot that has to be okayed by more than just the hospital. He said it's all going good, it's just unfortunately taking longer than they hoped. If I'm being honest, I'm kinda glad, so she'll be here for Christmas. Also, they're definitely wanting, and it's pretty much set, for it to be at UCLA. That's one of the things taking some time, their transplant board has to go over everything, including her information. He said everything is good, it just takes time, and the holidays doesn't help.
 
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