Breastfeeding in public

Is breastfeeding in public ok?

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#578
#578
wildnkrazykat said:
Moms that think breast feeding is the best choice need to grow a backbone n **** what everyone else thinks.

And I'm not disputing the pain/difficulty/etc. but parenting is going to be full of situations where you have to say **** the rest I'm doing what I know is best for my child.
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Not to deviate the topic but our society places the a lot of social pressure on women to act, look, and behave, a certain way by creating false ideal images for them to live up to. Its stupid, yes, but its real. It gets ingrained in them as children and sticks with them for life.

Add to that there was 2-3 generations of moms who were told formula was the better option. These women are now the support for their daughters and granddaughters who are trying to do something they view as an oddity. Fortunately my mother and mother-in-law were supportive and my wife was able to successfully breastfeed two boys. However, I've seen a couple of my friends wives have mothers who encouraged their daughters to give up.

There are enough real physical obstacles to overcome. The last thing a young mother needs is societal pressure too.

Its easy to say 'grow a backbone" from the sideline. Especially for a man.
 
#579
#579
kiddiedoc said:
Some of the views echoed in this thread contribute to a large percentage of mothers being reluctant to breastfeed their babies. Breastfeeding is the healthiest option for most newborns and infants, a source of maternal-baby bonding, completely natural, and the most cost-effective method for providing nutrition. Not only does stigmatizing the act have potential adverse effects on the health of our Nation's children and families, but it is also financially reckless. The WIC program, for example, spent $6.4 billion in 2013 providing nutritional supplementation.

I would ask some of you that neither have children nor spend your days caring for their health rethink your ideas on this matter. I can offer resources from the American Academy of Pediatrics and the Le Leche League if they are desired.
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You have said something like this numerous times in this thread, and yet no one is disputing it. I have no problem with women who want to breastfeed, and no one in this thread that is arguing against the public part does either.

Here's the problem for the women breastfeeding in public, the exhibitionist feeders. The women who think just because they have had a child, they are entitled to just whip out a breast anywhere to feed their child. This is the stigmatizing part that makes it look like its something not natural and makes people look at them while doing it. The women who actually care enough about their surroundings and the setting they are in to either cover up, or have one of those breast feeding shoulder slings that keep the baby and boob in there, are doing it in a way that brings no unwarranted attention to them and are doing it in a tasteful way. I mean, heaven forbid people actually show some tastefulness in it, so the "stigma" that you are referring to doesn't get applied.

There are women who pump and breastfeed as well, and they used the pumped milk while out and about, and breastfeed at home in a private setting. Are those women part of the problem, since they are choosing to not participate in the public feeding, even though they do it at home?
 
#580
#580
Breast pumps are expensive, and bottle feeding is not recommended for convenience, as it can interfere with appropriate breastfeeding (especially in there first month).

If you are going to use the term "exhibitionist" for breastfeeding, then I would rather not continue to debate with you.
 
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#581
#581
Is it really so hard to realize a mother is breast feeding and simply say to yourself "hey, I know! I'll just go about my business and won't look over there again."?
 
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#583
#583
GAVol said:
Is it really so hard to realize a mother is breast feeding and simply say to yourself "hey, I know! I'll just go about my business and won't look over there again."?
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Yes. Because titties... or some other stupid neanderthal garbage that dave, g8erh8er, or cc is about to come back with.
 
#584
#584
I have a question for those who are against breast feeding in public.

Are you against it period or are you against woman who are out there feeding their child without covering up?
 
#586
#586
g8terh8ter_eric said:
You have said something like this numerous times in this thread, and yet no one is disputing it. I have no problem with women who want to breastfeed, and no one in this thread that is arguing against the public part does either.

Here's the problem for the women breastfeeding in public, the exhibitionist feeders. The women who think just because they have had a child, they are entitled to just whip out a breast anywhere to feed their child. This is the stigmatizing part that makes it look like its something not natural and makes people look at them while doing it. The women who actually care enough about their surroundings and the setting they are in to either cover up, or have one of those breast feeding shoulder slings that keep the baby and boob in there, are doing it in a way that brings no unwarranted attention to them and are doing it in a tasteful way. I mean, heaven forbid people actually show some tastefulness in it, so the "stigma" that you are referring to doesn't get applied.

There are women who pump and breastfeed as well, and they used the pumped milk while out and about, and breastfeed at home in a private setting. Are those women part of the problem, since they are choosing to not participate in the public feeding, even though they do it at home?
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Eric, it's not as simple as pumping. If the body makes the milk, it needs to come out. Most women feed then pump.

That milk generally has other purposes. For example, while on maternity leave my wife would pump after a feeding once or twice a day. We would freeze it so when she went back to work I would have something to feed the baby. While at work she would pump to make up for the feedings she was missing.


I get being annoyed by the "look at me" mentality some women might display. The girl feeding the baby in what looked like a post ceremony setting is not a big deal. Posting a pic, that she posed for, was maybe a bit much. She could have said the same thing with a pic of her just holding the baby.

Having said that, I find it less annoying than people posting pics of themselves doing shots at a bar, or duck facing, or selfies in the bathroom mirror. That shows much less class than a girl feeding her baby AFTER her graduation ceremony.
 
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burntorangeVOLffle said:
Eric, it's not as simple as pumping. If the body makes the milk, it needs to come out. Most women feed then pump.

That milk generally has other purposes. For example, while on maternity leave my wife would pump after a feeding once or twice a day. We would freeze it so when she went back to work I would have something to feed the baby. While at work she would pump to make up for the feedings she was missing.

I get being annoyed by the "look at me" mentality some women might display. The girl feeding the baby in what looked like a post ceremony setting is not a big deal. Posting a pic, that she posed for, was maybe a bit much. She could have said the same thing with a pic of her just holding the baby.

Having said that, I find it less annoying than people posting pics of themselves doing shots at a bar, or duck facing, or selfies in the bathroom mirror. That shows much less class than a girl feeding her baby AFTER her graduation ceremony.
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My wife did this same thing with both my boys. It's something that you almost have to do if the woman is going to work and not be around the baby to feed them.
 
#588
#588
g8terh8ter_eric said:
You have said something like this numerous times in this thread, and yet no one is disputing it. I have no problem with women who want to breastfeed, and no one in this thread that is arguing against the public part does either.

Here's the problem for the women breastfeeding in public, the exhibitionist feeders. The women who think just because they have had a child, they are entitled to just whip out a breast anywhere to feed their child. This is the stigmatizing part that makes it look like its something not natural and makes people look at them while doing it. The women who actually care enough about their surroundings and the setting they are in to either cover up, or have one of those breast feeding shoulder slings that keep the baby and boob in there, are doing it in a way that brings no unwarranted attention to them and are doing it in a tasteful way. I mean, heaven forbid people actually show some tastefulness in it, so the "stigma" that you are referring to doesn't get applied.

There are women who pump and breastfeed as well, and they used the pumped milk while out and about, and breastfeed at home in a private setting. Are those women part of the problem, since they are choosing to not participate in the public feeding, even though they do it at home?
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Pervert imo.
 
#589
#589
kiddiedoc said:
Breast pumps are expensive, and bottle feeding is not recommended for convenience, as it can interfere with appropriate breastfeeding (especially in there first month).

If you are going to use the term "exhibitionist" for breastfeeding, then I would rather not continue to debate with you.
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I'm talking about the "look at me" women, just like the picture of the woman that bumped this thread. Also, there is no debate, just opinions, which I have expressed several times that I have ZERO problem with breastfeeding, all I'm saying is for women to use a bit of common sense when doing it, and cover it up so it doesn't become a show for all those around. To me, that's not beautiful, that's just trying to show off.
 
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#590
#590
Orangesmokey said:
I have a question for those who are against breast feeding in public.

Are you against it period or are you against woman who are out there feeding their child without covering up?
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It's the latter for me. If it's this intimate act of bonding between mother and child, don't turn it into a spectacle. I do feel the whole bonding thing is a bit overstated, because bottle fed children bond just fine as well, but to each their own.
 
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#592
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g8terh8ter_eric said:
I'm talking about the "look at me" women, just like the picture of the woman that bumped this thread. Also, there is no debate, just opinions, which I have expressed several times that I have ZERO problem with breastfeeding, all I'm saying is for women to use a bit of common sense when doing it, and cover it up so it doesn't become a show for all those around. To me, that's not beautiful, that's just trying to show off.
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If a woman leaves her nipple exposed for more than a few seconds before and after latching, then I could see calling her an exhibitionist.

But that's what? 1% or 2% of nursing mothers?
 
#594
#594
burntorangeVOLffle said:
Not to deviate the topic but our society places the a lot of social pressure on women to act, look, and behave, a certain way by creating false ideal images for them to live up to. Its stupid, yes, but its real. It gets ingrained in them as children and sticks with them for life.

Add to that there was 2-3 generations of moms who were told formula was the better option. These women are now the support for their daughters and granddaughters who are trying to do something they view as an oddity. Fortunately my mother and mother-in-law were supportive and my wife was able to successfully breastfeed two boys. However, I've seen a couple of my friends wives have mothers who encouraged their daughters to give up.

There are enough real physical obstacles to overcome. The last thing a young mother needs is societal pressure too.

Its easy to say 'grow a backbone" from the sideline. Especially for a man.
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I'm not a man. And as a woman I'm saying if you can't deal with the "societal pressure" concerning breast feeding then parenting is going to be a ***** for you.
 
#595
#595
g8terh8ter_eric said:
It's the latter for me. If it's this intimate act of bonding between mother and child, don't turn it into a spectacle. I do feel the whole bonding this is a bit overstated, because bottle fed children bond just fine as well, but to each their own.
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Actually, study after study has shown that there is a significant improvement in bonding, weight gain, and overall health and development when a child is exclusively breastfed in the first few months as opposed to when some feedings are done via bottle. And even more notable when compared to those who receive formula.
 
#596
#596
According to some, she is doing it right...

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#598
#598
GAVol said:
Is it really so hard to realize a mother is breast feeding and simply say to yourself "hey, I know! I'll just go about my business and won't look over there again."?
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Despite her best intentions to attract attention by taking selfies during a graduation ceremony while in the act...
 
#599
#599
wildnkrazykat said:
I'm not a man. And as a woman I'm saying if you can't deal with the "societal pressure" concerning breast feeding then parenting is going to be a ***** for you.
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Fair enough... It's still easier said than done when those around you aren't supportive.

Do you have kids?
 
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