Marriage

If ever been married, have you had a marriage that ended in divorce?

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#401
#401
WoodstockVol said:
Never rush into Marriage You will never be sorry! Still haven't gotten divorced yet but I'm starting to look at the Ladies again.
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I would also advise that you get to know your future in-laws well before you seal the deal. My wife's mother, her aunts, and her grandmother are incredibly manipulative. They have caused some problems in our marriage and will always have the potential to cause damage. I love my wife very much, but had I known how her mom's side of the family was/is (her dad's side is amazing/her parents are divorced) I would have backed out of the relationship before the wedding.
 
#402
#402
Divorce is the worst thing I ever went through. Even though the "marriage" was a joke, it still gave me a sense of belonging and security. Holidays are not the same and living with the realization that I just wasn't enough isn't very good for the old self-esteem. When I see couples who truly love each other and have a real marriage my heart gets sad for what could/should have been. I have been divorced 2 years now after an almost 12 year marriage and I congratulate those of you who know how to make it work.
 
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LadyinOrange said:
Divorce is the worst thing I ever went through. Even though the "marriage" was a joke, it still gave me a sense of belonging and security. Holidays are not the same and living with the realization that I just wasn't enough isn't very good for the old self-esteem. When I see couples who truly love each other and have a real marriage my heart gets sad for what could/should have been. I have been divorced 2 years now after an almost 12 year marriage and I congratulate those of you who know how to make it work.
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I'm sorry to hear that lady. I hope you find someone who treats you like a queen
 
#405
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LadyinOrange said:
Divorce is the worst thing I ever went through. Even though the "marriage" was a joke, it still gave me a sense of belonging and security. Holidays are not the same and living with the realization that I just wasn't enough isn't very good for the old self-esteem. When I see couples who truly love each other and have a real marriage my heart gets sad for what could/should have been. I have been divorced 2 years now after an almost 12 year marriage and I congratulate those of you who know how to make it work.
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SDV said:
I'm sorry to hear that lady. I hope you find someone who treats you like a queen
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agreed...
 
#406
#406
LadyinOrange said:
Divorce is the worst thing I ever went through. Holidays are not the same and living with the realization that I just wasn't enough isn't very good for the old self-esteem. When I see couples who truly love each other and have a real marriage my heart gets sad for what could/should have been. I have been divorced 2 years now after an almost 12 year marriage and I congratulate those of you who know how to make it work.
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I am comforted to know that someone else looks @ happy couples with longing. I thought it was just me.
 
#407
#407
married 25 yrs the past June...amazed that anyone could put up with me that long!
 
#408
#408
LadyinOrange said:
Divorce is the worst thing I ever went through. Even though the "marriage" was a joke, it still gave me a sense of belonging and security. Holidays are not the same and living with the realization that I just wasn't enough isn't very good for the old self-esteem. When I see couples who truly love each other and have a real marriage my heart gets sad for what could/should have been. I have been divorced 2 years now after an almost 12 year marriage and I congratulate those of you who know how to make it work.
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I know how you feel. Especially the holidays. I went to the gym one Christmas Day because I couldn't stand being by myself nor celebrating with others.

It will get better. You closed the book on one chapter in your life but there are lots of chapters left.

Best wishes.
 
#409
#409
LadyinOrange said:
Divorce is the worst thing I ever went through. Even though the "marriage" was a joke, it still gave me a sense of belonging and security. Holidays are not the same and living with the realization that I just wasn't enough isn't very good for the old self-esteem. When I see couples who truly love each other and have a real marriage my heart gets sad for what could/should have been. I have been divorced 2 years now after an almost 12 year marriage and I congratulate those of you who know how to make it work.
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I understand your feeling of not being enough, but it bothers me a little. The coolest thing about self esteem is that you're in control of it. I admittedly know little about the details of your divorce, but I feel like I do know you a little. You were plenty when you got married and you're plenty now.
 
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#410
#410
The person divorcing you has a way of taking your self-esteem from you. Mainly by telling you (through divorce) that you are not "worth" their time or effort anymore. Really a deflating experience. @ least it was for me. I will never be the same. Ever. Truly shattering. You can move on but can you ever really get over it?
 
#411
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GAVol said:
I understand your feeling of not being enough, but it bothers me a little. The coolest thing about self esteem is that you're in control of it. I admittedly know little about the details of your divorce, but I feel like I do know you a little. You were plenty when you got married and you're plenty now.
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You made me cry.

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#412
#412
PimpVol said:
The person divorcing you has a way of taking your self-esteem from you. Mainly by telling you (through divorce) that you are not "worth" their time or effort anymore. Really a deflating experience. @ least it was for me. I will never be the same. Ever. Truly shattering. You can move on but can you ever really get over it?
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Sometimes the loss of self-esteem starts long before the divorce papers are signed, though. I'm sorry you have been through the hell of divorce. I truly understand how you feel.
 
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OldandStillaVol said:
I know how you feel. Especially the holidays. I went to the gym one Christmas Day because I couldn't stand being by myself nor celebrating with others.

It will get better. You closed the book on one chapter in your life but there are lots of chapters left.

Best wishes.
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The holidays are the worst. At least I didn't divorce my stepdaughter (who I raised as my own). People tell me "Volunteer at the nursing home, hospital, shelter, etc. during the holidays, and while I know their intentions are good, they really just don't get it.
 
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#420
I did. She reverted back to form. Came out angry from work the other day. Guess her boyfriend pissed her off @ work somehow. Whatever the case may be, she came home mad from work. What the **** happened @ work to make her mad @ me? So, here we go again....
 
#421
#421
PimpVol said:
I did. She reverted back to form. Came out angry from work the other day. Guess her boyfriend pissed her off @ work somehow. Whatever the case may be, she came home mad from work. What the **** happened @ work to make her mad @ me? So, here we go again....
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Freaking crazy women and the crazy roller coaster ride they take us on.

Just a shot in the dark but has she been to the dr lately? I don't know her age but maybe Pre-menopausal ? Maybe hormones are jacked up or something?

I thought I read that you guys were intimate over the weekend? That implied to me she may have come to her senses as that is something most responsible women don't throw around and she would know that is something emotional to you both.

Either way my friend you and your family are in my thoughts.
 
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#422
#422
Almost like she felt herself coming back to our relationship and then she had to do something to stop it. Not much else makes sense. Things seemed ok. Then, bang. Again. Something is off with her, but I don't know what. Could be any number of things. But she is on her own path and I will not impede her. I no longer feel that I can not live without her. For a while (quite a while), I could not see myself separate from her. Now her feelings are crystal clear. She picked a fight last night that clearly was a "self-sabotage" attempt. The writing is on the wall. She has checked out and I am through trying to pull her back.
 
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