Marriage

If ever been married, have you had a marriage that ended in divorce?

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#729
#729
Obsessed said:
This is a great argument. But, I have a buddy that was raised this way. No living with. Only after marriage. Both his marriages failed after a year each. This last time, he went against these ideals and seems much happier.

I know it's only one example, and I sure there are examples of it contradicting this.

I do however think you are right about the length. 5 years is too long.
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We will beat the odds!
 
#735
#735
PimpVol said:
Will be my first Thanksgiving without my family. Ever.
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Holiday's can be bad. Hang in there, don't let it get you too down. Get out and do something. Don't just sit home and dwell on the situation. I've been there. You will survive.
 
#737
#737
Gramps said:
Holiday's can be bad. Hang in there, don't let it get you too down. Get out and do something. Don't just sit home and dwell on the situation. I've been there. You will survive.
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This.


My wife and I separated for about a year (5 years ago) and Christmas rolled around and it hurt. Bad. I was invited over to the in laws to eat with her family but I just couldn't do it. The anxiety of what we were going through on top of her family was more than I could bare.

So I jumped on my new motorcycle( Yamaha R-6 ) and went riding. Cleared my head. Ended up running into one of my supervisors that worked for me. He knew we were apart and invited me to his place to eat. I actually had a great time and it took some of the sting away.

We all have our ways of dealing with things. Find your "place" and do it. It actually made me stronger when we worked things out.
 
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#738
#738
Merry Christmas to my family. I love you all & I hope all is well. God is love. Jesus is the proof. Thanks to all my VN family. You all helped me through this tough time. I am forever grateful. Happy holidays to all.
 
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#739
#739
I think divorce is a genetic trait. We've been married 25 years and neither of us came from divorced parents. Anecdotally it seems like divorced people seem to come from divorced families.
 
#741
#741
PimpVol said:
Merry Christmas to my family. I love you all & I hope all is well. God is love. Jesus is the proof. Thanks to all my VN family. You all helped me through this tough time. I am forever grateful. Happy holidays to all.
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Stay strong. Better times are ahead.
 
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#742
#742
Sandvol said:
I think divorce is a genetic trait. We've been married 25 years and neither of us came from divorced parents. Anecdotally it seems like divorced people seem to come from divorced families.
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? Marriage and divorce are social constructs. One can make the argument that it is social/cultural in nature. If you are exposed to more divorce (messed up family life) you are more likely to divorce yourself. Genetics, not so much.
 
#743
#743
PimpVol said:
Merry Christmas to my family. I love you all & I hope all is well. God is love. Jesus is the proof. Thanks to all my VN family. You all helped me through this tough time. I am forever grateful. Happy holidays to all.
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here's to a better 2014 for you, Pimp
 
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#744
#744
PKT_VOL said:
? Marriage and divorce are social constructs. One can make the argument that it is social/cultural in nature. If you are exposed to more divorce (messed up family life) you are more likely to divorce yourself. Genetics, not so much.
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No. Marriage and divorce are legal constructs

Genetics can and do play the biggest part
Ie: adultery,gambling, to just name a few
 
#746
#746
Parents are currently going through divorce. Just reinforces my opinion that marriage is hogwash. If someone loves me and I love them, there's absolutely no point to get married. They'll understand.
 
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#748
#748
VOLatile said:
Parents are currently going through divorce. Just reinforces my opinion that marriage is hogwash. If someone loves me and I love them, there's absolutely no point to get married. They'll understand.
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There is a financial aspect. Just make prenups the norm. There's usually a financial gain by one party in a divorce. Take it away & it doesn't become an such easy option.
 
#749
#749
PimpVol said:
Merry Christmas to my family. I love you all & I hope all is well. God is love. Jesus is the proof. Thanks to all my VN family. You all helped me through this tough time. I am forever grateful. Happy holidays to all.
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Hey Pimp, haven't checked in on the thread in a while. Hang in there. Nothing about tomorrow is dictated by the past. Make it the best day you can for you.

Happy New Year, Bro!

Cue Fleetwood Mac...
 
#750
#750
PKT_VOL said:
? Marriage and divorce are social constructs. One can make the argument that it is social/cultural in nature. If you are exposed to more divorce (messed up family life) you are more likely to divorce yourself. Genetics, not so much.
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Marriage and divorce themselves have nothing to do with genetics, but traits that lead to successful/unsuccessful marriages, i.e. loyalty, trust, fidelity, etc. could be tied to genetics.

Obsessed said:
No. Marriage and divorce are legal constructs

Genetics can and do play the biggest part
Ie: adultery,gambling, to just name a few
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