Recruiting Forum Football Talk LIX

[Jack5151]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

 

[chargervol]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

Damn brother. Only you know if it is forgivable or if you believe it would never happen again.
The only thing I can tell you, as I'm sure many on here could, is time is key wither way.

If you decide to move on, you will get better., Just takes time. Sorry for you going through this.

 

[bignewt]

happy Father's Day to all the VN dads out there. hope you have a good one. Newt, you just have a regular day.

Thanks! Spending it with my 82 year old father today so its still a little special.

 

[OrangeShade]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

Very sorry to hear this. Stay strong. Follow your own heart. Prayers for comfort, peace, and understanding.

 

[JCLawyerVol]

Happy Father's Day everyone.

 

[Bassmaster_Vol]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

Buddy, I am so sorry. My prayers are with you man. This is an awful situation for sure.

 

[Tri-CitiesVol]

Get even.

 

[GrudenVol5th]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

Leave her immediately. There are way better women out there and I know it’s scary to think about. But this to will pass.

I’ve been through 2 of them...and I’m better/stronger than ever

 

[butchna]

Lot of unknowns to determine before helpful advice can be dispensed. First, how did you find out? Did she tell you? If so, there’s something redeemable. Second, how long did the affair last and/or how many are we discussing? Only you know what your trust limit is and how worthy she is of it. A one time discretion is a game ender for some but not for others. How much could you forgive? There is no forgetting. My wife listened to me read your post and weighed in...she wants me to assure you that this isn’t out of butchna’s head. :hi:

 

[MockingVol]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

Does she have an attractive sister or cousin with loose morals? That would be a good way to get even.

I’m sorry though, I can’t even imagine. Take care of yourself first and foremost.

 

[Outofmyvolcanmind]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

How many children?

 

[StoVol]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

I’d be out brother, she’d never respect u otherwise

 

[ATC_VOL]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

Sorry. Prayers for you brother.

 

[Ron Swanson]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

Sounds like you got a get out of jail free card my friend! Jk, kinda 😆

Each situation is different but I’d be out. Good luck to you, sorry for the crappy Father’s Day.

 

[Go Fight Win]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

Will be hard... but keep a straight head

 

[jakez4ut]

Thanks! Spending it with my 82 year old father today so its still a little special.

NICE! Good for you, and him. Enjoy!!

 

[jakez4ut]

Will be hard... but keep a straight head

This.

 

[5FingerVolPunch]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now brother. To me this is unforgivable because it is the ultimate betrayal. I would never be able to look at my wife the same again and it would always be in the back of my head that she would do it again. If you truly love someone you couldn’t possibly do this to them. Just my opinion of course. You’ll get through it though. Sounds like you have beautiful children to spend the day with at least. Try to make the best of it.

 

[tomq_123]

Happy Father’s Day VolNation. However, a whole day to do as we please and no college football to watch. It’s tragic.

 

[tomq_123]

It’s amazing how much easier the course is already today.

The pin placements are all different from their planned Sunday location.

Sad. I wanted to see these pampered, grown men cus, cry and break golf clubs. Like the rest of normal people do.

 

[UTMVol76]

Mock with the silver lining approach

 

[HoleInTheRoof]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

What’s the backstory? How did you find out? Any relevance to Father’s Day with regards to finding out or is that just a coincidence?

Sorry you’re going through that. Time for a serious heart to heart. Don’t be a door mat.

 

[RikidyBones]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

I believe you will be ok in time. follow your heart and let the Lord guide you.

 

[RikidyBones]

Does she have an attractive sister or cousin with loose morals? That would be a good way to get even.

I’m sorry though, I can’t even imagine. Take care of yourself first and foremost.

sounds like mock has done this before.

 

[CO Vol]

Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.

If you have kids, shield as much as you can from them. Get counseling if both of you feel there is hope for a future together.
Good luck to you, and remember, time heals all things and better days are ahead. Keep your head up!