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TNVols91 said:
Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.
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I'll pray for you, and your family. Ask God for guidance. My wife and I both committed similar sins before we found Jesus, it can be overcame but only if it's meant to be. Pray about it, and do whatever the Lord lays on your heart.
 
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TNVols91 said:
Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.
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This is tough man. Every situation is different I guess, but I'd say leave her high and dry personally.
 
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TNVols91 said:
Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.
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Lots of good advice here from these guys. The only thing I would add is that YOU need to set the rules for any reconciliation. She betrayed the trust and must earn it back. YOU set the parameters for a second chance. If she's not willing to adhere to your conditions, she's not worth it, will do it again. You need to walk away.
 
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TNVols91 said:
Happy fathers day to me.. woke up this morning and found out my wife of 12 years cheated on me. I'm sorry I know this isn't the place for this but I just have to vent anonymously. I feel like my world is caving and I dont know what to do. I know I should leave her but I cant think of her not in my life. I'm a grown man who is scared of what may come from this.
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I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you. I can't imagine what you are going through. My only advice would be to seek out professional help (marriage therapist, etc...). You are understandably in pain and angry and getting help sort out all these things and more. Regardless of if you end up staying with your wife or not, you need to sort out your needs.
 
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Catbone said:
I'm Daddy but I have no children.
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This US Open looks like it may have a historic finish. USGA did a great job setting up low scores for the final round after the he!! they put 'em thru the 1st 3 days. This is some good sh!t and TV
 
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No Spieth, Thomas, or Fowler? No problem. American alpha males Koepka, DJ and Captain American will take it over from here.
 
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butchna said:
Lot of unknowns to determine before helpful advice can be dispensed. First, how did you find out? Did she tell you? If so, there’s something redeemable. Second, how long did the affair last and/or how many are we discussing? Only you know what your trust limit is and how worthy she is of it. A one time discretion is a game ender for some but not for others. How much could you forgive? There is no forgetting. My wife listened to me read your post and weighed in...she wants me to assure you that this isn’t out of butchna’s head. :hi:
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Agree. Tough to give advice without all details. If kids are involved it's tough. If she was of clear mind it makes it harder to see it working out because that means there are some issues there. Trust factor may never fully be there again. If it was a 1 time things were getting old and she slipped up makes it easier to come back from in long run. If she kept going then no prob best to move on.

If her mind was altered by serious drugs etc then there is always the potential of becoming clean and being right again.

At the end of the day, the Lord puts us in these situations for reasons that we do not see always see upfront but we see in the future. Some couples become stronger together when they realize there were issues being ignored. Some move on and find there is someone else in this world for them. Either way don't stop believing. Pray for strength and answers. He will guide you to the right decisions for your family
 
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