I know the Castellini family and most of the minority owners, and, to be honest, I struggle with the sentiment. However, it can't be overlooked just how bad the organization is and has been and you can really only point the finger where results point you to go to.
You are right in the equivalency I believe. I do believe that both "want" what is best. Now, the "want" between these 2 is where the problem lies, these are smart and successful people, and the fault is being able to be the money and management on a macro level, whilst being able to step back and allow the people who know more to do the work that is needed on the micro level to become successful. Their "want" to be good and successful and profitable ultimately yields too much hands on when they need to take a step back.
There is too much involvement between the ownership of the sports franchises and daily decisions that need to be "signed off" by them, and the inability to step back mainly because of ego is the issue. But, when you fork over hundred's of millions or billions of your own money I can see the want to be involved, but, you also must be smart enough to allow people who are better in the arena do their work.
Now, in terms of the Haslam's and their involvement at UT, they need to back off and donate, or don't, but, they need to be silent and keep their fingers out of the pie.