As much as I love Vitello, I think it's fair to say that he -- or, rather, his player management style -- is partly to blame for what happened tonight.
Tony is on record saying he gives the guys a lot of freedom to express themselves ... that he knows they can get a little too emotional and jacked up because they are so competitive. Vitello appears to not want to risk taking away from their intensity by asking them to tone it down a bit.
I get that -- to a point. These are competitive young men who've grown a culture of winning through unbridled intensity and competitive drive. But, in hindsight, perhaps it might have been a good a idea if someone had said, "Guys, I want you all to stay fired up like you have been all year. But, let's keep in mind that we are coming down the stretch now, and the last thing any of us -- players or coaches -- need to do is risk hurting our team by ticking off the umpires. Do NOTHING that can hurt your team, and that means not interacting with umps or opposing players. They will be HOPING you screw up. Don't give them a reason to punish you."
The raw emotion was fun to watch all season, but today was the tipping point. Tony needs to do what he needs to do, IMO.