Tiffany's Thread (updates and prayers, and a place where she can smack Joe in public when he needs it :)

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joevol33 said:
Oncologist hasn't been there yet today, but they did say she's not going home. Her breathing has gotten worse, and she's having a fib problems now. Think I mentioned last night, but kinda worried she's not going to be coming home at all. I'm gonna take Tiffany down there, and her sister bring her home tonight.
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I hate cancer so much. Prayers for all of you Joe🙏🏻
 
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joevol33 said:
Oncologist hasn't been there yet today, but they did say she's not going home. Her breathing has gotten worse, and she's having a fib problems now. Think I mentioned last night, but kinda worried she's not going to be coming home at all. I'm gonna take Tiffany down there, and her sister bring her home tonight.
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I’m so sorry. Praying for all y’all.
 
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joevol33 said:
Tiffany sent me a video of her, her whole stomach is sucking in and out hard trying to catch a good breath. It's sad seeing that.
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Oh, that’s brutal. My sister-in-law died of metastatic lung cancer, and until she went into hospice, that was her life.

Just information from my own lived experience, and if you have a voice in the discussion and decision-making: morphine is good in this situation. It eases the terror, and if eases the pain of trying to breathe. And hospice is good: let her mind and her soul deal with moving on to the Great Tomorrow.

Again, just my experience. God’s comforting mercy upon all of you.
 
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It's just mind boggling how fast this is all happening. I mean IDK, they might do something and her live a while, but it's not looking good. I mean in just a few weeks went from a worse cough and limping, to can't walk or breathe. I said before, but this is as close to cancer as I've been. Her grandma had it, and eventually passed away, but it went on for years. I told Tiffany her, and the girls gotta start getting checked since it apparently runs in her family.
 
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If it’s truly accelerating out of control, the family can ask to keep her on life support (with oxygen and morphine, for example), until your oldest can get there. This is very common in end-of-life situations and can be so very helpful to out-of-town family. Mainly, support your MIL in a peaceful way.

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
 
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joevol33 said:
It's just mind boggling how fast this is all happening. I mean IDK, they might do something and her live a while, but it's not looking good. I mean in just a few weeks went from a worse cough and limping, to can't walk or breathe. I said before, but this is as close to cancer as I've been. Her grandma had it, and eventually passed away, but it went on for years. I told Tiffany her, and the girls gotta start getting checked since it apparently runs in her family.
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My mom had an appt on Jan 19th, and found out there was nothing else to try. She's was gone within two weeks. She had fought for six years, and it was over in two weeks.

She ended up in the hospital, and all she wanted was to go home. And that's what happened, with hospice.

We, my brother and sister, were trying to come up with a schedule of staying with her, mostly to help my stepdad. My brother kind of said we didn't know how long it would be and we didn't need to plan so far out. That was so hard to hear, but he was right.

The next thing we dealt with, after she was home, was whether or not to get her to a place that could take better care of her. Turns out there wasn't time for that.

I am feeling everything with Tiff. Joe, I am so sorry. But... the peace that passes understanding, that's real.

I love y'all.
 
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vollygirl said:
My mom had an appt on Jan 19th, and found out there was nothing else to try. She's was gone within two weeks. She had fought for six years, and it was over in two weeks.

She ended up in the hospital, and all she wanted was to go home. And that's what happened, with hospice.

We, my brother and sister, were trying to come up with a schedule of staying with her, mostly to help my stepdad. My brother kind of said we didn't know how long it would be and we didn't need to plan so far out. That was so hard to hear, but he was right.

The next thing we dealt with, after she was home, was whether or not to get her to a place that could take better care of her. Turns out there wasn't time for that.

I am feeling everything with Tiff. Joe, I am so sorry. But... the peace that passes understanding, that's real.

I love y'all.
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It hurts my heart for her, and all of them.
 
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VolNExile said:
If it’s truly accelerating out of control, the family can ask to keep her on life support (with oxygen and morphine, for example), until your oldest can get there. This is very common in end-of-life situations and can be so very helpful to out-of-town family. Mainly, support your MIL in a peaceful way.

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Right now she's in her right mind, and I'm wondering if they're going to end up going to life support because of her breathing. She's very aware, but there's a huge tumor on her brain stem according to the PET scan. Makes me wonder how long until it effects her mind. It might not, IDK. It's practically everywhere in her body.
 
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vollygirl said:
My mom had an appt on Jan 19th, and found out there was nothing else to try. She's was gone within two weeks. She had fought for six years, and it was over in two weeks.

She ended up in the hospital, and all she wanted was to go home. And that's what happened, with hospice.

We, my brother and sister, were trying to come up with a schedule of staying with her, mostly to help my stepdad. My brother kind of said we didn't know how long it would be and we didn't need to plan so far out. That was so hard to hear, but he was right.

The next thing we dealt with, after she was home, was whether or not to get her to a place that could take better care of her. Turns out there wasn't time for that.

I am feeling everything with Tiff. Joe, I am so sorry. But... the peace that passes understanding, that's real.

I love y'all.
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I know that they have life insurance, but that's as far as they've thought about it. Her dad was still hoping it's all wrong and infection. Tiffany said they were about to have the consult a few minutes ago. She's not answering right now, so I'm assuming they're in the middle of that.
 
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joevol33 said:
I know that they have life insurance, but that's as far as they've thought about it. Her dad was still hoping it's all wrong and infection. Tiffany said they were about to have the consult a few minutes ago. She's not answering right now, so I'm assuming they're in the middle of that.
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This is going to be so hard on Tiffany’s dad/ your father-in-law. He’s probably going to be hit with self-imposed “I shoulda/ why didnta” endless second-guessing. He’s going to need a lot of support and just listening.

In the end, we’re all humans, and we’re all going to have caution, and doubt, and full-out fear of trying to speak up and make our loved ones do something, like go to the doctor, that they may not want to do.

In even the best scenario, we just muddle through the best we can, and maybe we don’t say or do something in hindsight that we maybe “should” have done, but there were reasons for not doing them!! Mainly, we just love them, and love on them, and help them remember the good times, the special times, the things that made our lives unique to us and wonderful.

Realistically, we’re all going to die one day, and very rarely are we going to know exactly when and how. Maybe something to keep in mind, on the back burner set on low.
 
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My mom and aunt came down, we're about to go down to the hospital. Her parents know now, how bad it is. She called me crying, said her dad told them they might as well shoot him now. This is going to be hard on him, grief can be a dangerous thing. I'm worried about when she does pass, and he's alone.
 
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joevol33 said:
My mom and aunt came down, we're about to go down to the hospital. Her parents know now, how bad it is. She called me crying, said her dad told them they might as well shoot him now. This is going to be hard on him, grief can be a dangerous thing. I'm worried about when she does pass, and he's alone.
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I honestly wish I had some words of wisdom and comfort for this situation. Praying for all y'all.
 
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joevol33 said:
My mom and aunt came down, we're about to go down to the hospital. Her parents know now, how bad it is. She called me crying, said her dad told them they might as well shoot him now. This is going to be hard on him, grief can be a dangerous thing. I'm worried about when she does pass, and he's alone.
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I hate y'all are going through this.
 
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joevol33 said:
My mom and aunt came down, we're about to go down to the hospital. Her parents know now, how bad it is. She called me crying, said her dad told them they might as well shoot him now. This is going to be hard on him, grief can be a dangerous thing. I'm worried about when she does pass, and he's alone.
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You might want to tell the psych Dr at that hospital. about his comment They take those seriously
 
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Her mom has been about the same today. She went in a fib again last night, oxygen is around 90-91 while laying down and on oxygen. It drops to 81-82 if she raises up, or tries to get up. I'm thinking she's gonna end up having a heart attack in the middle of the night at some point maybe not, idk.
 
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