Tiffany's Thread (updates and prayers, and a place where she can smack Joe in public when he needs it :)

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VolNExile said:
Ambien (zolpidem) is a sleep aid. It has numerous side effects, including mood and mental effects (depression, hopelessness, confusion, memory issues).

And so your mother-in-law, WHO IS THE PERSON TO WHOM EVERYONE SHOULD BE MOST LISTENING, wanted to be made DNR, and her wishes were overruled?

God, I'm so sorry, and so angry.

It has been mentioned above, but honest to God, EVERYONE who is reading this thread should get their wishes in writing and witnessed. One simple (and very centered on you, not all everyone else around you) is this, and it doesn't require an attorney:

Home · Five Wishes

www.fivewishes.org

Even if you (not Joe, everyone) don't want to formalize it now (but you should, because chit happens), it is a way to think through how you would want to be treated in serious medical events - and yes, "do everything you can" is a perfectly valid option, and it's also an opportunity to discuss/ think out loud Stuff with your family, your pastor, your friends, your doctor - anyone who might be a supportive, reflective listener.

Another link, this one wiki instead of the organization's home page: Five Wishes - Wikipedia

For those hesitant to click the links, because yes, it is uncomfortable to think about this, here's the wiki summary of the Five Wishes:

Wishes 1 and 2 are both legal documents. Once signed, they meet the legal requirements for an advance directive in the states listed below. Wishes 3, 4, and 5 are unique to Five Wishes, in that they address matters of comfort care, spirituality, forgiveness, and final wishes.
  • Wish 1: "The Person I Want to Make Care Decisions for Me When I Can't" – This section is an assignment of a health care agent (also called proxy, surrogate, representative, or health care power of attorney). This person makes medical decisions on a person's behalf if they are unable to speak for themselves.
  • Wish 2: "The Kind of Medical Treatment I Want or Don't Want" – This section is a living will—a definition of what life support treatment means to a person, and when they would and would not want it.
  • Wish 3: "How Comfortable I Want to Be" – This section addresses matters of comfort care—what type of pain management a person would like, personal grooming and bathing instructions, and whether they would like to know about options for hospice care, among others.
  • Wish 4: "How I Want People to Treat Me" – This section speaks to personal matters, such as whether one would like to be at home and whether a person would like someone to pray at their bedside.
  • Wish 5: "What I Want My Loved Ones to Know" – This section deals with matters of forgiveness, how a person wishes to be remembered, and final wishes regarding funeral or memorial plans.
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very well said
 
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joevol33 said:
Back on topic for a moment. Tiffany's Dr was just pretty blunt with us, about her condition. She'd hoped for the California thing for help, but oh well. She told us that she's on the verge of this antibiotic not working, and she's going to be in trouble when it doesn't. Also, her becoming septic after being off of it for a couple of weeks is a problem, and she's going to have to find help, or it's going to get the best of her. She recommended a specific type of Dr, so while she was getting labs, I Google here, and Vanderbilt. I've been trying to get her to reach out to vandy, so she called. Been on the phone from the Dr to the restaurant, and they said they'd see her, and see if they can help, because they do deal with her situation, the stoma and do reconstruction stuff. They just need a referral, and her Dr is calling them. So, maybe we'll be going to Vanderbilt, and hopefully we can find help.
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All my love Joe.
 
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joevol33 said:
Back on topic for a moment. Tiffany's Dr was just pretty blunt with us, about her condition. She'd hoped for the California thing for help, but oh well. She told us that she's on the verge of this antibiotic not working, and she's going to be in trouble when it doesn't. Also, her becoming septic after being off of it for a couple of weeks is a problem, and she's going to have to find help, or it's going to get the best of her. She recommended a specific type of Dr, so while she was getting labs, I Google here, and Vanderbilt. I've been trying to get her to reach out to vandy, so she called. Been on the phone from the Dr to the restaurant, and they said they'd see her, and see if they can help, because they do deal with her situation, the stoma and do reconstruction stuff. They just need a referral, and her Dr is calling them. So, maybe we'll be going to Vanderbilt, and hopefully we can find help.
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Praying that there’s an immediate solution for Tiffany! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
 
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GordonC said:
This is exactly where I am Exie. You hit the bullseye on this tonight. Sorry, it's Tiff's thread.
This is where I am with my wife.
I could have made the decision on what to do, being the spouse.
However, she is close to one of her brothers. And we have two children. That is their mother.
The past four days have been the most difficult days I've ever faced. We know the situation is dire.
But we know that she's a fighter. She was "supposed to die" in 2013. We went through grief counseling then.
On Monday, I was given three options, none of which end well.
I sat down with the girls, called the brother in Somerset and put the call on speaker, and we talked about this for hours on Monday night.
We all think that is what she would have wanted to do, and she's not capable of making that decision.
It was unanimous.
Difficult days are coming, but we are all on the same page.
sorry for the rant
been surreal the past week
seriously surreal
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Praying 🙏
 
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joevol33 said:
Back on topic for a moment. Tiffany's Dr was just pretty blunt with us, about her condition. She'd hoped for the California thing for help, but oh well. She told us that she's on the verge of this antibiotic not working, and she's going to be in trouble when it doesn't. Also, her becoming septic after being off of it for a couple of weeks is a problem, and she's going to have to find help, or it's going to get the best of her. She recommended a specific type of Dr, so while she was getting labs, I Google here, and Vanderbilt. I've been trying to get her to reach out to vandy, so she called. Been on the phone from the Dr to the restaurant, and they said they'd see her, and see if they can help, because they do deal with her situation, the stoma and do reconstruction stuff. They just need a referral, and her Dr is calling them. So, maybe we'll be going to Vanderbilt, and hopefully we can find help.
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Vanderbilt saved my life almost 7 years ago now. It'll be 7 in June. I can't recommend them enough. All these years later and they still handle most of my care. They even set me up with a grant that covers most of my meds with little to no cost for me. Which is good because I take a lot of medicine. Point being, they have a lot of resources you can take advantage of to help out. I hope they can help Tiffany and find a way to restore her to health. In my prayers.
 
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Weezer said:
Vanderbilt saved my life almost 7 years ago now. It'll be 7 in June. I can't recommend them enough. All these years later and they still handle most of my care. They even set me up with a grant that covers most of my meds with little to no cost for me. Which is good because I take a lot of medicine. Point being, they have a lot of resources you can take advantage of to help out. I hope they can help Tiffany and find a way to restore her to health. In my prayers.
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We have no experience with them, but I did her about you, and how they helped you
 
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joevol33 said:
We have no experience with them, but I did her about you, and how they helped you
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Obviously, she'll be dealing with a different set of doctors than myself, different areas of expertise, but every doctor I've encountered there has given me outstanding care. I hope and pray the same is true for her.
 
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The Florida sister was coming back today, had told her dad she'd be here this afternoon. May be a coincidence, but last night I made a post on Facebook about the texts Tiffany got, and tagged Tiffany in it. I don't usually post anything personal like that, politics, etc, but just figured I'd do some fishing. Ironically, her sister called this morning and said something came up, she couldn't come right now. Like I said, may be a coincidence, but maybe not.
 
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joevol33 said:
The Florida sister was coming back today, had told her dad she'd be here this afternoon. May be a coincidence, but last night I made a post on Facebook about the texts Tiffany got, and tagged Tiffany in it. I don't usually post anything personal like that, politics, etc, but just figured I'd do some fishing. Ironically, her sister called this morning and said something came up, she couldn't come right now. Like I said, may be a coincidence, but maybe not.
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Gibbs Rule #39: There is no such thing as a coincidence.
 
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Please pray for my Stepmother and Dad because my Stepmother has so many different health problems that she has been dealing with for a long time and sometimes they all start snowballing. My Dad is 88 and I know that he is worried and tired and she will be going to another hospital tomorrow, she was in the hospital today and my Dad got upset with her care and brought her home and she will go to UT tomorrow. Thank you all for being prayer warrior's.
 
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Vjcvette said:
Please pray for my Stepmother and Dad because my Stepmother has so many different health problems that she has been dealing with for a long time and sometimes they all start snowballing. My Dad is 88 and I know that he is worried and tired and she will be going to another hospital tomorrow, she was in the hospital today and my Dad got upset with her care and brought her home and she will go to UT tomorrow. Thank you all for being prayer warrior's.
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We'll be praying
 
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Vjcvette said:
Please pray for my Stepmother and Dad because my Stepmother has so many different health problems that she has been dealing with for a long time and sometimes they all start snowballing. My Dad is 88 and I know that he is worried and tired and she will be going to another hospital tomorrow, she was in the hospital today and my Dad got upset with her care and brought her home and she will go to UT tomorrow. Thank you all for being prayer warrior's.
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Prayers that she can get this all sorted out at UT (or anywhere else, for that matter), and prayers that your dad can get a bit of a break, catch up on sleep, and be there for your step-mom! 🙏🙏🙏
 
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Vjcvette said:
Please pray for my Stepmother and Dad because my Stepmother has so many different health problems that she has been dealing with for a long time and sometimes they all start snowballing. My Dad is 88 and I know that he is worried and tired and she will be going to another hospital tomorrow, she was in the hospital today and my Dad got upset with her care and brought her home and she will go to UT tomorrow. Thank you all for being prayer warrior's.
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🙏🙏🙏🙏
 
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Vjcvette said:
Please pray for my Stepmother and Dad because my Stepmother has so many different health problems that she has been dealing with for a long time and sometimes they all start snowballing. My Dad is 88 and I know that he is worried and tired and she will be going to another hospital tomorrow, she was in the hospital today and my Dad got upset with her care and brought her home and she will go to UT tomorrow. Thank you all for being prayer warrior's.
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Prayers up!
 
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