The problem is that the John Kirbys, Jake Sullivans, Joe Bidens, Merkels, Scholzs and such of the west, refuse to accept the reality that Putin and his inner circle, do not have the same considerations or concerns as they do. They aren't beholden to public opinion polls, they don't have to worry about other branches of government making inquiries into their actions, and they don't care about human life enough to worry about how many of their own people they lose to attain their goals.
Ultimately, countries like Russia and China cannot be dealt with, the same way that democracies deal with each other. To Putin, if you don't meet his force with a greater force, you are weaker, and you will capitulate as long as he maintains his use of force, which he will continue to do as long as believes that in the end you will capitulate. If we'd cut Russia off when it invaded Georgia in 2008, then Ukraine would not be in this situation, and the west wouldn't be wringing it's hands nonstop for 3 years trying to figure out what is or isn't an "escalation" while Russia intentionally bombs hospitals in two different countries on a regular basis.
Expatriate political dissident and chess icon discusses how he feels about the Russian President
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