Flattery will get you everywhere, my friend.
Personally, I can make a very strong and convincing case that Gruden is the next HC. In fact, of my peer-group of alumni, I have convinced more than one that this Gruden thing can be a reality.
If I was a betting man, and I am not, I would put the odds slightly against us getting Gruden. Not because I think there isn't any interest, not because I think that the sides aren't talking, but because there are an infinite number of things that could go wrong between here and there. In any high level negotiation, the devil is in the details and I think that by any way we could review the few facts, both sides are probably wading through those little devils.
Think about going to buy a car or a house or any big ticket item. If you go in with the mindset that you have to have this one, you get screwed. The person who can walk away from the negotiation will always get the best deal. Don't believe me? See: Dooley and a 5 million buy out.
We are probably at the point where both sides have reached the point of having to compromise key points. It is now going to come down to who wants it more, meaning who is willing to give more than what they wanted.