Not all accidents are equal. He didn't hunt her down and kill her on purpose, but he chose to get drunk, he chose to get behind the wheel of a car while drunk, and he chose to drive extremely recklessly while drunk. Bad choice after bad choice after bad choice. And in the end, he most likely won't receive a punishment equal to the crime. Chances are, even if he faces say, a 20 year sentence, he'll be out to still enjoy a large portion of his life. Yet the victim will still be dead and her family left to grieve.
Everyone has their own levels of forgiveness. I could certainly understand if the family of the victim never forgives Ruggs. Intentional or not, the actions that led to her death were certainly intentional, and his carelessness has robbed them of something precious that can never be replaced. Put in that situation, my immediate reaction probably would be wanting the guy dead. I can only hope I would eventually reach a peace that would allow me to forgive, but I can't guarantee I would. Put yourself in the position of losing a child, or a spouse, or a parent, or anyone you hold dear because someone decided to be stupid. How deeply hurt, how unimaginably angry would you be?
