no its not.
socialism is taking from anyone and giving to another. doesn't matter if the person losing money gains from it or not.
the government is ALL socialism. the distinction you are making is "I like this socialism so I am not going to call it socialism."
roads are socialized transportation.
military is socialized defense.
social security is socialized retirement.
medicare/medicaid is socialized health care
schools are socialized education.
doesn't matter if you like it, benefit from it, or think the government should be doing it, its still socialism.
and to your point about getting your money back, if you pay taxes you don't get your money/value back. something like 40% to 60% of Americans don't pay federal income taxes. not every American pays a gas tax, not every American pays property tax, sales tax, whatever.